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AnoniemGuest ·
Hi everyone.
I found out a few days ago that I'm already 5 or 6 weeks pregnant. I hadn't been feeling well for a while, so I took a test. Turns out that was the logical explanation for why I felt so off.
I'm 20 years old. I don't have a high school diploma and I'm currently unemployed. I have work experience and can keep that up. The reason I'm unemployed right now is due to a move. The baby's dad fully supports my choice to keep the baby. I can't bring myself to have an abortion; I'd never forgive myself for that. The dad has a well-paid full-time job and does a lot of overtime, which is paid extra. He earns enough to rent a house/apartment (so we're moving in together now) and to cover everything. The baby, us, rent/electricity/internet, car, insurance, of course the birth and all the baby stuff etc. Since we're moving in together (we're busy sorting everything out right now), I'll be looking for work in the area. I really hope that works out because I'm pregnant and I have no idea if employers will want to hire me now. If that doesn't work out, I'll approach the municipality for a suitable solution. All in all, I don't want him to bear all the costs alone. I also want to be able to contribute. We're already busy saving up anyway. Something that's always handy.
But now comes the part I'm most dreading: telling our families. I know this is necessary at some point, but how do you actually say something like that? I'm not afraid of their reaction because I know we can handle this together, so what others say doesn't bother me much. Their disapproval will be proven wrong anyway. But still, how do you start talking about something like this? How do you say it?
Greetings,
Anonymous.
I found out a few days ago that I'm already 5 or 6 weeks pregnant. I hadn't been feeling well for a while, so I took a test. Turns out that was the logical explanation for why I felt so off.
I'm 20 years old. I don't have a high school diploma and I'm currently unemployed. I have work experience and can keep that up. The reason I'm unemployed right now is due to a move. The baby's dad fully supports my choice to keep the baby. I can't bring myself to have an abortion; I'd never forgive myself for that. The dad has a well-paid full-time job and does a lot of overtime, which is paid extra. He earns enough to rent a house/apartment (so we're moving in together now) and to cover everything. The baby, us, rent/electricity/internet, car, insurance, of course the birth and all the baby stuff etc. Since we're moving in together (we're busy sorting everything out right now), I'll be looking for work in the area. I really hope that works out because I'm pregnant and I have no idea if employers will want to hire me now. If that doesn't work out, I'll approach the municipality for a suitable solution. All in all, I don't want him to bear all the costs alone. I also want to be able to contribute. We're already busy saving up anyway. Something that's always handy.
But now comes the part I'm most dreading: telling our families. I know this is necessary at some point, but how do you actually say something like that? I'm not afraid of their reaction because I know we can handle this together, so what others say doesn't bother me much. Their disapproval will be proven wrong anyway. But still, how do you start talking about something like this? How do you say it?
Greetings,
Anonymous.
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Anonymous Guest #2
When I got pregnant, I was still living with my parents and my partner. I was still in school, but in my final year (higher professional education). Now I’ve graduated and my partner has bought a house. I decided not to apply for jobs anymore since I was already 6 months pregnant when I finished school. I figured no one would hire me anyway, so I saved myself the hassle. In about a month, we’ll be expecting our little one, and things are looking good now.
We surprised my parents and his parents back then. They were really happy about it. And if they’re not, well, it’s your life. They’ll eventually come around.
So I’d say come up with something nice and share the news that way. It’s more fun than just telling them outright. Especially with the holidays coming up, you can think of all sorts of ways to surprise them. Good luck
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Anonymous Guest #3
I’d wait until the first-trimester scan, then you’ll have something nice to show and it’ll feel more real.
By the way, I could never wait for that myself—I loved being pregnant so much that I was practically shouting it from the rooftops when I got the positive test.
From what you’re saying, you’re happy with your partner, so I don’t see any reason why your parents or his parents shouldn’t be happy about it. And don’t stress too much about work—if you can’t find a job right now, you can always work later. Enjoy being pregnant and, later on, enjoy your little one. Before you know it, they’ll be grown up.
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