Fight

That's really tough that you're experiencing your pregnancy like this. It should be a nice time. Did he come along to the ultrasounds? I can totally relate to men not really getting into it; it only becomes real for them once the baby is actually here, otherwise they're just kind of hanging around doing nothing. Once he can feel the little one kicking, it'll probably change. But there are plenty of things he can do so you feel supported and he feels useful. He could help pick out furniture for the nursery, choose the car seat, stroller, paint the baby's room, etc. Going to the ultrasounds, and definitely helping more with the heavy household chores as you get bigger. As for the arguments due to hormones, you might be more easily irritated and react a bit unreasonably. I definitely struggled with that myself. Try to stay calm and talk to your partner, and express what you expect from him, but try to be reasonable about it. Also ask him what he thinks he can do to prepare for the baby's arrival. Focus on the things he does well in your eyes too; sometimes a hormonal woman gets fixated on all the flaws instead of the good stuff.

A man only becomes a dad when the baby is here... you have the hormones and the nesting instinct, but he doesn't... try not to hold it against him and do as much as you can with girlfriends or other ladies close to you. Try to let it go, let him in on it, and try to enjoy it! It'll all work out... I speak from experience that pushing it backfires And hubby has been a top dad for 4 years now, and baby number 2 is on the way.. hang in there!

Hi,
that’s definitely relatable. I gave birth eight weeks ago, and my hormones haven’t left my body yet. Arguments can also continue after the birth. On one hand, there’s the huge amount of hormones rushing through your body. And on the other hand, your husband or partner who usually means well but has no idea what’s going on inside you, doesn’t see what needs to be done, and reacts wrongly to things...
My husband always went to the ultrasounds with me and was super happy and involved in everything. But a man doesn’t go through the same physical changes and doesn’t have that maternal instinct. Our arguments also got really intense, and I sometimes felt very alone and abandoned by my husband. The arguments were mostly about preparing the baby’s room and other renovations we were still working on, but he didn’t continue with them, while I was naturally getting closer to the due date. Because of the hormones, you’re also shorter-fused and sometimes less reasonable, although you don’t feel or see that at the moment. Definitely try not to bottle it up, but keep talking to your partner about what’s bothering you and why you feel that way, so it doesn’t get out of hand. Ultimately, the idea is that on the day itself, you can stand together as a strong couple ;-).
In the hospital, they advised that the partner come to the breastfeeding lessons because he’ll be the one most present with you and the baby after the birth. And it’s good that he also knows how to feed your baby and how to handle things like warming up, breast milk, sterilizing bottles, etc. I had to drag him there, and there were some arguments and tears about it. Be sure that it’s normal for there to be more arguments due to hormones and stress. That’s a downer about being pregnant, and you’re never warned about it beforehand, but if there’s enough love on both sides (and if you’re engaged, that’s probably the case), it’ll work out :-).