Only breastfeeding gives comfort

Hey girl,

I don't have real tips, but I totally relate. I gave my kids breast milk for 2 years, so yes, I know all about comforting them at night with the breast. When I really wanted to wean, I gave my oldest an iPad as a distraction (which felt really bad). In the end, I slept next to him for a week so he'd realize I was there even without the breast, and I stayed by his side while letting him cry now and then.

It's really hard, but I'd say nothing is wrong. You're doing your best, so if it doesn't work right away, or if you can't stand the crying and end up giving the breast, that's fine too. And oh, if this is really about weaning during the day, I'd start by weaning all the other feeding moments first since they're easier to distract from than nighttime.

Love,

I had that with my son too; he only used it to fall asleep until he was about 11 months old. Then he suddenly refused and didn't want to breastfeed anymore, which was painful for me because I enjoyed those cuddle moments with him. Now, I gave birth in early November and am happy that breastfeeding is going well again, so I can enjoy it with him.

So relatable, I'm in the same situation with a 2-year-old son who still drinks at night.
Weaning during the day was easy. At the times he wanted to drink, I told him mama's milk was gone. And he understood. He didn't like it, but because I was clear about it and he understands that "gone" means really gone, he quickly accepted it.
I'd also like some advice for the night, because then he's often half-asleep and starts screaming without the breast, and nothing seems to make sense to him except mama's breast or indeed the iPad... but well, once awake he has a hard time falling back asleep, so for us, weaning at night by replacing feeding with the iPad is probably not wise (at least not for a good night's sleep for papa and mama).
Maybe we should just stop all breastfeeding moments to make it clear that it's now completely gone... but I don't know if I'm ready for that yet...