Parenting
Extreme loneliness / abandonment anxiety
CindyGuest ·
Dear moms,
I have twins who will turn two in September. Since they were five months old, they’ve started to become clingy. This is still the case to this day. It’s so intense that we can hardly go anywhere! If we’re at a birthday or something, they hold on to us like glue. After a while, they won’t let go either, but start crying until we’re back home. My social life is becoming so small because of this, and even a trip to my parents’ place is a drama. I’m starting to lose hope that things will ever get better. It’s really tough like this.. And it’s also a shame that our kids are known as mega cryers everywhere. I’d so love for them to play nicely or just do their own thing when we’re out. Does anyone relate to this? If so, do you have any tips on how we can put an end to this? Thanks in advance!
I have twins who will turn two in September. Since they were five months old, they’ve started to become clingy. This is still the case to this day. It’s so intense that we can hardly go anywhere! If we’re at a birthday or something, they hold on to us like glue. After a while, they won’t let go either, but start crying until we’re back home. My social life is becoming so small because of this, and even a trip to my parents’ place is a drama. I’m starting to lose hope that things will ever get better. It’s really tough like this.. And it’s also a shame that our kids are known as mega cryers everywhere. I’d so love for them to play nicely or just do their own thing when we’re out. Does anyone relate to this? If so, do you have any tips on how we can put an end to this? Thanks in advance!
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Emmy #2
No experience with it, but I'd ask the pediatrician's office for advice first... -
Anonymous Guest #3
You describe our daughter perfectly. She’s 3 now. Still needs about 4 hours of sleep but loosens up a bit afterwards. They shouldn’t touch or drag her around or whatever. And she’s still a crybaby, but each year I notice a bit of improvement.
Going to the playground every week helped a lot. In the crowd. In winter it’s an indoor playground and in summer outdoors of course. But really, there are lots of kids there. I started thinking this was hell.. After a few weeks she wanted to do something with me nearby. And after 1.5 years I can already sit on a bench (she still needs to be able to see me).
Good luck! I know how suffocating you feel right now but it gradually gets better.. -
Cindy started this #4
@Emmy, they've already been dealing with that because they were inconsolable during the check-ups. I had a social worker here, but it didn't help.
@Anonymous, I really appreciate reading that we're not the only ones! But if your daughter is three now, we still have a long way to go. That thought really doesn't sit well with me.. So done with this situation. So sad! In two weeks, we're going on vacation with my family, 30 people. I'm dreading it. Do things get better for you guys? We all live far apart so they don't really know them yet..
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