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Not liking other people's babies?

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evelien
Do you guys also find that you don’t actually like other people’s babies that much? Especially when they ask if you want to hold them?

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  1. N. Coppola #2

    Well, it's a pretty weird question,

    I've never had any problems with it. I already liked kids before I became a mom and I became an aunt at the age of 10, so I had contact with babies very early on and I found it quite nice.

  2. mandy Guest #3

    No, I don't have any issues with that.
    I actually find it quite nice a lot of the time.
    May I ask why you don't like it?

  3. .. #4

    Sorry, I find this really strange. I've never heard of someone not liking another person's baby at all. I always find it super cute to see!

  4. Anonymous Guest #5

    Are you replying to yourself now? Like there are always numbers after the posts? :s

  5. N. Coppola #6

    Reply to the last anonymous user, strangely enough everyone is anonymous!
    I answered as the 2nd, and my name isn't showing! I don't know why.

  6. Muus86 #7

    I have a friend who also couldn't handle other people's babies until she had one of her own. That got better. But it can definitely happen. Just because society says it's "supposed" to be that way doesn't mean you HAVE to vibe with it. I myself am crazy about babies and just get so happy around them!

  7. Muus86 #8

    I'm actually logged in with my own details, but I'm still referred to as anonymous. Probably because this is the 'confession corner', and confessions are made anonymously after all.

  8. Miepie #9

    It's obviously not a popular answer, but I honestly didn't have much of a thing for other people's babies either, haha. I always thought it was really nice for the dad and mom, but I didn't really feel the need to hold them or anything. Now that I'm a mom myself, I've changed a bit in that regard.. Of course, my own baby is the cutest, haha but I've started to find kids in general much cuter. I'm now also enjoying my friends' kids.
    I find the reactions here a bit over the top. Not everyone is so baby-minded, and there's nothing wrong with that either.

  9. justmary #10

    I also find some of the replies a bit cheesy. "Are you replying to yourself now?" No, confessing is indeed done anonymously... That seems pretty logical, otherwise confession booths would just be desks where you could sit and chat? Besides that, I think it's pretty clear that if you have nothing nice to say, maybe you should keep it to yourself. I myself don't think other people's babies are fantastic either; I find them cute and I'm happy for the parents, but I don't need to hold them either. I also don't really feel like everyone needs to hold my baby. If a baby could choose, they probably wouldn't want that at all, all those strange hands on them

  10. karima #11

    I always find babies cute, both mine and others', but I also believe not everyone should think and feel the same. Hats off to you for daring to stand by your opinion X

  11. Nathasja #12

    I have that too. For me, it really comes from insecurity—I honestly don’t know what to do with this little human I don’t know yet, and I’m afraid they’ll start crying or something, haha. With kids of good friends or my sister, I don’t have that feeling, or it’s less intense—I think those little ones are absolutely amazing.

  12. cathy #13

    I also find other people's babies really sweet and beautiful!! But of course, not everyone feels that way. And why is it that you don't like them?

  13. madelene #14

    I think you'd also rather have your own kids than someone else's, that's kind of the same thing.

  14. kruimel #15

    I love holding other people's babies the most when I have them in my own arms..
    When I hold them, I shut out the whole outside world and it's just the two of us. As soon as I hand them back, that "two-person magic" is gone.
    Other than that, I don't find it all that special.. it has changed a lot since I got pregnant myself though!

  15. Amanda86 #16

    I don't really have much interest in other people's babies.
    I do enjoy babies of friends and family though.
    Some are really cute, but that's about it.

  16. Serena #17

    I don't like other people's kids either. Babies are cute and all, but that's about it.

  17. Anonymous Guest #18

    I have absolutely no interest in babies and other people's children. Very rarely does a little one from someone else talk to me, but it mostly strikes me that most people don't raise their kids properly and then expect others to like that behavior. I don't understand why it's so poorly accepted if someone doesn't like children. Let everyone be themselves!!

    I only like my own children and occasionally another child, so be it.

  18. Anonymous Guest #19

    Then you probably never listened properly????

  19. Edith #20

    Complicated, all those anonymous people
    Anyway, before I became a mom, I had absolutely no interest in babies (not even with my nieces and nephews). I actually found it kind of scary to hold them, so fragile, and had no idea what to do if they cried (other than handing them back to my sister-in-law as quickly as possible).
    Now that I'm a mom myself, I find it much easier, but I don't automatically like all babies right away. Just like with adults, I need to get to know them a bit better first. So I have no problem at all with my friends' babies

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