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Mother during childbirth?

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  1. madelene #41

    My husband prefers not to say how I told him I had to push; he finds that too private.
    I just used the word "push."

  2. kruimel #42

    ^^Joh....

  3. :-) #43

    When asked if the mom should be present at the birth, I say a resounding YES!
    My mom was there both times.
    She massaged my back and eased the contractions away, and she was absolutely amazing! We've already talked about it again, and if we're lucky enough, she'll definitely be there again!
    She has 3 daughters and 2 daughters-in-law, and I'm the only one of whom she was present at the birth of her grandchildren.
    I see it as a richness, I'm crazy about my mom

  4. madelene #44

    Beautiful Ez, the way you describe it. I have such a strong bond with my mother, and I really wanted her here again, along with my husband. Although she finds it very hard to see me suffer, she agreed to be there again, especially for me. It's truly special, Ez, that she was with your children. And I hope your wish comes true for another little one Greetings, Madelene

  5. Liesseling #45

    I wish someone had warned me that it's totally normal to poop when you're giving birth! They should tell expectant mothers about stuff like that. Lol

  6. Irma 1987 #46

    That can happen from pushing.
    But they take that away quickly.
    Believe me, you don’t think about it either, nor does your partner.

  7. Nannie ❤ #47

    Both my mom and dad were there with me.

    My dad gives me a safe and calm feeling and knows exactly when to step in. Of course, he’s always been behind me, and as I know him, he was there with his eyes closed, meditating.

    My mom was nurturing and full of wonder. :-)

  8. madelene #48

    Wow, that's really special, Pien, that your dad was there too. I would feel awkward even if he were just standing behind me. Having him there with his eyes closed doesn't sound like a pleasant idea at all. I wouldn't want my dad to see or hear me like that during labor either. Personally, I find it quite unusual that your dad was there. But I think he would feel super uncomfortable being there too. I'd find that really embarrassing. Again, that's just my personal view. It's nice that you can handle it though. Pien. Greetings, Madelene

  9. Nannie ❤ #49

    I don't think it's a no-brainer choice either, but he was the only man at that time I could blindly trust! A midwife, gynecologist, or whoever knows me less well than he does (and mom), and as I said, he knows when to step in and gives me peace of mind, even if it's just by being there. I had to be carried headfirst to the hospital later while I was giving birth at home, so it wasn't entirely unnecessary.. I didn't have a screaming birth though, haha, at most some grunting and groaning haha.

    Next time, I think my parents should stay in the hallway, at least my dad.

  10. madelene #50

    Oh okay Lien, that’s a relief that you didn’t make much noise during your birth haha
    I understand how you feel about it.
    Having your dad there felt familiar to you. Very nice and clearly explained.
    About your feelings on this and the reasons for doing it that way back then.
    Well, I wish you in advance, if you get pregnant,
    a very pleasant pregnancy and birth.
    And it’s only good pain if it gave you peace and relaxation
    Oh Lien, it should of course be pain at the beginning of my message.
    Greetings, Madelene

  11. Liesseling #51

    Irma, I know it can happen, now then. But when I gave birth to my daughter, I was startled, because no one tells you that beforehand, right?

  12. Irma 1987 #52

    Nope, but there are a few other things they don’t tell you about being pregnant or a brand-new mom

    Nobody else does the parenting for you, and it’s not in a little manual. I always say every parent is good.

    Here, our son is 2.5 and sleeps in his own bed, but he still comes to us every night, for example, when he has sleepless nights.

  13. madelene #53

    That's how it is. And you yourself feel best how to deal with your own child.

  14. madelene #54

    And not every child fits the same parenting style. Each child requires a different approach. Just a quick response to you, Irma:

    Indeed, every parent raises their kids in their own way. My children, for example, don't get punished.

    Might seem incomprehensible to some people, but they don't need punishment to understand things. They're used to me talking things through with them and making agreements calmly.

    That's why there's no standard way; each child is different and needs to be approached differently

  15. DeeDee012 #55

    Here, too, the question of whether my mother can be present at the birth got a resounding yes! She herself doesn't want to this time. She says, "Seeing you suffer so much pain once is enough for me." I'll focus on your daughter instead...

    Now I'd really like to have my sister there extra. I don't know yet what my partner thinks about this. We'll have to talk about it. I was one minute too late for her birth. I walked into the delivery room just as the little one was placed on her chest... but that was already a magical moment.

  16. Liesseling #56

    I don't quite see what parenting has to do with pooping during childbirth.

  17. Nannie ❤ #57

    Same as how pooping has nothing to do with whether your mom is there at the birth or not :-p

    It's just the flow of the conversation.

  18. madelene #58

    Exactly, you get it

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