Overweight and pregnancy

Hi Babbel,

I don't have overweight, but I just wanted to wish you lots of success..

One piece of advice I'd like to give: don't focus too much on it and have intercourse every 2 days, that gives you the best chance of getting pregnant!

With me it worked out at the 5th month, I suddenly stopped thinking about it, focused on something else and from then on we did it every 2 days. My gynecologist had recommended it to me

Hi babbel,

I myself also have excess weight, I'm 1.63 m and weigh 85 kg.
I've given birth myself now, I have a son of 6.5 months.
But my tip is just like above.. every 2 days intercourse.. and enjoy it, don't make it a struggle. I was so focused on it back then, always testing, and in my mind I kept thinking that it only frustrated me more.
I let it go then and had sex every 2 days and was pregnant 2 months later.
Have fun with the chores and I sincerely hope you'll have a positive test soon

Love, Carla

Hi there,

I'm 1.67m tall and weigh 90kg. I stopped the pill, got my period, and then didn't get it again. So for us, it worked on the first try. Even though my husband had a 90% chance of being unable to have kids. So I don't think the extra weight has much to do with it.

Hope it works out quickly for you too!

Love,

Angelique

@ Babbel,

I kind of get the feeling that genetics play a role in getting pregnant (that's just my personal thought). My mom and my sister also got pregnant very quickly.
My mom had a normal weight back then, and my sister was overweight. I'm also quite overweight (BMI > 40), and I actually have to give birth in the hospital because of my high weight.
I got pregnant within 3 months and wasn't really trying very actively. Friends of ours (with normal weight) were trying for a year and were about to see the doctor, until she got pregnant just because she wasn't even thinking about it that month.
I do read that couples on average take 9 months to get pregnant.
But I can totally understand that when you want to get pregnant, you automatically start focusing on it.
I do notice that I have to carry a lot now that I'm pregnant, so it would be handy to lose some weight. You can also request a consultation at our midwife's if you're trying to conceive. And maybe together with the GP and dietitian you could try to start at a lower weight.
I completely understand that this doesn't just happen easily. I'm fully aware that we were very lucky to get pregnant so quickly. And luckily it didn't become a must to lose weight before I could get pregnant.
If you'd have to go through the "medical mill" (IVF etc.), they often expect you to lose weight too. But then I sometimes think: "if losing weight was so easy..." then I would have succeeded myself...
Wishing you lots of strength, and I hope you'll be pregnant soon too.

Hi babbel,

I also have a BMI of almost 35 and already have a healthy four-year-old daughter. This one happened on the second round... For me, being overweight didn't have any negative impact.

We're now trying for a second little one, and this month we're also on round two... I'm curious to see.

I wouldn't worry too much about your weight; there are so many plus-size ladies who get pregnant without any problems.

Just stay relaxed, don't try too hard to focus, and indeed, have a nice little get-together every other day, and it'll sort itself out quickly.

Best, x

Hi Babbel,

I don't think you should look at it so strictly as: "I'm overweight so I'll get pregnant less quickly." It's just about probability, the average. You can still have a lot of luck. I'm also overweight myself, 1.68m and 81kg. I started dieting, and I've lost 5 kilos now.

For me, there's also the following factor: you have less chance of getting pregnant but also a higher chance of miscarriage. We had a miscarriage in December, after 12 weeks of pregnancy. It was a huge blow for me, and I wanted to reduce the chance of another miscarriage. I got pregnant in the first month after my diet. I felt good about that. Unfortunately, I had a second miscarriage last week.

I've gained a bit again because I'm an emotional eater, but I'll definitely start dieting again. Partly because I think people who are healthy feel good in their own skin (emotionally and physically, regardless of weight) and get pregnant faster, partly because I think it might be easier during pregnancy, and partly because I enjoy living healthily.

I'm reading this back now and I fear I might come across a bit preachy. But what I really mean is, it's just about probability. If you feel good at your weight and eat healthily, you might have bad luck, but you could also be one of the lucky ones! I wish you lots of success! Greetings, Wens

I have a BMI of 40 and gave birth to a daughter this year who was 54cm and 3kg400. I took Clomid once and got pregnant right away. Now my daughter is 5 months old and a long, narrow baby who is very active.

Glad this topic is being brought up! I was actually just thinking about the same question as you, Babbel. Now that I'm reading the responses here, I feel a lot more at ease. I'm also way too heavy, and we've been trying for our first baby for 8 months already.