Forum Fertility

Very annoying problem, I'm worried.

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Katrien Guest ·
I tried to get pregnant for half a year. The ovulation tests show that I have a level around day 12 (sometimes 14), but every time I get very severe pains and cramps about ten days later. A few hours after those pains start, my period begins.

Now we've been having unprotected sex for 3 months, and I've had a cycle of exactly 28 days with no cramps at all.

Should I go to the gynecologist, or is this still normal?

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  1. Katrien Guest #2

    Does anyone know if this is normal? I can't see the gynecologist until at the earliest in May 2021

  2. Shanna Guest #3

    Hi Katrien, I don't quite get your question. You have a beautiful cycle but no cramps. That's great, right?

  3. Anso #4

    I think the question is how she can get pregnant when they have unprotected sex. But I have no idea.. I think only a doctor can give you an answer for that actually .

  4. Shanna Guest #5

    I think she doesn't actually get cramps when having sex without a condom, right?

  5. Katrien started this #6

    If I go off the pill and use condoms, I have a 28-day cycle and no pain.

    If I have unprotected sex without the pill, I get really bad cramps about 8 days after ovulation, and my period starts a few hours later.

  6. Susanna #7

    Did you recently stop taking the pill?

  7. Anonymous Guest #8

    I'd guess you stopped the pill about 6 months ago? And then used condoms for another 3 months, and now you're trying to get pregnant. Since then, you've been feeling all sorts of things.

    Unfortunately, it's very likely that it's your own brain making you feel this way. Purely because you're focusing on it. It could also have something to do with coming off the pill.

    I also get cramps and back pain when my period is due, nothing weird. It's just strange for you because you didn't have it before. I wouldn't worry too much.
    Good luck!

  8. Katrien started this #9

    I stopped earlier and had condom sex for three months. After that, I had an immediate 28-day cycle.

    Then for six months we tried without condoms to get pregnant, but each time the menstrual pains were so intense that we decided to go back to using condoms for a few months, and now I’m getting my period back like in the first three months.

  9. Susanna #10

    I'd go to the GP if it's not related to the removal of the IUD.

  10. Lijn #11

    You can always go to your GP. Maybe they can help you out. Why would you only be able to see a gynecologist in a year? That's only for fertility treatments, not for other issues. I was able to get an appointment within 4 weeks for questions about my cycle. Turns out I had PCOS.

  11. Orchidea #12

    Indeed, I would discuss this with the GP.

  12. P. Guest #13

    Do you use ovulation tests with a longer cycle? For me, it seems like I have a normal cycle, but after tracking with ovulation tests, I found out that my ovulation happens late in my cycle and I get my period within 9 to 10 days after that. That's called a short luteal phase, and it's not really a good foundation for pregnancy. If I were you, I'd make an appointment with the gynecologist and until then, monitor your own cycle closely and write everything down.

    Maybe take an early pregnancy test at 10 dpo, then you'll know if you've been fertilized or not and if that's why you had those severe cramps.

  13. Anonymous Guest #14

    Sounds strong to me that she would have had a possible early miscarriage every month.

    I think more about the psychological aspect.

    You mentioned that your path to the gynecologist is in May? Why is that? Because you'll have been trying for a year by then?

    My advice: if you live in the Netherlands, go to the midwife and ask for a referral to the gynecologist. If you live in Belgium, go directly to the gynecologist.

  14. Susanna #15

    A 1-year wait only applies, indeed, to any potential process concerning the additional health issues. I don't think you'd have to wait 1 year for that either...

  15. Katrien Guest #16

    So there's only one spot available for a consultation then.. it's a good gynecologist, and because of Corona, everything was closed for a while, so we have to wait even longer. You're just a number to them but even for a regular Pap smear, I always have to call at least a year and a half in advance.

  16. Anonymous Guest #17

    Where do you live? You shouldn't put up with this. If necessary, switch to another OB-GYN. There are more good gynecologists. 1.5 years for a smear test is really scandalous.

  17. Susanna #18

    That's indeed not how it should go

  18. Anonymous Guest #19

    Call!

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