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33 years old and not yet pregnant

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TulpGuest ·
Hi ladies,
I'm 33 years old. I'm currently in my second round and have had 2 cycles of 42 days. I think it's due to stopping the pill. Now I noticed that I had a fixed smiley on the ovulation test on day 14, so this time my cycle will probably be shorter. On Sunday I'll test for pregnancy. Did an early test today but it stayed negative. Actually, I should just wait to be sure. So I'll do one more test soon.
Now my question: are there more women who got pregnant after their 32nd birthday? And how many rounds did you take? I'm so afraid that it will take a long time because of my age or that I'll have a miscarriage sooner. Who can take away this uncertainty??

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  1. Babytje4 #2

    Hey girl, I'm turning 33 in August and I'm 6 weeks and 4 days pregnant. For us, it only took one round, but I had already stopped the pill since July 2018, so my body was very regular by then. So no panic—it takes a few months for some and less for others. I wish you lots of success in advance!

  2. Tulp started this #3

    Congrats, girl! Super nice.. I hope it works out for us soon too. Unlike you, I only stopped the pill in mid-Dec 2018. I regret that! It also took 42 days before I got my first (natural) period.
    But my boyfriend and I haven't been together that long, so the time wasn't right yet. We could have had safe sex so I could stop the pill earlier. But honestly: I never really looked into it! I didn't know that stopping the pill could take long, nor that the chance of getting pregnant drops so much after 30.. Of course I understand that a 25-year-old has more chances, but uh, I'm only just ready now.. If you read that 1 in 10 women has a miscarriage (age 30-35), you do get scared!
    And then that stupid advice: don't get too involved... what some say. In my opinion, every woman is involved when she's made up her mind. If I were 26, I might have had a more "we'll see" attitude.. but now I do feel my clock ticking haha.
    Well, a pregnancy can't be planned anyway. Hopefully it's granted to us too.

  3. Anne #4

    Don't worry too much, okay! There's still plenty of time. I was 37 when I got pregnant in the first round. I had already stopped taking the pill for quite a while.

  4. Babytje4 #5

    Yeah, they told me the same thing at my place: "Don't think about it, let nature take its course." Easy to say, harder to do when you're actively trying to conceive—it's normal to be all about it. People sometimes don't think before they speak. Luckily, it happened very quickly for us. I'm waiting for my first ultrasound on Friday and hope everything is okay with our little sprout. Good luck to you ladies.

  5. Tulp started this #6

    Thanks ladies,
    Hearing you all, it doesn't seem like you need super much "luck" at all. You got pregnant quickly! Maybe it's also true that on those forums you read more negative stories (miscarriages, long cycles, taking a long time etc.)
    But 15 to 20% chance of getting pregnant per month isn't that much either. I do exercise, don't smoke or drink, and I'm focusing on healthy eating. Hopefully this contributes to a quick and healthy pregnancy. A large percentage get pregnant within half a year, and I hope I'll be among them. Because I know myself... If this doesn't happen, I'll really be stressed.
    Hopefully more positive stories from those over 32 will come up. That does me good!

  6. Anonymous Guest #7

    33 is really not too old at all. Everyone is different, you know. Try to let go of that a bit, including the urge to get pregnant right away. I totally get it.

    If you did a clear ovulation test on day 14, the best thing to do is wait 12-14 days before taking a pregnancy test. Testing too early is really pointless. Most pregnancies end before you even know you're pregnant.

    Keep in mind that it can take at least a year to get pregnant. Sure, some people conceive faster, and others have to wait even longer. Try to stay balanced and enjoy the process. Testing too early just causes stress and tension.

  7. Babytje4 #8

    The woman can be healthy, but the man should be too. People laugh at my husband because he makes fresh fruit juice every day and takes it to work, but it's all good for the sperm cells. When I was pregnant, I told him that the fruit juice had made his sperm cells healthy and they were very quick to show results. He had to laugh.

  8. Tulp started this #9

    I only got a positive ovulation test on day 18, as I see now in my app (correction). That means if I’d get my period 14 days later, I’d have a 32-day cycle.
    And then it’s still a wait-and-see, because last time I didn’t get my period until 23 days after my positive test. I’ll know more next week..
    But okay, my body is stabilizing/adjusting, I think. It would be nice if this time I’m at 32. Because anything longer than 35 isn’t “normal” and will make getting pregnant harder. At first, I even doubted whether I was ovulating at all.
    I’ll try to worry about it a bit less. Some days it works better than others.

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