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Flowers and bees for toddlers?

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  1. Madelene #81

    Exciting, the ultrasound
    It'll be fine, you just have to assume that.
    And we've been having unprotected sex since October 2013.
    But we didn't really try hard back then to get pregnant; we just had unprotected sex.
    But nothing happened.
    It's only since last November that we've really been trying on the fertile days and putting in extra effort.
    Really practicing, so to speak.
    But my husband doesn't really share the desire for a third child; he thinks our family is already perfect as it is.
    Because the care for the kids falls mostly on his shoulders.
    But he's doing it anyway, really just for me, to go for a third one, which I find very sweet of him

  2. samantha #82

    Oh wow Vivian, I don't find it so nice either with the hot weather hahaha. I personally can't handle hot weather at all. Luckily I don't have to focus on my fertile days anymore, it's stressful anyway. Yes, indeed, it's quite special, and that's why I didn't expect the second one to take so long hahaha. Is this your first baby Vivian?

    My boyfriend actually didn't want any kids at all. He's 12 years older than me and already has a 15-year-old daughter. I'm 26 and he's 38, so when I got pregnant despite the pill, he didn't want it. Abortion was even discussed when I told him I was pregnant. But luckily, after a few weeks of cooling off hahq, he was very happy about it too. And for me, it started to itch again after a year and a half, and we were having lunch at La Place and I said on impulse that I wanted another child, and he said okay. I was in shock; I never expected him to just say yes. And now that I'm pregnant, he's already talking about maybe wanting another child with Dana hahaha. It's really crazy how someone can change so much. And yes, it's super sweet of your man Madelene that he does this for you. I know the feeling hihi.

  3. Vivian #83

    Hi Sam! But are you guys still having sex now? It's going to be our first one! Exciting... Madelene, isn't he a bit enthusiastic about a third or does he just enjoy the chores, hihi!

  4. Madelene #84

    No, he doesn't have high-stress jobs like you call them.
    Not fun, he's happy when it's over
    It really drains him having sex on those planned days in a row.
    He's glad it's behind him now.
    So he does that too, especially for me.
    He struggles to gather all his strength to have sex for so many days in a row.
    He has a busy job, as I already mentioned, the household, the cooking, the kids, it all falls on his shoulders, so for him, having so much sex is a big task.
    But no, for him, a third one isn't necessary at all.
    He finds this perfect, our two girls are more than enough.
    Because he also has it hard with them and the things he has to deal with on top of that.
    So I understand his decision to stick with 2 children, well, only I really want it.
    So he agreed to it, but only once, and also only for me, he says.
    Greetings, Madelene

  5. samantha #85

    Hi Vivian, yeah, only when we're in the mood, hehe. But when the blood is hot, I've never seen that, hahaha. Or maybe a quickie, but then no extended sex, and it's very exciting. It's such a special thing, especially when you feel your little miracle for the first time. I can't wait to feel it again, I loved it! I really respect your husband, though, for doing so much. I do everything myself; my boyfriend works and I can stay home, hehe. Do you work too, Madelene, or are you a housewife?

  6. Madelene #86

    Vivian, that went wrong, the message.
    Let me try again.
    He really doesn't want a third anymore.
    He thinks 2 is perfect, no matter what I might come up with.
    Since the care for the kids falls mostly on his shoulders.
    He also made it clear that he's doing this just for me, so I don't have to give up my wish for a third, but for him, he'd rather not have one at all.
    As for the sex stuff, that was true haha.
    No, he's happy that my fertile days are over.
    The sex really drains him, especially when it's on those planned days.
    He also keeps that up just for me
    Which I'm very grateful for

  7. Vivian #87

    That's sweet! My partner actually enjoys having sex back-to-back quite a bit! Maybe you should shorten the sessions and not always aim for two orgasms? Maybe he'd enjoy it more if you did it more often?

  8. Vivian #88

    By the way, what do you guys call having sex with each other? What do you say when you're in the mood? I usually ask if he wants to punish me a bit (doggy style or another position where he can go deep and hard) or if he wants to cuddle with me (sweet sex). He usually asks if I want to "wip" with him, hihi!

  9. samantha #89

    Hey, are you talking to me about the 2 orgasms? It's different when my kid is around, then I ask him, "shall we do it today?" hahaha. How we got there, you shouldn't ask haha, or "come fuck me" and quick jelle or I'm in the mood!

  10. Madelene #90

    Vivian, that's really sweet of him indeed.
    He's completely out of it, exhausted,
    and still he pushes himself aside for me
    to make sure it gets done.
    Yeah, maybe if sex didn't take so long, he'd have more energy and it wouldn't drain him as much.
    He said the other day, "You don't really have to come twice now, your main goal is to get pregnant, right?"
    Well, he had a point there, of course.

  11. Madelene #91

    Or I sometimes say:
    "Would you like to visit my little diamond, sweetheart? She misses you."
    Because he always calls my vagina his little diamond, hence the name.

  12. Madelene #92

    Sometimes my husband says back jokingly, "You'll have to fetch some water to put out your fire" hahaha if he's, well, not really in the mood. Then I say, "Nice try, but I really want it, so you put out my fire" haha.

  13. Guusje99 #93

    For us, it's just pee and poop, super interesting even now that he's 3.

    And unfortunately, he also had a period where he came running in, but we just explained it as a period and that girls sometimes have that, but it's part of it. Then for weeks... Mom still confused? haha.

  14. Vivian #94

    Hihi Guusje, funny! Hope he didn't see too much?

  15. Guusje99 #95

    No, Vivian, more than I would like, of course, but he especially liked the new word

  16. Vivian #96

    Hihi!

  17. Vivian #97

    Hihi! See, even cats aren't everything! I've never heard of a tomcat! By the way, what do you think is wrong with "spleetje"? And what do you call sex between yourselves?

  18. Beertje #98

    spleetje I personally don't find anything either. No idea why. Sounds pretty wrong. I've never heard of kater either.

    We just call sex sex, fucking, we'll have a quickie? or nothing. We'll have a nice little fuck. Or raise our eyebrows. Something like that.

  19. Madelene #99

    My husband always uses the phrase "to make love."
    He finds sex too plain sounding.
    Yeah, he's a bit of a fuss about those things

  20. Vivian #100

    Madelene; is your husband always so neat or does he let loose sometimes? I find making love and the little diamond all very neat!

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