nepper?

Tammy 2 months ago #61

Hi Chertje,

That’s really sad to hear, because I know how it feels when it doesn’t work out and you want it so badly. I’ve experienced something similar on another forum where I was really upset and thought that wouldn’t happen to me anymore. For me, it was like this: my mother passed away 27 weeks ago, and I was 27 weeks pregnant at the time. Someone on a forum said something like, “Look, isn’t that nice? You’re having sex while your mom just died,” but that’s not how it was at all. I had just had an IUI, hoping I could tell my mom she was going to be a grandma, but that didn’t happen. And when you read something like that, it really hurts. Since then, I’ve only taken out what’s important to me, and the rest can go kiss my ....

But if you come across this, report it immediately. The moderators should step in right away. Unfortunately, there are people who are just looking for trouble. I know that’s really sad, and you’d expect everyone here to be there for similar reasons, but that’s not how forums work.

Just ignore it... and report it right away. It’s not worth letting someone ruin your day, especially when you’re dealing with other things.

Tammy 2 months ago #62

Hi Kim,

My last post doesn't say enough about whether I understand or not... I'm just trying to warn people that this is a forum where you can sometimes get pretty hurt. But it's up to you to not let it get to you... BECAUSE SHE'S NOT WORTH IT.

lieza Guest 2 months ago #63

Hi there, I'm also no spelling wizard. Is it really the case now that anyone who's bad at spelling is suspected? Because that would mean that I, or anyone with bad spelling, is now seen as fake! Look, I won't even waste my energy on this, but what I do find is that you're dedicating an entire topic to her. Anyway, she just gave her opinion to Kruimel. If you read the beginning carefully, she only became rude because she was challenged by a girl on that forum. No wonder she got defensive. This is a forum where she gave her honest opinion about how hard it is to have 3 kids at once, and people got very angry and mocked her. It's a shame how many people forget that this is the internet, where everyone is allowed to give their honest opinion.

kim 2 months ago #64

Tammy, I totally get your side too. But when she keeps popping up again and again, hurting people and stuff... You try to ignore it, but it just keeps going on. Then one day, you've had enough. And then this topic came up. You're spitting out your anger and together with the moderators trying to pick out the right ones.

What Liese (guest) says is also completely off base. She told someone with a big wish, "Don't have kids, it's so hard." And when someone responded to that, simply asking in her first post if she really thinks so badly about her kids, it turned out she barely knows what she's doing with her kids. How can it all be so hard then? But anyway.

My spelling isn't great either, and you're not automatically the bad guy just because your spelling isn't perfect. It's more about the way you write (like we've said many times before, Liese). Besides, the story is often almost exactly the same, just with different names. Even if it's the same story under a different name, oops, or continuing your own post with a different name. And when you see it yourself, you try to figure out who's messing around.

And what I find the worst is people hurting others with words like, "Well, if you can't manage, it's definitely your own fault. You're not becoming a good mother anyway. I have kids and I'm pregnant again too." Come on, man. You don't say things like that.

It's just too much for a lot of people here, and talking about it with each other isn't a crime. It's a shame that she's coming between us again here.

Tammy 2 months ago #65

hey Kim,
I totally get that, but what I don’t quite understand is that on other forums/chat sites, if you’re causing trouble or trying to upset someone, your IP address gets blocked, and then you can’t log in with a different name or even access the site from that computer. Couldn’t something like that be possible here?

And talking it out with each other is definitely no crime... What I’ve been trying to make clear all along is: don’t let certain people get to you. They’re just complete zeros. And you end up super pissed off on the couch while those people are laughing their heads off...

chertje85 2 months ago #66

@Kim, I've already had her removed twice before.. What she said is completely inappropriate.

@Lieza, please stop what you're doing.. "Felicia" or whatever name you're allowed to use..
I didn't mention Kruimel's topic and you bring it up yourself now..
Just stop it!!

chertje85 2 months ago #67

Brabbels, do you want to remove the lady "lieza"? This is the lady in question again!!!

kim 2 months ago #68

Yeah, that's right. Even on the IP address, she was removed then, but I don't know. But I do know that, as far as I know, you can get a new IP address on your PC. And if not, there are so many ways—other PCs, phones, just name it. Plenty of ways, unfortunately.
I did mention something about that topic in an earlier post, but the reaction from that Lieza hahaha, I get what you mean.

chertje85 2 months ago #69

For me, it’s simply about how, for example, in the Kruimel thread, I had politely asked Felicia multiple times to stop. At that moment, it was all about Kruimel. She was having a tough time. She had to make a choice and wanted our opinion. She didn’t want someone’s private life story. And people kept responding more angrily, so we responded angrily back to Felicia. Before things escalated further, I decided to remove her because she just wouldn’t stop and kept going. This forum is just not for that. You’re allowed to share your opinion, but not in that way. Unfortunately, we’ll likely have to deal with this person X for a long time. That’s why I’ll keep reporting her to Brabbels. I just think it’s not fair.

kim 2 months ago #70

nope, indeed. it's really not funny anymore. I get what you mean.

AngelRinoa87 2 months ago #71

I agree with Chertje85. I'm not sitting on the couch angry or stressing out about it. I'd just find it a shame if even one person ruins it for others. For a newcomer, it can be really unpleasant, and there's a good chance they won't come back to the site. With a topic like this, a newcomer can see that not everyone is like that and that most people here treat each other with respect. I saw, for example, that one guest insulted another for their low background and said he'd be ashamed to introduce her to his mother. That's hurtful and completely unnecessary. So, as I said earlier, I'm glad about this topic, and I think everyone should know that unfortunately, there are such people around!

A K 2 months ago #72

We're working on it :-)

Marianne 2 months ago #73

I think I can also recognize a few posts in terms of style where a different name comes up each time, just like in this conversation. I find that sad. Everyone is free to share their opinion, this is the Netherlands, but without respect for the other person's opinion and hurting the other person, that's not how we should treat each other. Not in real life and not on a forum. You often see that people react differently on the internet than in real life. It can be tempting for some to try to provoke people on a forum. (Also known as trolling). "Words don't hurt" is really a false saying.

AngelRinoa87 2 months ago #74

That's right, Marianne. Even words can hurt—maybe not physically, but definitely mentally.

justme 2 months ago #75

it's not about this lady's spelling. the only thing we're saying is that we can tell from certain writing styles or the way a post is set up that this lady is posting under multiple names, sometimes in the same thread, and saying things that just don't fly.

of course, this is the internet and everyone is free to share their story,

but it's not the point to keep posting different versions of your story 5 times,

or to insult people.

this site was created to share things, help each other, give tips, and offer support to people in the same situation..

and yes, if the people running this site know about it, they do take action, but it's really hard when this lady keeps changing her name.

again, this isn't about spelling mistakes, racism, or anything like that,

it's about someone pretending to be multiple people and hurting a lot of people here!

that's not the intention, I assume!

kim 2 months ago #76

And she's back. .

omg I thought things had calmed down. She's just arguing with herself.

chertje85 2 months ago #77

To get tired of it, he Kim., blegh.. Such people really have no life.. So childish.. Pfff

justme 2 months ago #78

I think the lady in question isn't going to stop..
So maybe it's better to try to ignore her as much as possible
and talk about nice and positive things

Maybe do a little introduction round then?? hihi

melis1606 started this 2 months ago #79

Haha good idea. Just me! Shall I start haha...

I'm Melissa, 23 years old, have the best little boy in the world, Rowan, 8 months old, and well, currently unemployed. That's it haha

justme 2 months ago #80

ohh nice melissa and what a cute name your little boy has

i'm justme (i have a nickname for now just in case there are well-known people here)
i'm 22 years old, and i get to take my first test tomorrow!!
i'm really nervous..
i'm currently unemployed too, didn't get a permanent contract, they don't do that.
and it's so hard to find something now...

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