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First pregnancy questions.

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maris29
Hi SandraHGV, congratulations on your pregnancy! It's indeed calculated from the first day of your period. Because ovulation happens about 2 weeks after your period starts. You always get those extra 2 weeks added to your pregnancy count. For example, I'm now just over 10 weeks pregnant. My last period started on October 1st, and I conceived on October 15th. So if you work it out like that, I got those 2 weeks "bonus" weeks.

My OB-GYN told me that having a glass of wine now and then is fine, but then it should really just be a single glass, occasionally. Smoking, however, can indeed harm the unborn baby.

Pregnancy symptoms can include sore breasts, nausea, etc.

Best wishes

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  1. SandraHGV #2

    Hey, thanks for your reply! It's already been viewed more than 1000 times, so it was definitely time haha.

    I'll get in touch with my GP tomorrow and see what he says.

  2. trotsemama #3

    Hi Sandra,

    Congratulations on your pregnancy!
    Here are my experiences regarding smoking. I'm a smoker and I couldn't manage to stop smoking during my pregnancies.
    I did cut down significantly and indeed stopped smoking inside the house. That already makes a big difference.
    If you smoke, there's a chance your baby will be born too early, be small or underweight. I have two very healthy children and they weren't born too early, underweight or small.
    They had a perfect start.
    Of course, it's better to quit smoking, but too much stress isn't good either.

    It's correct that you can start counting from your period. You only know exactly how far along you are after the first ultrasound. You can register with the midwife now, and she will ask when your last period was, and then she'll tell you approximately how far along you are.

    Sore breasts are just a good sign. You might also experience lower abdominal pain, lower back pain, fatigue or nausea. It's all normal. It just means your body is working hard on all the hormones.

    Hopefully, I've been able to answer your questions a bit.

  3. SandraHGV #4

    ok thanks for the reply!

    how big is the chance of a miscarriage? this is our first time so that's why we're asking.

  4. Jet88 #5

    Early pregnancies.. 1 in 10 gets a miscarriage from that. This is often already in week 5... so many women don't notice it.. Because it coincides with a period.
    Once the heartbeat is there, the chance is already smaller. I myself had 3 early miscarriages of 6, 7 and 8 weeks, before this pregnancy... and now 11 weeks pregnant with our first miracle... The doctor told me that it doesn't say anything.. But because our little one is doing so well now.. the chance is now only 4% that it goes wrong now.. Unfortunately, you really can't do anything about a miscarriage. It happens or it doesn't....

    Smoking also doesn't affect this. I'm also a smoker.. I'm doing my best to cut down, but stress is worse. Nevertheless; smoke as little as possible and ultimately not at all.

    Good luck

  5. Dreamer #6

    Hi Sandra,

    Both smoking and drinking during pregnancy are harmful to your baby!
    It's not known exactly how much you need to smoke/drink to make it harmful, but one glass or cigarette can already be enough!
    Don't listen to stories where it went well, do you want to risk that it doesn't go well for you (miscarriage, premature birth, child with abnormalities, lung problems) due to nothing less than (sorry) your own fault, your own addiction?
    I believe you should take responsibility for your baby and just stop smoking! (and NO, one glass is also not allowed!)

  6. AM #7

    Hi ladies,

    A lot of people think that cutting down on smoking also reduces stress, but I can assure you that’s really not the case. Your body is still going through withdrawal from those fewer cigarettes you’re smoking, and that causes stress too—maybe even more than quitting completely, because you’re psychologically living for the next cigarette.

    I only found peace when I actually quit smoking. Yes, the first few days weren’t easy, but you need to find a good alternative... and it just feels so much better for yourself!

    I just couldn’t wrap my head around the idea that I was harming my baby through my addiction. I could already imagine my baby coughing in my womb and all that nasty nicotine around such a clean baby. That was my motivation to quit, along with all the other risks that Dreamer described.

    I’m now having a big baby, three weeks ahead of schedule, and I’m really proud of that. The midwife said it’s a sign that you’re taking good care of your baby, and I’m so proud

    I’m not writing this to make you feel guilty or anything, or because I’m doing so great or whatever—just sharing my own experience. Maybe it’ll help you quit too

  7. SandraHGV #8

    Thanks for the replies! I’ve got a lot to think about.

    We called the midwife practice Petit (in Hoogeveen) and have our first ultrasound on January 21st.

    I’m already eating more, have sore breasts, am feeling some lower back pain, and am a bit more tired now.

    My boyfriend bought two Ego-C smokers because of our smoking addiction and his struggle to quit. I know it’s not ideal, but it’s a start anyway. He also bought one for himself so we can work on it together. I also got a book from him ("First Time Pregnant", which should have tips and expectations for the first to last months.

    I just have one question... On January 21st, I’ll be 10-11 weeks pregnant. We actually wanted to tell the news on my dad’s birthday (to our parents only first), which is on January 10th. But we’d like to have something to show. I once heard that you can get an ultrasound done privately before the official first appointment (I think it’s at your own expense).

    Probably you won’t see much or anything at all, but it’s about the idea.

    Does anyone know if this is true and if it has a specific name?

    Thanks.

  8. AM #9

    Hi Sandra,

    That's so sweet of your friend to support you like that!!
    You can often have a preliminary ultrasound done, but according to my experience, it's usually later in the pregnancy.
    But around 6 weeks you can see something, we saw the little heart beating (I had an ultrasound at 6 weeks because I had a miscarriage before). Maybe they'll want to do a preliminary ultrasound..
    Good luck!!

  9. AM #10

    Ps, on my profile there's a photo of the ultrasound when I was 6 weeks, so you can see something

  10. SandraHGV #11

    thx! I'll give them a quick call then.

    So that's what a pretecho is called.

  11. SandraHGV #12

    On January 10th (in the morning), we're going to have a pretest done in Zwolle.

    I'll be 9 weeks pregnant by then, and she said on the phone that you'll already be able to see and hear quite a bit.

  12. AM #13

    That's lovely!! Have fun in advance..

  13. SandraHGV #14

    thank you! :-)

  14. linda Guest #15

    I was depressed for a while and just sat in my bedroom. I won't deny it was hard for me, but the thought of my baby drinking dirty amniotic fluid, the high chance of cancer, and the fear that he or she would suffer in the womb made me quit smoking. And I think if you're mature enough to start having kids, you should also be mature enough to think about the health of such an innocent child.

  15. myrte Guest #16

    I totally agree with you, Linda. I also want to respond here. I find it sad, but honestly, your mother doesn't deserve you if she lets her baby be influenced by those nasty, toxic cigarettes.

  16. maris29 started this #17

    Hi Linda,
    I have to say this naively: you're such a good mother.

    Everyone raises their kids in their own way. No one is a bad mother just because they smoke. According to you, I'd definitely be a bad mother because I took the pill until December 5th, drank alcohol, and took heavy medication. Believe me, this could have been different if I had known earlier. I'll give everyone a tip who wants to act negatively or bring someone down: LET PEOPLE BE IN THEIR OWN VALUE.

  17. linda Guest #18

    I just want to add that the damage from cigarettes isn't always noticeable at birth, but often only becomes apparent when the child is 20 or 30 years old. At that point, thanks to their mother who couldn't quit smoking, they've developed a weakness for all kinds of cancer. You harmed his developing body by exposing him to the toxic substances from your cigarettes by simply continuing to smoke during your pregnancy. Instead of thinking about your child and wanting the best for them, as a real mother should, you feel sorry for yourself. Look at me now, how hard it is for me to give up my cigarette. Sorry, but how hard do you think your child has it with this?

  18. linda Guest #19

    I don't agree with you because the person who openly says that everyone can just react to it, that she finds it so hard to quit smoking, can also expect an honest answer back. And I'm actually thinking about her baby. I feel sorry for her baby. I'm saying this for the sake of her baby. In this situation, someone shouldn't think about the adults who find it so hard, but rather about the spiritual unborn child. It's about the health of her baby.

  19. linda Guest #20

    and something else important: you say, "you're such a good mom," no, I'm not necessarily. I think about my child, but that's my duty as a mom. I don't expect to be praised in heaven for that. I also wouldn't say to a mom who doesn't let her toddler drink alcohol, "good job!" No, of course that's not more than normal; you're supposed to do that instinctively as a mom, being concerned about your baby's well-being.

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