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Don't let them get to you.

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  1. rianna Guest #21

    One thing I wanted to add is that you can keep drinking coffee and eating less healthy stuff for the rest of your life, but giving your baby a healthy start can only be done once—you won't get another chance. Also, breastfeeding that was difficult with the first baby can suddenly become much easier with the second. That's not the same for every baby. Greetings, Rianna

  2. - #22

    It wasn't about wanting to eat unhealthy; it was about not having the energy for it at that moment. I spent about 3.5 weeks in bed after giving birth and could barely do anything because I had severe anemia (I'd already received two iron infusions in the hospital for it), but my iron levels were still way too low. This anemia started during my pregnancy (and I ate healthy and well during my pregnancy, so that wasn't the issue then). Plus, I tore completely during childbirth, so moving around properly wasn't really an option. My husband couldn't take time off due to circumstances, so he would eat next to my bed before leaving during the day, and I managed the rest alone with my crying baby until evening. So it's not always a choice. Stopping breastfeeding was a very heavy decision for me. But after one day of bottle feeding, my son suddenly cried a lot more, and I started feeling worse about it too. I feel like people are reacting a bit too harshly here towards those who have switched to bottle feeding. No one chooses to have a child and then not raise them as well as possible. Sometimes things just don't go as planned. My little boy has done super well on bottle feeding; he's now 11 months old, weighs 13 kg, is 86 cm tall, walks quite well, and is also very smart, if I do say so myself :-).. I'm not pro-bottle feeding or anything, it would just be nice if people could make a choice without getting heaps of criticism for it.

  3. - #23

    * my son cried much less after 1 day of bottle feeding :-) mistake!

  4. rianna Guest #24

    Oh wow, girl, what a tough time you’ve been through if I’m reading this right. Did you spend some time in the hospital because of your iron levels? Well, I can totally understand that everything felt overwhelming pretty quickly. But I still stand by my point: moms who have a choice and then opt for bottles out of laziness—because it’s less exhausting—I really think that’s a shame. I also feel like that’s kind of selfish thinking; your baby should come first, if done right. That’s just my personal opinion. And, uh, are you managing okay now with your second child?

  5. rianna Guest #25

    I just wanted to say that in your situation it's a different story, but I'm talking about mothers who already don't feel like breastfeeding with their first baby. I think it's really sad for the baby. It could easily go well with breastfeeding with your second child; it can really be a whole different experience. One baby needs...

  6. rianna Guest #26

    you have more patience to put up with because it takes a bit more time for that baby to drink at the breast, but believe me, it's worth it for the health of your baby and the other child drinks more easily at the breast. my sister has 2 children and one daughter, Jowella, drank more laboriously and slower than her sister Renate. there it went much smoother because she also drank in a nice tempo. the best would be if you would try it first with your baby, then you can at least tell yourself, i tried it for my baby, but well, those are my matters, of course, you decide completely yourself. greetings, rianna

  7. Mary Guest #27

    Sorry, what, so much complaining!!! Let everyone know the same thing, I have to say, everyone who reacts so intensely, I find disrespectful!! The Wilders under breastfeeding, sorry!! And I've also given breastfeeding and I have 3 children, live and let live, mind your own business!!!!!!

  8. rianna Guest #28

    well well mary excuse me but this is really not about you at all your comment first of all you are the one who is so worried about this here i don't see anyone on this forum taking it as hard as you do and secondly i just gave my own personal opinion i didn't insult anyone i also clearly stated in my post to manon that it's ultimately her own business and not mine but that i'm just giving my opinion on how it could also be and thirdly if we're not even allowed to give our own opinion anymore because there are people like you who can't handle it well then i really wonder what are you doing on a forum then you shouldn't be here if you can't handle it and this is the Netherlands where hopefully we have freedom of speech democracy luckily if you can't handle that maybe iraq is more your thing and the person who started this forum jantien does ask for opinions from others so she can expect that everyone can expect that when you start a topic on a forum she starts her topic with the sentence don't let yourself be made crazy how are you being made crazy if you get advice to choose breastfeeding greetings rianna

  9. siska Guest #29

    What I hear here is mostly about how healthy it is, but I also think it has emotional value, the connection with your baby. But I want to make it clear: if breastfeeding really doesn't work out, then it's fine and happy that bottle feeding exists. Greetings, Siska

  10. siska Guest #30

    I meant to say that I hear a lot here about how healthy breastfeeding is, and it really is. But personally, I feel it has a very emotional value—the bond with your baby. I just wanted to make it clear that if breastfeeding really doesn't work out, I'm so happy that bottle feeding exists. Greetings, Siska

  11. Linda33 #31

    I don't get you.. children under BV also grow up big and round and healthy and loved... It's just a choice.. what does it matter what someone chooses.. you don't say anything about the car someone drives either? Or that one drinks cola and the other spa... My god.. just let everyone be..

  12. natalie Guest #32

    so when my girl had grown so beautifully, you can imagine how happy I was inside. She grew through me because I felt I had sacrificed myself with all the pain in my breasts and being exhausted at night, so I was proud of that when I spoke for myself. And she was very small and on the thin side, my girl. It could also be that my niece was unsure whether my milk would be enough. So when I say that my daughter grew entirely on my milk, then...

  13. kruimel #33

    Hallelujah! 1 - 0 for Linda33!!

    Opinions are fine, but try not to push yours so hard on others.

    And Brabbels, can't you just ban this lady who starts arguments EVERY TIME in EVERY topic? I'm getting a bit tired of her, with her different names each time. Bah.. she just keeps looking for trouble..

  14. Linda33 #34

    I think some people don't realize that this is a forum to support each other, not a debate forum... everyone is equal! I'm glad I can share my feelings and let off some steam here... We all want the same thing: to get pregnant, be a good mom, and get help with any uncertainties... not waste time in utterly pointless discussions! Enough said..

  15. ruud Guest #35

    falling

  16. ruud Guest #36

    You should have sat in politics with all that nonsense from your greetings, Ruud.

  17. karin Guest #37

    Hi Rianna, I bet you think I'm a bad mom with all your talk about sacrificing and stuff. I smoked heavily during my pregnancy. Why? Because I couldn't stop. I didn't breastfeed, I used formula. I often think about what I want, so yes, I guess I'm an selfish mom. Yeah, I admit it. Too bad then. Greetings, Karin

  18. karin Guest #38

    and we're not all angels like you!!

  19. suus Guest #39

    No, still Karin, heavy cigarettes during your pregnancy?

  20. karin Guest #40

    Yes Suus, I couldn't smoke light shag either because then it felt like I was smoking air. I did try it for one day because my husband kept pushing me to, but I ended up feeling really irritable that day, so it only lasted one day. I immediately went back to what I was already smoking: heavy shag with vanilla. But the point was that Rianna should understand that there are also mothers who, like me, are naturally selfish. That's just my character. Point. Greetings, Karin

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