A dream start

My little boy was way above the curve again.

Wow, it’s so nice to read when you’re at the UMCG, fighting for your child’s life in an incubator, and you haven’t been able to hold on after 4 days. Can scientific research also make sure that everything turns out okay again??

Stop with your “I know exactly how it is and I repeat 100 times that it’s scientifically proven...” That’s not it! There has been scientific research done, and based on that, a method was developed using personal interpretation.

But keep pretending to be incredibly empathetic if it makes you feel good, but stop telling people they’re wrong when they do things differently than what your method advises. Only then will you send a powerful message.

Aaah, so sad! You naturally want to hold your baby right away. No one should have to go through that. Is he/she premature, or were there complications during the birth?

Lots of strength, Skybles!!
I find your reply a bit unnecessary.

I totally get Skybles' reaction. You'd have to be in that awful situation yourself to have someone come along and tell you that you can expect all sorts of problems after this period, especially with so many risks already. How insecure does someone have to be to try and scare others like that...?

This all sounds to me like someone trying to profit from insecure mothers or mothers who have already gone through hell. The hospital does everything possible to make the bonding process as good as it can be. Is it ideal if a baby is premature or if there are complications? No, of course not! But that doesn't mean problems will arise. Just like children can have problems without having had a perfect start.

Isn't it crazy that we're all insecure as mothers of a new baby? The birth has to be perfect and natural. The start has to be perfect. The baby should lie peacefully and contentedly in its crib. And if something isn't perfect somewhere, all sorts of 'helpers' are ready to intervene and make money off the misery and/or insecurity of others. Of course, it's presented here as being empathetic, etc., but in reality, it's just advertising for their own little business.

I'm not in the mood to start a discussion. She's not forcing anything on anyone, and everyone is free to read it or not. But apparently, it's also about giving unsolicited ugly opinions. Tolerance is hard to find these days! Too bad.. Let everyone be themselves, and don't take out your frustration (which is completely understandable) on a forum. That's what I'd think.. I'm leaving here! Have a nice day everyone!

I read a lot of threads that I think are nonsense or not interesting, and I don’t reply to those.
But this one feels different. This is a ‘helper’ who takes advantage of the fact that many mothers feel insecure or don’t experience the perfect picture they had in mind. In the end, it’s just an ad for a session that costs €175.

Tolerance: sure!
Other women and mothers who want to share their opinion or something: absolutely!
But for me, it’s just too much when a ‘professional’ wants to make money off insecure mothers. Besides, all her claims only make you even more scared and unsure.

But let’s not start a discussion, indeed. Hopefully, fellow mothers can properly assess this ‘scientific advice’...

Puck, well said. I completely agree with you and Skybles. Unsecure moms who only want the best for their kids get even more scared by these kinds of posts, just so they can feel better themselves. It's fine that she opens a topic to advertise, but don't also reply to old topics. By the way, I don't understand why Brabbels doesn't just remove these kinds of posts.

By the way, I'm curious about the scientific backing for the link between your stressed-out mom and your dyslexia.