Letting baby cry is dangerous

For 8-month-olds, you can't spoil them, they say, if you let them cry as little as possible. After that, they realize that crying gets them what they want. So letting them cry for a quarter of an hour isn't a big deal at all, especially if you explain why they need to sleep in their own crib now. You're doing great, honestly, if you ask me

Well... the little ones really do notice, here we have Gregory, our 2nd miracle baby, 2 weeks old, and he already knows exactly how to wrap his fingers around mom's fingers haha. Last week he came a bit earlier in the evening for his bottle... I took him out and the next day he came again at exactly the same time earlier. Mom and mother-in-law said... let him cry for a bit, otherwise he'll come earlier every time later on. I did that and then it went well!!

I could get so angry about this, sorry to hear it really makes no sense. I cuddled both children and rocked them to sleep on my lap. I was also told that I'm too attached to my kids, what nonsense. I have a book at home about how good it is for the bond between mother and child and how it strengthens the bond. Letting them cry more is not good for their further development, and a child can only be spoiled from the age of five, not before. Please don't listen to such nonsense and enjoy your baby now, because soon they won't be little anymore. Before you know it, they'll be grown up. Greetings, Marja.

I really wanted to chime in here too. I used to babysit my sister's kids every weekend because she and her husband would go out. She told me that if they cried, not to take them out of bed, just ignore them. I had to put the twins down at 6 PM even if they weren't tired, and I wasn't allowed to linger in their room; I had to leave immediately and ignore the crying. But I noticed they weren't tired at all. I just did what my sister said, they cried, and I did what she told me. But after an hour, I'd had enough. I texted my sister: "Can I go to them for a bit, sing a song or just for a very short time?" No, she said, "It always takes a while before they settle, don't go to them." But I just couldn't do it. I went to them and stroked them for a bit. They calmed down immediately. I stayed with them, stroking their backs until their eyes slowly closed. It didn't even take long. I did that every weekend from then on with success. My sister complained that they cried so much during the week. I told her honestly that I always stroked them first. She got angry at first, but then she tried it too. And guess what? They never cried that much again. What I'm trying to say is that sometimes giving attention doesn't hurt. It can give the children a calm, safe feeling. My sister's twins just had a huge need for contact and love before going to sleep, instead of being put in bed and ignored. What's the harm in a little stroking and attention if they sleep peacefully afterwards? I just wanted to share this. Greetings, Vera