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11-month-old baby with extreme separation anxiety

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  1. Anonymous Guest #21

    The peekaboo tip is a really good one, just behind your hands, behind the door, and a blanket.

    I then wonder again why all the responses have to be so politically correct and walk on eggshells. Other perspectives and opinions can be enlightening.

    Bear

  2. Anne #22

    It doesn't have to be politically correct, but it is on-topic (at least in my opinion).

  3. HereWeGoAgain started this #23

    That’s exactly what you’re misunderstanding, anonymous. She might feel at home with the daycare provider and grandparents, but she’d rather be with me. She’ll ALWAYS prefer to sit with me than with anyone else. (Seems logical at this age, I guess? Whatever.) When we’re visiting somewhere, she always wants to sit with me and gets upset if I hand her to someone else. So what I mean is, when she sees me, she doesn’t want to be with anyone else. When I’m not around, she’s happy anywhere.

    When I drop her off, she cries, but it usually stops quickly because I disappear from her sight. BUT she’s not left alone. She’s with other people. So that’s not the biggest issue for her. It’s at home where she feels ‘alone’ very quickly.

    At home it’s harder because we’re just the two of us, I step out of her sight for a moment, and she’s left alone.

    I’m aware this is a phase every kid goes through. So I don’t think her reaction is abnormal. I just want tips on how to handle it best when we’re together at home.

    Everyone’s got an opinion on working vs staying home, but right now, that’s not my issue.

    I’ll definitely try out the different games to help her understand it in a playful way.

  4. Anonymous Guest #24

    It makes sense that she only wants mom when you're somewhere else. Just go with it; if you need to go to the bathroom, for example, you can put her on grandma's lap for a moment and say, "Mommy's going to pee for a bit, I'll pick you up soon." Reading up on this phase can be very enlightening.

    I think you're doing a good job. You have her best interests at heart.

    In my opinion, I was on topic because my view is that she needs mom and/or dad more.

    As you share more information, it becomes clear what other challenges you're facing and what you mean.

    It sounds like normal behavior for an 11-month-old baby.

  5. Anonymous Guest #25

    Forgot my name again, that's why I'm anonymous

    Beertje

  6. Betty #26

    It's a phase, and not a fun one. We have a farming business at home, so I have to work to keep the little one in mind. I had a playpen in the shed where he could play and stand safely. And oh, how much our son didn't agree with that sometimes. But since I had no choice and had to do it, he learned that nothing bad would happen, and even if I was out of his sight for a moment, I always came back. And once my work was done, I'd pick him up again and hold him close. I talk a lot, telling him where I am, what I'm doing, and why, and that I'll be back soon—and that I'm already back.

    I have one suggestion for spending more time with your girl. A housekeeper. Even if it's just for 2 hours to clean together, it's worth every penny. We don't really have much money either, but I make money for that; I'd rather sacrifice something else than my housekeeper. Especially because I also have to work, and our son has to adjust to that. But that's personal and just a suggestion.

  7. Anonymous Guest #27

    But what kind of tips would you want? It's really weird what you keep typing. Read it once? You have a child who cries quickly when you walk away, but what can you do about it? Nothing, right?

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