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  1. Tooby #61

    @Lot, earning more doesn't always mean working harder..Just saying.

  2. Lot #62

    Say that... people earn enough by staying at home and leaning on subsidies and institutions hahahahahaha (And I'm not talking about people who can't work, but those who choose not to work...)

  3. Anonymous Guest #63

    Go Lot!

  4. Tooby #64

    Lot, I'm talking about working. Staying at home and getting subsidies and benefits doesn't fall under ''earning'', but under receiving.
    There are a lot of hardworking people who earn the minimum and a lot of slackers in the office who pocket the big bonuses on top of their 50k+ salary.

  5. Falca #65

    Maybe Lot should swap a day with someone who works full-time but doesn't earn enough to get by without subsidies. When I see how much income tax you apparently have to pay in a year, you're well above the average income, and judging by your posts, you have no empathy for people who, despite working hard, are less lucky than you.

    I don't earn badly myself, but I earn just a bit more in a year than what you have to pay. Just saying...

  6. Falca #66

    And that’s a huge mess because?
    The rental subsidy they get goes entirely towards rent, is probably not enough, and you only get it for social housing. They can't afford places above that limit.
    Healthcare allowance goes entirely towards the basic insurance, which is mandatory, so you can't avoid it.
    They don't get childcare allowance because they're at home.
    Child benefit goes towards clothes, diapers, etc. for your child and is by no means enough to buy everything your child needs.
    Social assistance... well, oh wow, there goes the silver fund, that's below minimum wage.
    All in all, those people should be happy if they have 25 euros a week left for groceries. You might even have to go to the food bank then. Because gas, water, and electricity also have to be paid for, let alone a basic TV, internet subscription, or prepaid phone.
    Yeah, I guess I'll just stay at home too since I don't want to work... (seriously not)

  7. FiFi #67

    I don't get why people say being a stay-at-home mom is a full-time job. Sorry, but if you have to spend 40 hours a week on housework, just like I spend 40 hours a week on my job, I wonder what you can even come up with to keep yourself busy ...

    Besides that, I find it pretty selfish to already be wondering what you'll get if things ever go wrong with your husband...?

    If anything, at least work part-time so you have something of your own to fall back on. If things do go wrong, I don't think your ex should have to support you because you chose not to work for years.

    I don't like being completely dependent, precisely because if things go wrong, I want to be able to stand on my own two feet without completely milking my ex.

    But that's just my opinion . I also have all the respect for other people's opinions .

  8. Noor #68

    I can't quite tell from the OP whether they already have kids or if it's still a wish. Staying home to take care of the kids or not, that's something everyone has to figure out for themselves, but if you don't have kids yet, wouldn't you want to use that time to build something up? Experience, a bit of extra savings? Who knows how long it'll take for the kids to actually arrive; those kinds of things can be hard to plan sometimes. What will you have built up after all those years?

  9. Anonymous Guest #69

    Fifi, I don't think you're spending 40 hours a week cleaning the house either, but I could definitely come up with plenty of things to fill your time. If you stay home to look after the kids, you'll still need to entertain them for a good part of the day (especially if they're little), so you could actually do all those fun activities with them that they're currently doing at daycare. Drawing, crafting, painting, baking cookies, playing in the playground, walking through the woods, starting a little vegetable garden to see how things grow, visiting the petting zoo, etc.

  10. Tooby #70

    FiFi, I totally agree with you that being a stay-at-home mom isn't a full-time job, but it's still all day long. It's hard to count the hours when you're a SAHM.
    I have standard cleaning 'tasks' every day, and I don't do groceries every day but do them weekly. Then there's always something I do as a 'daily task', like Monday is laundry day, Tuesday is windows, Wednesday is mopping the floor, etc.
    Of course, I take more breaks than someone who works all day, but I don't get paid for it either.

    So I agree with you, haha, but it's not like there comes a point where there's nothing left to do. There's always something Especially with kids, but then you're more of a homemaker than just a SAHM.

  11. Nijntje #71

    Being a stay-at-home mom means taking care of your child all day, which in some cases can be harder than working. I'd rather work than stay at home. And it's written negatively that stay-at-home moms get money instead of earning it, which naturally depends on the reason—maybe someone is disabled. Anyway, everyone has their own opinion

  12. AngelRinoa87 #72

    Wow, I'm just reading along. But Lot, you can talk a big game... It's scientifically proven that kids who stay at home do worse socially. Then there are the kids who do go to daycare. Let me just say this: every child is different. My son happened to go to daycare from 6 months until he started primary school, compared to my little boy who is only going to preschool at 2.5 years old. My son (from daycare) would go off with a stranger because he saw all sorts of strangers coming and going at daycare, and he's less empathetic. My little boy who is going to preschool at 2.5 (and was only at home before that) was very social with other kids, genuinely cares for kids who are hurt, and looks at you twice and stays by my side before he even thinks about waving at a stranger. And great that you have acquaintances who work and do housework blah blah... but being a stay-at-home mom doesn't just mean doing housework. It means being there for your child. And my partner works all week from home. He's only home on weekends, and even he respects me because he finds it tough when we're both home and sees what it's like at home. Oh, and I used to work in daycare, and believe me, being a stay-at-home mom compared to being a childcare worker is way harder with more kids, you know why? Because they're not your own kids. So when they're picked up, it's no longer your responsibility. While being at home means it's your worries and your responsibility 24/7. And when the sun shines tomorrow, enjoy those few minutes when my little boy needs me again, which I also thoroughly enjoy!

  13. AngelRinoa87 #73

    Haha, I just read the date now... it's quite possible that Lot isn't even active here anymore

  14. Nijntje #74

    @angel that's what I mean, you're busy 24/7. At my work it's quieter but this is a very old thread, but some idiot came along and bumped it up again.

  15. AngelRinoa87 #75

    That idiot was me, I think.

  16. Nijntje #76

    @angel No, because I had already replied to that. I mean, that idiot was after me

  17. AngelRinoa87 #77

    My phone’s acting up, sometimes I don’t get all the messages. And then I check later and see them. Because I only saw yours and the English one later, even though I’d already replied

  18. Nijntje #78

    @angel

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