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First ultrasound - blood in the uterus and too small gestational sac - HELP!

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Tamara
Hi,

Last Monday we had our first ultrasound. We went there so happy and curious, since it would be the first time we'd see our little miracle! Unfortunately, this happiness didn't last long. I quickly noticed that you didn't see anything right away and that the gynecologist remained carefully silent.
The first thing he said was that there was quite a bit of blood in my uterus. After searching a lot, he found the gestational sac which was only 4 mm in size. This is way too small for 6.5 weeks of pregnancy.
From that moment on, I completely shut down, didn't say a word, and everything went by like a blur.
We have to come back in a week and a half to see how the gestational sac looks then. It could still be okay, but it's also possible that a miscarriage is forming.
Since the gestational sac was about 2 weeks "behind" and the gynecologist didn't seem very positive, we fear the worst.

It just won't sink in that after 2 years of fighting and going hospital in and out, we finally managed to get pregnant, and then it might go wrong so soon.
I'm also not really brave enough to go to the ultrasound next week, afraid of hearing that it really is wrong.

Is there anyone who had this too, but where it turned out okay in the end?

Best, Tamara

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  1. sietske #2

    Oh Tamara, how unfair it can be. I can imagine you're completely freaked out. Try to stay positive for now. As you said yourself, it could still turn out fine!
    Wishing you lots of strength for the coming week, and I really hope everything turns out okay!

    Sietske

  2. kimjoy #3

    Strength!
    Unfortunately, no positive outcome here.
    Now 22 weeks pregnant after 2 previous miscarriages.

    X

  3. * #4

    @Tamara,
    Strength Tamara, I'll be rooting for you..
    Love Ju

  4. Katie Guest #5

    Hi Tamara,
    That's really tough. I don't have any experience with this myself, but I can really imagine how hard it must be for you. My girlfriend went through the same thing and, unfortunately, it didn't end well. It's especially frustrating that you've been trying for a while and are finally pregnant, only to get something like this. You should definitely stay positive, but also try to prepare yourself for less good news. Unfortunately, these things happen, and that's very sad. I believe 100% that you'll be walking around with a very healthy baby one day. But that doesn't help you right now, of course. Try not to drive yourself crazy, whatever the outcome is. It'll all work out in the end; sometimes things just need a bit more time. Keep us posted?
    Katie

  5. Tamara started this #6

    Hi ladies,

    Thanks for your heartwarming replies.
    It's a shame there aren't any stories from girls where it turned out okay in the end, but I guess I kind of expected that.
    I had initially decided to expect the worst, so that next week it could only get better, but I just can't manage that. I find myself secretly hoping and still thinking about it. A few times a day it sinks in that the chances are high that it's not okay, followed by tears.
    So this week I'm trying to think more about myself and if I don't really feel like doing something, I just don't do it, and just hope that next week comes quickly.
    I'll definitely keep you posted, because any support during this time is very welcome

    Best, Tamara

  6. * #7

    @Tamara,
    I wish you all the best and hope everything works out. Here’s a little poem for you.

    A butterfly flies lightly over the grass
    He’s a bit sad because he once was a little human.
    He’s sorrowful, and his little heart hurts,
    He has only one wish, and that is to be with his mom.
    He flies to a little house, far from the field, because
    His mom lives there, he was told.
    He looks through the window, and suddenly he’s happy
    No longer trapped in his own sadness, but finally free.
    He looked through the window and saw what he wanted to know.
    His mom still loved him and will never forget him.
    Then the little butterfly flies back over the grass,
    Proud and strong because he once was a little human......

    Strength and love, Ju

  7. Olivia-Anna #8

    Oh Tamara
    That’s so awful for you, dealing with that uncertainty!!
    Girl, I really hope you can tell us in a week and a half that things are looking better!!
    I’ll be cheering for you in the meantime!!
    Stories like this always touch me so deeply..

    Strength and try to give it a place for now!!

    @ Ju: What a beautiful poem!! Hope it gives you some strength!

  8. Tamara started this #9

    Wow, what a really beautiful poem. When I read it, the tears came right back. Thank you so much!

    On the other hand, I'm afraid things really went wrong. Last night I had a few contractions in my belly, after which I lost some old blood. Now I've had this nagging feeling in my belly all the time, but no more bleeding.

    On the one hand, I find it really hard, but on the other hand, I'm also glad if it starts naturally and I don't have to be induced.

    Thanks anyway for all the support!!

  9. * #10

    @Tamara,
    I hope it's all the best for you, and I really hope it goes naturally.. Processing and then maybe you'll hear in a few weeks that you're among the lucky ones who are pregnant again.. and NO complications PLEASE for you..
    Stay strong and watch out for those beautiful butterflies in the coming days, draw energy from them, you deserve it, girl....

    Love and lots of strength, Ju

  10. * #11

    @Olivia-Anna,
    Thank you so much! How are you doing? Are you already done celebrating :-), or do you still have the village festival going on hihihi.. How’s your little girl doing.. And of course, how’s everything else around her..

    Love, Ju

  11. Iza #12

    Hi Tamara,
    That's really tough. First such a long journey to get pregnant, and now this uncertainty. We all wish you lots of luck and are thinking of you.
    Keep us posted if you'd like...

  12. Olivia-Anna Beekman #13

    Oh, I don't even know what to say!!
    I feel so bad for you both!! Definitely try to keep a memento of it!!
    An ultrasound photo or the test you used..
    Talk about it at length with your partner and especially:
    Give yourself time to process it..

    Strength to you both!!

  13. Tamara started this #14

    Unfortunately, it didn't end well.
    Every day I lost a bit more old blood, and since last night I've been losing fresh blood.
    I called the hospital and there's no other way than that I've had a miscarriage

    I have to go back to the hospital tomorrow to see if everything has already passed, but I don't think so. I'm not losing that much blood anyway, so I'm curious what they'll say.
    I do have a lot of lower back pain, but luckily the other pain is manageable.

    The blow really hit hard, even though we had already assumed things weren't going well. That little bit of hope you still had is gone in an instant.
    Now I'm trying to process this somehow

    Thanks for all the support!

  14. tammi #15

    Hi Tamara, not nice to hear that, girl.
    I know how you feel; I had a miscarriage in March too. But when you know it's not going to be okay, the blow is heavy. Talk about it with your partner or boyfriend.
    Let it sink in—that's what I thought when I got pregnant right after.
    It's hard because this is something that stays with you—the little angel.
    Stay strong, okay?
    Love, Tammi

  15. Dani #16

    Hi Tamara,

    That's really sad... I understand that Hope wants to prepare herself for it too, since the blow is quite hard...

    Good luck and lots of strength to you both.

  16. * #17

    @Tamara,
    I also want to wish you lots of strength once again from my side. Hang in there, girl, hopefully, next time you'll have very good news. Strength

    Love, Ju

  17. Tineke #18

    I feel so bad for you guys. Lots of strength, Tamara!

  18. Cin #19

    That's so sad! I wish you both lots of strength!

  19. Lindsay Guest #20

    I went through the same thing: an ultrasound at 6 weeks and 4 days, and the gestational sac was way too small. The heartbeat was there, though. A week and a half later, I had to come back, hoping the sac had grown. At the 8-week scan, the heartbeat was gone, and growth had stopped at 7 weeks. The next day, I went straight to the hospital and had a suction curettage under anesthesia. It was 1 day ago. Emotionally, it's really heavy, but physically I didn't have any pain. I'm with you in this. Strength!

    Greetings, Lindsay

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