The birth
Experiences with a second natural birth after a complete rupture during the first?
Josephine Yperman
Hi Olivia-Anna,
It was absolutely not my intention to scare anyone about childbirth!
The whole delivery was okay 75% of the time. Only towards the end did I wish - looking back - that they had left me alone. It wasn't even a bad hospital, quite the opposite (and not in Belgium, by the way). The stitching of the rupture was, by the way, according to my gynecologist - who wasn't present during the delivery - absolutely masterful work. And I believe him, given the fact that I recovered quickly.
Of course, I didn't really know what a delivery entailed during my first one either. How could I? So then you're more inclined to believe the "professionals" when they tell you to do this or that. Looking back, I have to say that my body actually knew exactly what to do. I just needed to bite my tongue and say that it's my delivery and I ultimately decide what and how. Now I know that. But well, as said: you're wiser in hindsight.
The fact is that I'm now worried that a similar rupture might happen if I deliver vaginally. A C-section avoids this problem, but brings its own issues. And I find C-sections so passive, in a way, if you know what I mean. I really want a natural birth...
My current gynecologist recommends a C-section, and my midwife says I need to gather a lot of information and make a decision based on that. According to her, I do have a choice. (Let's just say I'm still looking for a definitive midwife ;-))
It's really a difficult decision. That's why I'd love to hear how others have made this decision...
Have you already decided how/where you want to give birth? Anyway, it's not something you need to be terrified of. Not easy, but you can do it.
Enjoy the belly-baby!
It was absolutely not my intention to scare anyone about childbirth!
The whole delivery was okay 75% of the time. Only towards the end did I wish - looking back - that they had left me alone. It wasn't even a bad hospital, quite the opposite (and not in Belgium, by the way). The stitching of the rupture was, by the way, according to my gynecologist - who wasn't present during the delivery - absolutely masterful work. And I believe him, given the fact that I recovered quickly.
Of course, I didn't really know what a delivery entailed during my first one either. How could I? So then you're more inclined to believe the "professionals" when they tell you to do this or that. Looking back, I have to say that my body actually knew exactly what to do. I just needed to bite my tongue and say that it's my delivery and I ultimately decide what and how. Now I know that. But well, as said: you're wiser in hindsight.
The fact is that I'm now worried that a similar rupture might happen if I deliver vaginally. A C-section avoids this problem, but brings its own issues. And I find C-sections so passive, in a way, if you know what I mean. I really want a natural birth...
My current gynecologist recommends a C-section, and my midwife says I need to gather a lot of information and make a decision based on that. According to her, I do have a choice. (Let's just say I'm still looking for a definitive midwife ;-))
It's really a difficult decision. That's why I'd love to hear how others have made this decision...
Have you already decided how/where you want to give birth? Anyway, it's not something you need to be terrified of. Not easy, but you can do it.
Enjoy the belly-baby!
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Iza #2
Isn't it a good idea to get a second opinion from another doctor (who might have more experience with complicated natural births)? I'd definitely try that, even if it means going to a different (larger) hospital. You could then discuss this with your own gynecologist. Good luck!!! -
Lis Guest #3
I'm facing exactly the same dilemma. Last time I had a total rupture and an inflamed wound for months. So now they're suggesting I consider induction at 38 weeks to keep the baby a bit smaller and make delivery easier. Unless they see at 36 weeks that it won't fit, in which case it'll be a C-section at 39 weeks. So I get to decide, but it's such a tough choice.
Maybe the closer you get to the birth, the better you can decide at that moment. It's still a while away, though. Just have a good chat with them by then; maybe your perspective will have changed by then. -
Sofie #4
Had that with my first too. He was a star-gazer and over 4 kilos. When I was pregnant with the second, they checked if everything was okay again and I was lucky enough to have a natural birth. It went super well, home birth in 1.5 hours and no tears, and also a baby of over 4 kilos. The third one can now be born at home again.
Lis, I'd just have it checked out for you too. -
Deytje Guest #5
Same here. I had a complete rupture, a 4th degree tear, and now I’ve been dealing with an infection for 4 weeks that just won’t go away.
Because of a mistake by the midwife, I’m now living with a fear of a second birth (I shouldn’t have had to push, I knew my baby weighed more than 4 kilos, and she didn’t help me with shoulder rotation, so both shoulders came out equally during pushing. According to the midwife, both baby and I did great, heart rate was consistently good, etc.)
For a second pregnancy, they recommend a C-section instead of a normal birth. So many wishes crushed all at once—I wanted 4 kids and preferably a normal birth, but now they advise against it.
So I’d love to hear what your choice is and how your birth went.
I’d appreciate it if you could leave a reply here after your birth or add me on Facebook (dey yig) ?
Wishing you lots of success!!
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