Pregnant and working
Pregnant and starting a new job
AnoniemGuest ·
I'm pregnant with my first baby. I only found out a week ago. I'm already 9 weeks pregnant.
The pregnancy was totally unplanned, so my partner and I aren't exactly in a perfect situation.
I resigned from my old job with a permanent contract on July 31st (officially I had done this on June 30th when I still didn't know I was pregnant). And today I started my new job where I got a 6-month contract. So when my contract ends, I'll immediately go on leave... I estimate the chance is very high that I'll lose my job soon. If I had known this earlier, I would never have resigned from my old job.
My partner has been unemployed at home for a year and currently has no prospects for work. He keeps applying every week but keeps getting rejected (he has no education and unfortunately, for all unskilled work, they now want cheap labor).
I really want to keep the baby and can't bring myself to have an abortion. But I am now afraid for the future. My new job is a super exciting challenge with good working conditions, and I'm putting all that at risk because of my pregnancy. I'm allowed to tell them I'm pregnant in 3 weeks, and I'll only have been there for 3 weeks...
Has anyone experienced the same thing?
The pregnancy was totally unplanned, so my partner and I aren't exactly in a perfect situation.
I resigned from my old job with a permanent contract on July 31st (officially I had done this on June 30th when I still didn't know I was pregnant). And today I started my new job where I got a 6-month contract. So when my contract ends, I'll immediately go on leave... I estimate the chance is very high that I'll lose my job soon. If I had known this earlier, I would never have resigned from my old job.
My partner has been unemployed at home for a year and currently has no prospects for work. He keeps applying every week but keeps getting rejected (he has no education and unfortunately, for all unskilled work, they now want cheap labor).
I really want to keep the baby and can't bring myself to have an abortion. But I am now afraid for the future. My new job is a super exciting challenge with good working conditions, and I'm putting all that at risk because of my pregnancy. I'm allowed to tell them I'm pregnant in 3 weeks, and I'll only have been there for 3 weeks...
Has anyone experienced the same thing?
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Anoniem started this #2
Is there anyone who has been in the same situation, with a new job too? -
Monkey #3
I haven't had the same situation, but something similar happened to me.
In February 2012 I started working in a shop, and in April I was promised a permanent contract.
It got postponed every time, and then I got pregnant in July. I didn't tell them until early September. I was 10 weeks pregnant, I think.
They kept promising me a permanent contract, but kept postponing it. When I finally had to tell them I was pregnant, the response was 'yes, then we can't give you a contract anymore'. Hello??
I can't help you much, because now I'm actually glad I didn't get a permanent contract there. I left in December 2012.
Now I'm pregnant again, but I work for the family business, so you can't really compare the situations.
Anyway, hopefully you'll find a solution that makes you feel good about it, and that your partner agrees with.
Good luck! -
Amy #4
The day I started my new job was the first day of my last period. So I also had that moment, oh no, now I have to tell them. I know you don't have to tell them at 12 weeks! Legally, you're required to inform them at the latest 3 months before your due date. But it's naturally better to tell them earlier because then you also have certain rights. The FNV website also has a lot of info.
I ended up telling them at 11 weeks. I work a lot with people and had to cry everywhere if it got sad or if there was even a little resistance, so yes, I felt I had to explain it. I had a temporary contract that was extended until leave, and because I was out for 4 months, I could just come back to my position with a new contract after my leave. -
marijkevanes #5
I had the same experience, but I had a one-year contract, so my maternity leave fell within that contract. It’s naturally very dependent on the type of organization and your boss. But I told them very early on (before I actually started) and mentioned that I understood it was unpleasant, but I wanted to be honest. My new boss knew before most of my friends. He reacted pretty okay.
Then I worked my butt off to prove that they had made a good choice in hiring me (and it was pretty tough with pelvic pain and a toddler at home). After my maternity leave, however, I didn’t get the promised permanent contract, but a temporary extension with the prospect of permanency. That was really a letdown after I had given it my all. I continued applying and now have a super nice new job (and I’m pregnant with the third
). With this new job, I just got my permanent contract after first having a one-year temporary contract, while I was already pregnant.
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