Sensitive topic!

What I wanted to add is:
You obviously need to know what you're doing; it's your life and your baby's life.
But don't be surprised if people strongly disapprove of this.
Besides, you're definitely not stupid; you're very aware of how bad smoking is when you're pregnant. Precisely because you're so aware of it, I personally think it's really bad that you keep smoking and put your baby's health at risk.
And

And I used to be a smoker myself, 2 packs a day. I quit after 9 months with a lot of effort.
Now I only smoke at parties, never otherwise.
But if I got pregnant again, I would quit for 9 months and also stop smoking at parties.
As a mother, it's no longer about you, but about your baby.
And you shouldn't be surprised if people can't understand that you smoke while you're pregnant and are still aware of how bad it is.
Smoking is bad, you just can't make it look nicer.
But if you can't quit, that's fine, you have to know that yourself.
Greetings, Madelene

Compliment to Anonymous, very well said
That was exactly what I didn't understand about your post: why you bring up all those other things that have nothing to do with this.
Or is that supposed to distract from the bad things you're doing for your baby right now?
And I'm not saying what you should or shouldn't do.
You have to figure that out yourself.
But I'm glad I'm not the one with the baby in my belly right now.
Maybe you should watch some YouTube videos about babies who have a hard time in the womb of a smoking mother.
You yourself don't notice any of it, but it does happen to the baby in the womb.
Every time you take a puff, the baby cramps up from lack of oxygen.
If you still light one after that, I find that impressive.
Greetings, Madelene.

That's exactly it, Eline. Your baby can be born without any problems, but then it seems so easy, but the little body has already endured a lot in the womb. Think about it: you're in a small space because the womb gets smaller as the baby grows. You're in a room full of smoke and tar around you, and you can't move anywhere for months. That's just terrible.

But anyway, to get back to the birth, it's actually the dangerous consequences later in life that matter. In their adult life, they're more susceptible to lung diseases, heart problems, and more. Because the body has been exposed to carcinogenic substances for 9 months. Don't focus on the baby being healthy at birth. No, look beyond that; it's about later on.

Plus de hersentjes in wording hebben dankzij de sigaret ook weinig zuurstof gekregen en dat kan ook later zich pas uiten.

I wanted to reply to this comment as well.
First of all, I'm far from perfect
and I definitely admit that. I just do my utmost best to do what's best for my kids as well as I can.
I also think it's only normal that when you're a mother, you put yourself aside for a moment, that's what mothers are for.
I used to be a chain smoker, one cigarette after the other, two packs a day. But I stopped with great effort and even pain because quitting smoking hurts, I know it's also a mental addiction.
But when I got pregnant with my eldest daughter, I quit, no matter how hard it was.
I became tearful and really cried every day.
I often slept to get through the day.
To not have to feel the pain of withdrawal from cigarettes.
But it eventually got better.
Fortunately, it didn't last long, but still.
I couldn't bear the thought that my baby was getting smoke inside her womb, that's what kept me going.
I didn't smoke during my maternity leave either.
And only started smoking again after the maternity leave, not with the little one, of course.
Just outside.
With the second one, I did the same from the moment I knew I was pregnant.
Didn't even touch a cigarette.
Not during the maternity leave either.
Now I don't smoke anymore, except on birthdays, otherwise not at all.
Now about the part where you say you don't smoke.
You don't have a guarantee of a healthy baby.
No, that's true, but I do think there's a difference whether you consciously expose your child to carcinogens with all sorts of consequences or if the baby just gets sick by nature.
One you have control over, and the baby getting sick by chance, you don't.
It's a bit of a weird example, I have to admit.
But well, everyone has their own explanation.
Furthermore, you often only see in the adult life of such a person, who sat in a womb with smoke, whether they are more susceptible to cancer and heart diseases, whatever.
And you don't have to see that right at birth.
Furthermore, regardless of whether a baby gets sick or not from the mother's smoke,
I think the baby choking with every puff is reason enough not to light a cigarette.
Like when you watched a program on RTL 4 where you saw the fetus shrink after every puff, then you also see more what it does to such a little one.
It's a shame that some people need images for that.
But well, everyone really has to figure out for themselves what they do or take in during pregnancy.
But then you have to be able to handle the truth.
Greetings, Madelene