Recognition

That's right. It's important to get everything sorted out properly. For example, if you were to pass away, it doesn't automatically mean the little one would go to your husband. You can have this documented at the notary, though it does cost a bit. We had a small wedding, which was very romantic, and I've never regretted it for a moment. We're planning to throw a big celebration for family and friends in a few years. Only our parents, siblings, and grandparents were at our wedding. We got married because we both wanted to do it ourselves. You really need to want it for yourself, not just because your mother-in-law wants it.

Good luck with getting everything sorted.

Anonymous is right, I have nothing more to add. I'm also married because I found the whole recognition, custody, etc. thing a bit of a hassle.

Good luck with everything, and who knows, maybe you'll get married too

Love, sweetheart

You can indeed recognize the unborn child, which means both of you support it. However, this isn't a guarantee of joint custody. After you give birth, you'll receive forms in the mail that you need to fill out. On those papers, you can indicate that you want joint custody. That's how we did it before we got married. If you don't fill out the papers or send them back without the father signing, then you, as the mother, will have custody. It's possible that things have changed now and you can indicate this when recognizing the unborn child, but a few years ago, that wasn't the case. So you can always check if you're going to recognize the unborn child. Good luck in advance!

After the birth, you get a form. You need to fill it out and both sign it. This is sent to the court. The father then has just as much authority as the mother. For that reason, you don't need to get married anymore... It still works the way Troeltje says... Our daughter is 5 months old.

Yeah, what's mentioned above. After you give birth, you'll get a form for your partner to request custody. You can send it in or hand it in at the court. This doesn't cost anything at all. You're definitely not obligated to get married. If you don't want to marry, you can always enter into a registered partnership. You can also get the same last name as your partner and child.