Bottle or breastfeeding?

Absolutely breastfeeding!!!
Who wouldn't want the absolute best for their baby!!
(For dad, you can pump and he can give the bottle!)

Don't give up too soon!
And don't stress, take it easy and do it at your own pace!!
Start right after birth (my daughter was completely naked on my belly the first time!)
Milk supply always comes in if you keep latching on, and they really do latch eventually!! You don't need huge breasts or big nipples!
The pain when latching goes away suddenly after 3 weeks!!

"It didn't work" is rarely justified, according to my midwife.
Most women give up too soon or are too stressed.

Bottle feeding doesn't contain antioxidants, you have to constantly adjust and reweigh, maybe even change brands? And then there's the heating up and throwing away.
Oh, heading home because I don't have enough with me..
And often you get real "formula" babies.

I just do it naturally as Mother Nature intended and haven't noticed any downsides or hassle!!
I feel really good about it.

But everyone has to decide for themselves what's best in their situation.

I'm getting a bit uneasy about Olivia's post. It's nice that your midwife says it's rarely unfounded, but unfortunately, that's not how it works in practice.

Breastfeeding is definitely hard work to get going, but your bond with your child doesn't become less if they get a bottle.

I can tell you don't give bottles, because there are contradictory things in your story. The formula is constantly the same brand; it's not good to switch brands. If you give formula, you know roughly what your child needs, so you always have it with you and also always have warm water. So you don't need to go home at all? What are "pap" kids? Most bottle-fed babies are slim, and breastfed babies are chubby with lots of folds. It's not about the bottle or breast, but about the amount the kids or babies get. Also, the baby can build a bond with dad right away.

I'd let the woman choose herself! Where she feels comfortable!

Oh, that's not very nice of your friend!! If you're breastfeeding, I have respect for that. I would never react like your friend, which is so rude!!!

I felt really attacked because I had done everything in my power to breastfeed my daughter. Unfortunately, I just had a miscarriage and I really wanted to breastfeed, but my daughter ended up bottle-fed. She's now a beautiful, slim, and incredibly tall 6-year-old girl.

Oh Kate, that's so awful for you!!
Hopefully you can find a place to put it,
I'm really sorry for what you're going through.

And I definitely didn't mean to attack you.
It's also partly my overenthusiasm,
I love breastfeeding so much that I'd push it on everyone!!
As a mother, you know when it's just not working anymore,
and no one should interfere with that.
And apparently, it was justified in your case with those neck problems, as I read now.

Oh, and no, they won't get fat later because of it, that's not how it works.

Are you doing okay?
I can't even imagine dealing with that...

I gave my daughter formula because my internist advised against breastfeeding, saying it would take too much from me. And breastfeeding doesn't have to be healthy. It depends on how you live. My daughter thrived well on formula. And I think it's bullshit that breastfed kids have a higher IQ. My 21-month-old is already walking ahead and saying full sentences. And she understands everything after hearing it once. I often hear how smart she is for her age. If I could have breastfed, I would have, but I was advised against it. I respect that if someone breastfeeds, so people should do that if someone gives formula. I also want to say that my daughter has never been sick and thrived well, but isn't very chubby. And she never had colic and slept through for 6 hours in the first week. And my daughter only lost 20 grams after birth, so she could sleep through.

Oh yeah, you can write about bottle feeding here. Otherwise, you'll only get complaints and discussions. Everyone should decide for themselves what they choose. Both choices are good. So respect whatever choice someone makes.

I'm also going to breastfeed,
and probably also pump milk for when my partner is home alone or has to get up at night.
And also when I have to go back to work and I have to wake up at 4 am, my partner can continue giving the bottle that I've pumped.
Many people want to breastfeed but it doesn't work out because of the pain because the baby sucks too hard.
And then maybe pumping will work.
Has anyone pumped?

I gave breast milk during the maternity week.. but the little guy just wasn't gaining weight.. so I started giving formula first and now he's completely switched to bottle feeding. Now he's gaining weight properly again and is much more active.. I wanted to breastfeed but unfortunately I just didn't have enough milk for him..