we're going for it

Hi Jaimy,

in 3 days it's your NOD, I'm curious.

Are you secretly a bit nervous or are you not thinking about it at all?
I try to think about it as little as possible, that's probably better.

Hopefully you're pregnant!

Greetings x

Hi Jaimy.

Yeah, that's right, you naturally think about it so you don't get disappointed, but if you find out you're not pregnant after all, it's still a bummer.

Hopefully it's not as bad as you think and you are pregnant.

Let me know if you hear anything, I'm quite curious.

Greetings x

Hi Jaimy.

Yeah, I get what you mean. It's always in your head, and you don't want to focus on it, but it happens on its own.

I hope you stay positive and that you're pregnant too.

Things are going well for me as well. I'm just waiting... my period isn't here yet, and I'm almost in my fertile window. But it's definitely on my mind.

For me, this is only the first cycle and the first month off the pill, and I'm probably still "detoxing" from it, so I shouldn't expect much yet. But since I have absolutely no patience, everything feels so long. That's why I'm glad I have this forum. My family doesn't know I've stopped the pill; it's annoying having to say every time that I'm not pregnant yet. So only my boyfriend knows, and two friends. One friend is pregnant, and the other... well, she wants to get pregnant but also doesn't want to, so I don't say too much to her hehe (not meant to be rude, though). My boyfriend doesn't really want to get too involved either, so he doesn't get disappointed. So yeah, this forum is nice to type your feelings out. My boyfriend understands me, but not everything—some things you really need to discuss with other women hehe.

Greetings x

Hi Jaimy,

Yeah, this is my first round so I find it really nerve-wracking, and yeah, for some it goes fast and for others it takes a long time.
I think I'm also in my "unpeeling" phase right now.

Yeah, that's pretty rough. Do you often think back to your first pregnancy?
How did you actually cope with it? Because yeah, it's something you have to process. You really want a baby, you're finally pregnant after 7 months, and then you get an ectopic pregnancy.
I understand that you're nervous and wondering when you'll be pregnant again. I wish I could tell you, but sorry, I can't haha.

Yeah, true. I live in an environment where a lot of people are pregnant or have just had a baby, and then I sometimes have those thoughts too, but yeah, I'm just starting out. I find it quite nice and cozy though. You see it that way, and then I sometimes think I wouldn't do it like that, but then hahah and you learn things, I think.

And I understand your reaction that you find it stupid to only do it on Sundays. You naturally want to do it on your most fertile days, but that's not always possible in your case, and I think that's really a pity for you. And indeed, I would have given that reaction too. You can't do it alone; you really need your partner for that hihi.

But I know it'll be okay.

I'm from the Netherlands (you probably already noticed from my typing haha) Tilburg-North Brabant.

Best,

x

Hi Jaimy,

Yeah, I get it, or rather, I can imagine how you feel. And yeah, I understand you're scared about that. Luckily, the gynecologist said you can still get pregnant, and hopefully, you'll be soon and have a healthy baby.

Have you still not seen your period? I hope he stays away haha.

Yeah, it's nice to be able to talk like this and share your feelings without someone saying "yeah, that won't work." At first, I thought it was weird that I already wanted a baby, because usually women are older, and if it's at our age, the baby is often unplanned.

I hope we can talk together about pregnancy and babies soon.

Greetings x

Hi Jaimy,

Yeah, you're right. We're not teenagers anymore, it's our choice, and I feel good about it. I think some people might be shocked at first, but they'll get used to it after a while.

I enjoyed the sunshine today, and tonight I'm going out for dinner.

What did you do today? And what do you do for work? Or did I already ask that?

Love, x

Hi Jaimy,

Oh that's nice to do!
Yes, I'm very happy with my boyfriend.

I work as a cleaner, not the ideal job but that'll come later. Or well, I'll see how it goes.

Oh so you also had a nice day, still no period?
Greetings
x

Hi Jaimy,

haha yeah, I’ve also not always had the best friends hahaha.

Yeah, I could actually keep working. If you have a baby and work full-time, you usually have to cut back, right? Most women do that. Since I already work part-time (day and night shifts), I could still work nights when I have a baby, so my partner can be with the baby then. During the day, I’d be with the baby and my partner would be at work, so we wouldn’t need to look for childcare.

My partner works full-time, and yeah, financially it would mostly come down to him since I wouldn’t earn enough to live on. But I do have some savings to chip in and pay for things. Working means I’m not home all day and I’m busy, which feels good. And when the little one starts school, I can always look into more work or further education, though I don’t think I’ll go back to school myself. I don’t really enjoy going to school; I never really had that experience, and it has nothing to do with wanting kids.

OOH EXCITING!!!! That you still don’t have your period yet. Hopefully, he stays away hahaha. It’s weird actually. You used to always want your period because you were afraid you were pregnant, and now you want to be pregnant and don’t want your period, and then you get your period haha.

Sometimes I wish I could just stop those thoughts or put them aside. I’ve never felt this way before, but I think about it constantly. And the craziest part is that everyone around me is pregnant or has just had a baby. Even people you see walking on the street haha. It’s seriously not normal. Or maybe I’m just noticing it more now, but I don’t know haha.

Yeah, I have Facebook, but no one there knows about my desire for kids (especially not family, etc.).

How are you doing?
Did you do any further education?
Do you already have baby names in mind? haha silly, but yes, I do. I don’t know why haha.
Sometimes I also look at baby nurseries. I don’t know why, but I just find it nice, and I get some ideas sometimes, haha you never know.

Greetings x

Hi Jaimy.

Haha yes, that's really sweet of your mom. Does your family know about your wish for kids?

Haha I don't know you but I can already picture you secretly doing a little happy dance haha, I would too!!!

Yeah, it's really annoying that everyone's pregnant, but I do wish them well haha, or well, the people I know haha.

Haha what names do you have in mind if I may ask?

The rooms are really cute, yes, and beautiful.

Wishing you well in advance and have a nice evening.

Greetings x (ps you can add me on Facebook but don't tell anyone about being pregnant or anything hahaha)

Hi Jaimy,

Yeah, I get that you had to tell them back then.

How are you doing? Do you still not have any news?

I'll send you a private message on my Facebook.

Greetings x