Daughter doesn't want to sleep in her own bed.

Hi Maan,

My oldest slept with us until she was 2. I was heavily pregnant with the youngest, so Dad went with her to her room. He slept on her mattress, and I ended up in our bedroom with the baby. That way, we all got some rest and sleep.

Eventually, she herself indicated when she felt it was enough and wanted to sleep alone.

Now, with the youngest, we're doing it exactly the same way. Our third is due in February, and then my 3-year-old toddler will move to her own new room, and Dad will guide her through it.

We really wanted to give our kids that feeling of security. We don't think co-sleeping is that important; we make sure to have plenty of togetherness and intimacy moments.

Good luck!

Hi Maan,
I missed your reply, I'm reading it now! You're welcome and good luck, it'll definitely work out

Best, Joyce

My youngest (13 months) I could put to sleep in her own bed while she was asleep, but if she was awake it was a disaster. Or if she woke up when I put her back down. A few weeks ago I was just fed up and went to sit with her in her room. When she cried and stood up, I put her back down without saying anything. This took me 2 hours. Then she slept. Next evening half an hour. Now it's alternating. Sometimes she sleeps without fussing and I can just walk away. But sometimes she protests a bit and then I stay with her a little longer. Breaking a habit doesn't always go without crying. Comforting is fine then, but giving in just backfires. They also learn boundaries in other ways. If they want to eat all the cookies you also say no... if they cry then you don't say here you go eat them all. It's the same with this. Here it has at least brought more peace. And I have my evenings back again. Nice when you have 3 other kids.