Friend puts you aside

Hi everyone. I want to ask you ladies something, from a male perspective. My girlfriend and I have only been together for 4 months and, after an earlier unexpected miscarriage, we had consciously chosen to try for a baby. Now my girlfriend is 7 weeks pregnant and everything was fine, the heartbeat was there and the baby was about 1 cm. However, on the day of the ultrasound, she reacted differently than usual. It seemed like she wasn't happy. She suddenly left that evening because a friend needed her. A bit weird, but okay, it can happen. I didn't make a big deal out of it. However, later that same evening we got into an argument and she kicked me out. For the next two days we still talked to each other, and we both said the contact felt weird and that we missed each other. But she wants some space. We still slept together, cuddled, had sex and interacted normally for two more evenings. But then the next two days she was completely the opposite. She's short, doesn't call me sweetheart anymore and seems to ignore me more often, plus she's putting all the blame on me. She says everything has become too much for her right now and she's blocking her feelings, she doesn't say she hates me or that I suddenly mean nothing to her.
Has anyone experienced this? We're supposed to be enjoying this time together, not being apart and arguing... I know she's been having a lot of nausea and cramps lately and I can't be there for her in the way I want to, which I find really hard. What's going on?
Thanks in advance for your responses.

Hi White, first of all, congratulations on your pregnancy, and I hope it goes smoothly. But what a tough situation. It's natural for a woman to struggle with all those hormones. In the first few weeks, I wasn't exactly fun to be around either, and I'd get incredibly angry at my husband over the smallest things. What helped me a lot was that my husband kept talking to me, and I appreciated the simplest gestures. Ask her how she's doing, offer to help. Maybe bring breakfast in bed, or have lunch just for the two of you. But in this situation, talking is the most important thing. It's your baby, and you both consciously chose to have it, so I assume she wants to keep you involved in her life, and later in your child's life.
I hope you find my tips helpful, and if you have any more questions, feel free to ask! Wishing you all the best.

Friend puts you aside

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