Baby wish and job

Tess, I understand your doubts, I'm also such a worrier. I've had a really nice job for a year and a half, and I know they chose me in the second interview round. In the first round, there was also a suitable candidate, but they passed on her because she could only work 4 days a week instead of 5. The reason for this was a (job-related) training course.

Despite knowing that they want someone for full-time, I still hope to get pregnant very soon, and then I'd have to start working part-time. So I'm also very curious what they'll do with my contract later on.

I could wait for a permanent contract, which would only be after 3 years, but suppose there's a crisis, and they don't do it, then I'd be facing the same uncertainty with another employer. The same applies to your situation.

But looking at it from the other side: suppose you don't go through with this application, you try to get pregnant, but it doesn't work, then you'd have let a nice job slip by!

I'm someone who goes for security, but I can tell you that you never have complete security, and if you're such a worrier as I am, then "it never quite works out perfectly" to get pregnant.

My advice: go for that job, do your best with the application, let nature do its thing in the meantime, and see what life brings you! Maybe you'll turn out to be an asset to the company, and they'll accept that you'll have to work less in the long run.

Good luck, girl!!

My opinion:
It rarely happens that your desire for children comes true, but on the other hand, if the desire is strong, the best option is to make it happen!
Personally, I would never put my wish for children on hold for a job, and especially not wait three years since you're already 32 (as you yourself say). I assume you don't even get it in writing that they won't fire you in the next three years? Personally, I also find the mentality of the company quite old-fashioned; they have no say in your private life anyway.

Maybe start with the job and then make your decision?

Hi Tess,
I came across this forum because I'm in a similar situation.
I'm 23, happily married, and looking for a job. In our case, we really need my salary to be able to conceive, or we'll have to wait a few more years. However, I don't want to wait because the desire for a baby is so strong. Both my husband and I want to try for a baby around the New Year. But first, I need to have a job. My husband has a good job, but we currently have no savings. I'm also wondering if the company will keep me if I announce my pregnancy shortly after starting, but I don't want to delay my wish for a child for the sake of a job! I also strongly feel that my body is ready and I can barely think of anything else.
Personally, I think you should take your age into account. Even though you're still young at 32, you're already getting older for pregnancy. If you delay it by a few more years, you'll have a higher chance of complications.
I agree with Iza's advice, and that's how my husband and I are approaching it too.
Start with the job first, and then decide whether or not you want to get pregnant.

Since you're already 32 and never have the certainty that they'll offer you a permanent contract later on, I'd definitely not put your desire for children on hold.
You could also just take the job. For example, if you have a one-year contract and get pregnant during that year, there's a chance they won't offer you a contract for the next year. I'd think: I'll figure it out then!
Work is fine for me, but I'm not letting my life be dictated by work.