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high-risk pregnancy

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Bibabeloe
We’re 15 weeks pregnant. Since we found out there’s another miracle growing in my belly, we’ve been on high alert. This is because the first pregnancy didn’t go smoothly. I had to lie flat from 28 weeks, spent a week in the hospital, and had a preterm birth at 35 weeks.

Now we feel like we can’t enjoy it. We’re scared of going into labor too early, scared that our baby won’t be healthy. The OB-GYN clearly said we need to mentally prepare for this again. Our son had already dropped at 28 weeks, and my cervix was very short. During the weekly check-ups, it kept getting shorter.

Are there any other ladies here who have a high-risk pregnancy and how do THEY cope with it?

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  1. Hartje #2

    Hi, same here, risk of developing TTS. In percentages 10-15%, so also a big chance of not, but indeed, you're different in pregnancy. Despite that, still try to enjoy it.. Did everything end up okay with your first?

  2. Bibabeloe started this #3

    Hey Heart,
    Yes, my son ended up only being on the neonatal ward for 14 days. He didn't have any lasting issues other than being small for his age. But in terms of development, he's right on track with his peers.
    I just want to enjoy this pregnancy a bit more because we've decided to stop trying effectively after this. It's hard because you're always on guard for symptoms. The fact that the gynecologist says there's a 70% chance of it happening again (placenta previa & preterm birth) worries me quite a bit. I really want to reach 36 weeks. Normally, the baby can be on the ward with you then. I couldn't experience that with our first. Because of that, when we brought him home, I felt a bit 'lost'. I wasn't in his rhythm and really had to get into it. This caused me a lot of stress because I found it hard to feel him. Also, breastfeeding only got worse once he was home. In the hospital, the nurses knew his rhythm well. But at home, it was really a search for me then...
    What exactly is TTS, heart?

  3. Hartje #4

    Ah, glad you made it! Yeah, it's such a shame, isn't it, when they have to be taken away after birth! My little boy had to stay on the monitor for check-ups, but they did bring him to me for breastfeeding during the first 24 hours. After that, he was allowed to stay with me, but I can totally relate to your feelings—it must be amazing if you don't have to hand them over right after birth!

    Effectively stop?
    Twin-to-twin transfusion syndrome, maybe it's easier to Google that, I still find it a bit tricky to explain.

    Oh, you'll have to take that into account... Still going for that 30%, that's how I try to think about it. Well, and if not, well, in the end, we're going for the baby, not the pregnancy. But enjoying it a bit is nice, right!

  4. Bibabeloe started this #5

    Effectively stopping at kids. After this miracle, our family is complete for us. Then we'll have 3 kids in the house (1 from my partner's previous relationship, and then 2 from us).
    Oh, you're having twins! And do you already know what they'll be? Twin-to-twin syndrome is indeed quite scary when I read about it like this. I'm already crossing my fingers for you that everything will go smoothly. But I know that's easier said than done...

  5. Hartje #6

    Ah, I get it. Then I guess you'll just have to look forward to your pregnancy. Are you already showing a bit at 16 weeks?
    No, we're keeping it a surprise as long as I don't see anything on the remaining 13 ultrasounds...
    We'll just keep hoping for the best outcome!

  6. Bibabeloe started this #7

    Yes, this belly is already very visible here. And yours at 11 weeks?

  7. Hartje #8

    It's coming! That's always something I really enjoy during pregnancy, just like the kicks!

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