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miscarriage and age

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Jacqueline
Hi everyone!! I’ve just had another miscarriage after getting pregnant again. In September, I got a super positive test and went to the GP. Then I got an invitation from the gynecologist for October 8th. We went proudly to the hospital and they saw a gestational sac of barely 5 weeks. They backdated it from 9 to 5 weeks, saying it might be a miscarriage. So I assumed it was the latter because 5 weeks really couldn’t be right. Two weeks later, on October 20th, I went back and it was still the same. So I got medication to help it along. Terrible experience! On December 24th, I got a faint positive test. What an amazing Christmas gift. On Monday the 27th, I took another test and it was even clearer. On Tuesday, I took one more because I had another one left. To my surprise, the line was almost gone, and on Tuesday evening I had some bleeding. On Wednesday, I called the GP and said it could go either way. Even when I mentioned the test was fading. The bleeding is now a fact. Still going on. If I hadn’t taken the test, I’d feel like I was 6 days late and just have a period. I was so focused on getting pregnant again and think that’s why it went wrong. Normally, it shows up by not getting pregnant. Unfortunately, I can’t find much info on this type of miscarriage. And I’m scared to go to the GP because they might say you have 2 healthy kids and age plays a role. I’ve had a new partner for 2 years now, and we really want to have a baby together!! I’m almost 39 and losing hope that the third time will be the charm. Anyone here have experience with this?? Greetings, Jacqueline

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  1. Jacqueline started this #2

    The GP was supposed to call me on Thursday because I had more bleeding, but they haven't called back and I have to wait until Monday. I'm now thinking about going to my partner's GP because it feels really strange that they didn't call back. It's like it's nothing. I'm taking a few months of rest and then we'll try again. I'm afraid I'll step into it with anxiety. We'll see. I'd really like to participate in that forum. Is that also here on Brabbels? Greetings, Jacqueline
  2. Nannie ❤ #3

    I completely understand your uncertainty. I have a very healthy 8-year-old daughter myself and have been in a new relationship for two years. We also really want to have a baby together, but we’ve already had two miscarriages and two more that were terminated very early on. I’m 33 now. My cycle seems to be in good shape, so the reason it’s not sticking is still unknown—probably just bad luck?

    Wishing you lots of strength and please don’t give up; it’s surely meant to be for you!
  3. * #4

    Sure, just click on the link...
  4. * #5

    And it's really good to go to the same doctor as your husband, because yes, a miscarriage is no small thing.
    And you know, you mentioned taking it easy for a few months... Hmm, maybe it's useful to get a referral to a gynecologist and have a check-up anyway...
    And your hubby's sperm too...
    Then you can move forward together, right? Tests often take 2 or 3 months anyway...
    I became a mom at 39 myself...
  5. Jacqueline started this #6

    Yeah, somewhere I hope it all works out fine in the end. Maybe when I'm less focused on it.

    What tests will they be doing then? I'm really curious! Also, are there any age-related tests? I read something about that.

    Greetings, Jacqueline
  6. * #7

    You can always ask for a semen analysis in advance... at the GP.
    But if you go to the fertility clinic, you'll get an initial fertility assessment.
    So then they'll follow your cycle and take blood samples a few times...

    Read this first:

    http://www.fertiliteit.info/content/fertiliteit/ofo/eerstebezoek.asp
  7. * #8

    And btw, I would ask for a referral now already regarding age. I turned 41 and a half, but unfortunately, they couldn't help me anymore at the hospital.

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