mixed feelings

Hi Roos,

Wow, what a story, girl... I've never experienced anything like this, so I've never had to deal with it myself. Listen closely to your own feelings; I think that's the most important thing. I don't know how feasible it is, but maybe it's still a good idea to at least talk about your feelings with him...? I can imagine that's difficult, but whatever choice you make, I think it's important to express your feelings. Otherwise, it'll just build up inside.

I wish you all the strength from the bottom of my heart, trust your own feelings...

Lots of love!

Hi Roos, wow, your story is quite intense. I totally get where you're coming from, but try to see it this way: it's actually special, especially since you mentioned you don't get pregnant easily. So this is how it was meant to be. A baby is such a beautiful gift; if I were you, I'd never consider having an abortion for any reason. It's growing inside your belly and is already a part of you—it belongs to you completely now, even though it's still so new.

Look, when I was pregnant with my oldest daughter, my husband also said it didn't work out. He was, after all, married and had a son.
He was supposed to tell her about us, he said, but by accident I got pregnant with our oldest daughter.
But he asked me to have it aborted.
I said you can go back to your family and stop with me. You don't need to tell your wife about us and get a divorce; just stay there. I am definitely keeping this baby. No one on my head is thinking about having it aborted.
This baby comes before you; it's a part of me.
That's how I told him.
Eventually, he went to his family for a bit and took some distance from me. Of course, it hurt, but yes, I couldn't let that baby be aborted. It had to be this way, I thought.
Then, luckily, just before the first ultrasound, he called me to say that he had told his wife about us and the pregnancy, and that they would divorce.
He came to me and of course came with me to the ultrasound, and by the way, to every ultrasound.
And now we've been happily together for 12 years with our own little family. He had thought about it and couldn't bring himself to turn his back on me and the child that was coming.
So what I mean here is that it's also possible that once a man gets over the shock, he might come around. Usually, it's a matter of getting used to the idea.
But having it aborted would not be an option for me.
You can end up with severe regret that can never be undone.
I personally believe that a soul chooses its own parents and that it has consciously chosen for its life.
So who are we to terminate it?
But well, lots of strength with the situation, and hopefully, you found my story helpful.
Sorry for the long explanation.
Greetings, Madelene

@Roos,

You must be torn apart by emotions; it's so hard to make the choice you're facing...
I can only advise you to stay close to your own feelings.
Talk it over with your partner again and tell him that it's not for nothing that you're pregnant now...
The fact that you've had trouble getting pregnant is not nothing...
Imagine if you have this baby aborted and you can't get pregnant anymore, you'll always think back
on the baby you had aborted...
I truly wish you a beautiful pregnancy and take your time to consider what decision you're going to make...
And besides, you also mention that your boyfriend doesn't want an abortion and you want to keep the baby. So from what I read, there's no middle ground...
Even if it's a short relationship... please don't have an abortion, you'll carry a bad feeling about it forever...

Hi Roos, it's so nice to hear that you've made up your mind to keep your baby. And indeed, if he really loves you enough, he will definitely accept your choice. You have a chance that he'll ultimately accept it. I'm very glad to have heard your story; it really resonated with me, and I felt for you because although my situation wasn't exactly the same, it was somewhat similar. It takes a lot of courage, and it's great that you've decided to keep your baby. This child was meant to come to you. Have a lovely evening, and it would be wonderful if you keep us updated. Love, Madelene

You have a child for life, see it as a gift from God! A man who makes such remarks doesn't last long. The baby is already alive and didn't ask to be conceived. Who are you to take away its life??

Hi Roos,

That's so brave of you, and it's so good that you're listening to your own feelings! I hope it'll be a really beautiful pregnancy, no matter what. Enjoy it, you truly deserve it!

Love!

@Roos,

I'm so happy that you've chosen the little sprout..
Wishing you lots of luck in the coming time with your pregnancy...

Lots of love, Ju or rather Mavanmi

You made the right choice! You won't regret it!!

Hi Roos 29
What fantastic, beautiful, and happy news
It’s such a special moment, isn’t it, to hear your baby’s little heart beating in your belly.
And imagine how special it feels when the doctor even says it’s a miracle that you got pregnant—then it really was meant to be.
That makes all of this even more extraordinary.
This baby clearly wanted very much to come to you both.
It’s so wonderful to read about your ultrasound.
Enjoy that intense feeling of joy from having such a beautiful little one growing inside you.
Good luck with sharing the news, and yes, it’s great that you said you’re absolutely thrilled—that’s what really matters. After all, it’s growing in your belly.
This little miracle
Have a lovely evening.
Warm regards,
Madelene

Hi Roos,
that's totally understandable that you're feeling this way right now
It's such a heavy feeling, it immediately reminds me of the uncertain time when I was pregnant with my oldest daughter.
It was such an unpleasant, sad feeling, and at the same time
that uncertainty about whether he still wanted to continue with me and our baby.
I was in that period too, with exactly these feelings.
And how relieved I was when he made his decision and wanted to form a family with me and our baby.
I hope it works out that way for you too,
but if it doesn't, then be happy with your child.
However hard it might be at first,
believe me, there will be an end to this uncertainty
and confused emotions.
Soon you'll see that things will get better and you'll finally be able to enjoy your pregnancy.
Try to hope for the best and maybe also try to make it clear to him how important it is for you to be together with your child.
And try to make it clear to him how much you need him, especially now that you're pregnant with your child.
It often helps if you let a man know that you need him.
Men are sensitive to that and it encourages them even more to strive for a goal.
Well, strength and good luck.
And I hope for the best for you.
Love, Madelene