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Mamav3
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I'm almost 35, a (divorced) mom of 3 beautiful kids, and I'd really like to join in writing and reading here.
Last June, I had an abortion, and to this day, I still feel a lot of sadness and regret about it... I was in the middle of a divorce from the father of my 3 kids (a contentious split that had already been going on for 2.5 years at the time), and I was 100% sure my partner wasn't expecting a baby (he was always very clear about not wanting more children because he felt he was too old). I didn't tell him I was pregnant either, and I had it terminated at 7 weeks
, never thought I could do that...
I did tell him later what had happened. I remained incredibly sad, the loss was enormous. He was at least as sad, but blamed me for nothing. He understood that, given his statements, I had taken this step.
Soon after, we decided to try for a baby anyway. So far, without success. Sometimes I wonder if it's my own fault, that I shouldn't have been so foolish.
I understand if there are women here who judge me for that abortion, but I still hope I can write something here from time to time, without constantly being criticized for it. The reason I'm sharing this is because that child is also part of my life, and I'm afraid that I might not get pregnant now because of that procedure.
Greetings!
I'm almost 35, a (divorced) mom of 3 beautiful kids, and I'd really like to join in writing and reading here.
Last June, I had an abortion, and to this day, I still feel a lot of sadness and regret about it... I was in the middle of a divorce from the father of my 3 kids (a contentious split that had already been going on for 2.5 years at the time), and I was 100% sure my partner wasn't expecting a baby (he was always very clear about not wanting more children because he felt he was too old). I didn't tell him I was pregnant either, and I had it terminated at 7 weeks
, never thought I could do that...I did tell him later what had happened. I remained incredibly sad, the loss was enormous. He was at least as sad, but blamed me for nothing. He understood that, given his statements, I had taken this step.
Soon after, we decided to try for a baby anyway. So far, without success. Sometimes I wonder if it's my own fault, that I shouldn't have been so foolish.
I understand if there are women here who judge me for that abortion, but I still hope I can write something here from time to time, without constantly being criticized for it. The reason I'm sharing this is because that child is also part of my life, and I'm afraid that I might not get pregnant now because of that procedure.
Greetings!
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linnie Guest #2
@mamav3.. wow, what a situation.. sometimes you're faced with a choice you'd rather not have made.. it will indeed follow you for the rest of your life.. whether it was the right choice.. I don't know!
I don't judge you either because I've never experienced a situation like this.. I think you shouldn't judge too quickly.. of course I find it terrible and I'm against abortion but in a situation like this pffff I really wouldn't know what I would have done, I think "no matter how hard" talk it over with my boyfriend!
I really wish you lots of strength, girl! hugs -
Mamav3 started this #3
Looking back, I should have talked to him about it... then we'd have a little tiny one of almost 6 months now.
Today I got my period again, really feeling frustrated.
And thank you for your reply, sweet! -
linnie Guest #4
Yeah, indeed.. but girl.. no matter how hard it is.. give it a place and go for it again! I know it's easier said than done but you can't turn it back!
You're welcome. Hugs
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