big baby wish, but still waiting a bit

and how did you deal with it?

I got pregnant by accident...

When I was two, my love for babies began. My mom stopped breastfeeding my dolls and walking them around in a stroller. I also picked flowers because I was getting married (I was between 1.5 and 4 when I did that).

When I was twelve, it really started to tickle me. I was already fed up with extreme irregular periods after a year, and babies around me were just the end for me.

Slowly I realized that I would find it acceptable to get pregnant around the age of 18 (if I had the partner).

When I was 20, I ran into my current partner (now 21) again. We had been neighbors since we were kids and had broken up briefly when I moved, but with a nice old and new year we rolled into a relationship. I had just started a study and tried to push the idea of children away with fun things.

Last August, we heard that his brother (28) and his girlfriend (32) were expecting a baby. My boyfriend and I discussed the topic: yes, we would like to, but not before my studies are almost over or are over. Now that his brother is having a baby, we thought we would grant them the pleasure by starting later ourselves and decided to do it safely.

We had broken up for a while, and with a short start of the current new relationship, we were just 6 months back together when we got pregnant and found out at 5 weeks. So my boyfriend, 21, and I, almost 23, will become uncle and aunt in April and dad and mom in July.

So I can really see myself in your life.

I can only tell you: take into account your own feelings and his feelings. If it doesn't work out financially, that's another point, and even then it can go well. I was literally born in a student house where my parents rented 2 rooms. Make a schedule with him about what you want to achieve. Now finding a job and then getting pregnant might cost you your job.

I dealt with it by avoiding baby stores and avoiding conversations about babies. In my class, my nickname was sometimes 'fluttering ovaries' haha.

If you really want it, discuss that with him by asking when you would be willing to become parents. Ultimately, you're only truly ready once the baby is here

Did this help at all?

I myself had the mist because it came unexpectedly, but I can imagine it a bit. I would say discuss it well with each other, if the money is there, go live on your own and for a baby!

Good luck

Love, hartje

haha Heart!
we run into each other quite often

I'm so happy, but it did take a while. I was shaking with the test in my hand.
But that's because I'm studying and he works part-time, and we don't live together yet. If I were in your situation, I'd be trying with him right now (but that's not me ).
We're going to live in my parents' house, and my parents often go to the country where my mom is from, so we'll basically be house-sitting since they're rarely there (unless the UK is coming, then they'll probably stay here longer).

Thanks for the congratulations (I kind of missed it )
I stopped the pill in June because I was gaining 3 kilos a week and that’s not really healthy... I’ve always had a bit of an aversion to the pill but had to use it because of heavy bleeding.
I never felt the need to go out, and during those 40 weeks of pregnancy you can still do plenty A child isn’t a burden until you start seeing it as one. Enjoy eating out with your friends and slowly shift into a different way of interacting with people. People who don’t go to the pub (so to speak) but instead go out for lunch together.
We were worried about his mom’s reaction; she might say something like “it’s a kid, so she’s coming,” but mainly whether we’d get criticized.
But now everyone thinks it’s great

that's not even sneaky anymore haha
those are basically red flags with sirens!

go have fun with your family
don't get unlucky like my friend's brother. he didn't tell his grandma that his girlfriend was pregnant and got a good talking to.
if you're so sure about him, don't forget to introduce your family
introduce him. I kind of 'threw' my boyfriend at my family...
he's now completely taken care of, although it took a while
reading this: find a nice spot
I got pregnant before the engagement and tomorrow 15 weeks

It's going well At 13 weeks I already felt the little one kicking a bit, and the midwife had a bit of trouble hearing the heartbeat today because the little one decided to have a good wrestle XD
I do have to keep my stomach full continuously, otherwise I either feel nauseous or have to run to the nearest toilet or sink.

If you're convinced it's him and you're serious about each other, two months is quite early, but not too early to get to know each other while living together.
Maybe by the end of this year you'll be able to hold onto your first positive test, because it can take a while.
I wouldn't start moving in before you have the keys, otherwise it could be a motivation to look a bit faster

It was a joint decision earlier he already 'asked' me once in between
when we were watching a romantic movie or something. He actually wanted to do it all big and grand, but then some small big news came around the corner

your relationship is between the two of you
I would practice the cohabitation part, I was almost 24 hours at my boyfriend's place at the beginning so the start was already very positive (except for building cabinets, he lets me do that, except if they're computer cabinets)

Does your boyfriend already live on his own? Can't you maybe do something like that but still kind of be there a bit? Starting with a toothbrush.

Great feeling?! Plopies, weird plopies haha

Keeping track will be fine I'm doing an internship so sometimes chatty people come by who want to share their whole life story, and then I get lost in all the conversations.

My boyfriend was raised to be very independent, he cooks better than I do and is better at planning household tasks and getting them done much faster. But we're calm with each other and easy to talk to, so we can handle it well together.

we have a date and by chance (the only day left before I go into labor) the day when my grandma has her birthday

but from my side it's hard to say much because I've been with my boyfriend for a while and have already experienced all the ups and downs. I know how he goes for someone and I've experienced how he goes for me. Especially after having been apart for a few months.
I'll definitely be happy for you if you get pregnant, but I don't have much to say about it.
Only that we both have equally crazy ovaries and are the same age, haha
I also know the effect on our way of thinking the more we are kept away from our dream... people who say: enjoy your life, you're still so young, you have your whole life ahead of you etc etc etc... as if you can't do that with a child. Your life is still your life, you just have something extra added to it!
My midwife (abbreviated as VK on baby sites) thinks it's super that I, at 22, am pregnant because it's at the peak of fertility.

I have little to do during my internship, just sitting and typing haha. Which I'm also annoyed about because I actually want to learn...