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My boyfriend doesn't want to have sex.

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  1. joen87 Guest #21

    I'd like to offer myself..

  2. Niekkie** #22

    That's so annoying... He probably won't dare because he might be afraid of hurting you.. Maybe you could talk to someone about this or show them some info that it's not scary and that it's totally fine...

  3. Anoniem Guest #23

    Same here... I'm 30 weeks pregnant now and haven't had sex for a month, and it doesn't look like it's going to happen anytime soon. So what does that mean? I'm assuming I'll go more than 3 months without any intimacy, because he really doesn't want anything at all. I'm noticing that I'm not handling this well; the frustration and insecurity are taking over. For the first time in these 7 years, I'm even feeling a bit jealous of other women, which is such a rotten feeling. The thought that he's been getting his release for 3.5 months through porn or whatever makes me feel disgusted. I'm trying to give it a place, but I don't know how I can keep this up. If it's going to be like this in every pregnancy, I don't want a second one... How awful I feel...

  4. Marc #24

    Isn't he just scared? We just found out, we were excited but I wasn't sure if it might be harmful since it's so early! So we googled together and things became clear! The sex wasn't any different than usual, so that was nice! Maybe it helps?

  5. D Guest #25

    Twelve weeks pregnant and still no belly, nothing. I'm horny as hell. It's my second baby, and my husband is well aware that sex is harmless. Unfortunately, he just got a new computer game and has no interest. It could have been so much fun...

  6. chesterpark95 Guest #26

    I'd really like to talk to you, listen to you, and help if there's anything I can do. Just let me know.

  7. Anonymous Guest #27

    Same story here. 33 weeks pregnant and also hardly any sex anymore. No cuddles either. And yeah, that sometimes makes me insecure and jealous too. But I try to keep my emotions in check and show understanding for my partner. These last few days I just cuddle without getting horny right away. So that we can cuddle again. Because he didn't dare cuddle either, afraid that I'd want sex. I assume everything will be fine again after the birth. He says he's not afraid. That he's just tired or gives another excuse. He avoids these conversations. And as for porn. If he watched porn now, well, I wouldn't mind. I'd be happy, then we could watch together. I'm also watching more porn now and satisfying myself instead. Due to lack of alternatives . It'll all come back between us. I'm sure of that. We're taking the next step in our relationship. We're becoming mom and dad. Good luck to everyone.

  8. Anonymous Guest #28

    Do you guys secretly watch porn together now? That’s a bit weird, isn’t it? Have you ever tried to “ambush” him? I sometimes wake my husband up with a blowjob, and then he can’t resist when I climb on top of him!

  9. poesje Guest #29

    It’s the same for me
    My boyfriend barely touches me anymore and everything has changed.
    And that hurts me, I miss him and long for him, but then I thought men have a higher libido, ugh pff I now often have to satisfy myself and watch porn which I don’t normally do, and I’ve been having dreams too but not about him but about other men. Sometimes I think about looking for it with someone else, which I shouldn’t really be missing, is it bad of me to think like this? He should understand me, he gets angry when I say it could affect our relationship, meaning that we’ll eventually drift apart and become strangers to each other, which would then make us more likely to let someone else into our hearts, and I don’t want that, especially now not because we’re having our first baby, and I don’t want another child of divorced parents. But you can’t be spared from that, and you also have to think about your own happiness. And now I sometimes feel unhappy even though I love him so much, but the more I have to satisfy myself, the less I want him. Now I find comfort with toys from Pabo, but that’s not the same, ugh

  10. Dotje Guest #30

    Sorry, ladies,

    Someone wants to open up about a problem she's dealing with... and you just casually say: my guy can't keep his hands off me!
    Say nothing then!

  11. Dl Guest #31

    So relatable! Same here! At first we still had sex. Since my belly started growing, I get the impression that he no longer finds me attractive. He even confirms this when I ask him.
    It really bothers me!
    But yeah, I don’t know what to do either! We’ve talked about it, but now it’s become an awkward situation where sex feels like an obligation, so honestly, my desire is gone too.

    I’ve even thought about cheating because there are men who do find pregnant women attractive, but I can’t bring myself to do that because I really want to give my little one a good start,
    even though I fear our relationship won’t last if things don’t change. Because I do have needs. ???????

    Good luck! And if you find a solution, let me know. I could use some tips.

  12. Dl Guest #32

    So relatable! Seriously frustrating, huh! I had hoped my sex life would just stay fine.
    I’ve been without sex for 2.5 months now, and yeah, after the birth I’m afraid it’ll be the same for the first few months too, right????
    At least I still have my vibrating friend… though it’s not the same, is it?

  13. Anoniem Guest #33

    Hahaha, what a bunch of trolls in this thread. Let's normal people wrap it up. Bye.

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