Mother at an older age
39 years old and wanting kids
Lief
Hi ladies,
I find it quite difficult to write about myself, but I think it will be nice anyway. I'm a mother of two children and I'm 39 years old. I've had two C-sections, and during the last one I had a hemorrhage. That was quite intense, and I had a blood transfusion. My desire for a child remained, so I became a nanny because I didn't dare to get pregnant anymore and wanted to help other people. Now, after a few years, we'd really like to try for a baby for ourselves if it works out. After several conversations with the gynecologist, who said it's possible and no more dangerous for me than for anyone else. I'm looking forward to it, and I find it exciting too. I'm 39 now, and I'm a bit sad about that because it will get harder and harder. We want to try for a few months because of my age. I often hear that I'm too old from outsiders, and that sometimes makes me sad; they don't know my situation. I hope it works out this month; I expect my period on Thursday.
I find it quite difficult to write about myself, but I think it will be nice anyway. I'm a mother of two children and I'm 39 years old. I've had two C-sections, and during the last one I had a hemorrhage. That was quite intense, and I had a blood transfusion. My desire for a child remained, so I became a nanny because I didn't dare to get pregnant anymore and wanted to help other people. Now, after a few years, we'd really like to try for a baby for ourselves if it works out. After several conversations with the gynecologist, who said it's possible and no more dangerous for me than for anyone else. I'm looking forward to it, and I find it exciting too. I'm 39 now, and I'm a bit sad about that because it will get harder and harder. We want to try for a few months because of my age. I often hear that I'm too old from outsiders, and that sometimes makes me sad; they don't know my situation. I hope it works out this month; I expect my period on Thursday.
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*Lotus* #2
Hi dear, that was really intense what you went through with your deliveries. I can only say follow your gut.
I myself got pregnant at 39 and gave birth at 39. It was unexpected, but still very much wanted.
Between my last delivery at 39 and my pregnancy at 45, there were some sad moments. But that doesn't change that I would do it all over again.
I now have 4 healthy children because I had already become a mother at 24 and 28.. Then I got a new partner. With whom I had another child at 39 and at 45.
Good luck and don't let negative thoughts get to you. Good luck dear
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Lief started this #3
Hi Lotus, that's so sweet of you. I really agree with what you're saying and I also feel a lot of recognition. Thank you. It's so sad that you had tough times between your pregnancies, but I'm glad you were able to have a fourth baby in the end. I had a miscarriage last January and hope we'll still be given the chance to have a little one. We'll see next week
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Lief started this #4
Hi Lotus, that's so sweet of you. I really agree with what you're saying and also feel a lot of recognition. Thank you. It's so unfortunate that you had tough times between your pregnancies, but I'm glad you were able to have a fourth child in the end. I had a miscarriage last January and hope we'll still be given the chance to have a little one. We'll see next week.
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Lief started this #5
Lotus, that's so sad you had to go through that. That's no small thing. Glad it worked out in the end. It's also hard not to think about it... I'm there too right now... you know you can test again soon. It keeps you occupied on some level, but less than with my previous pregnancies.
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