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Baby cries a lot, how do I know what he wants?

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  1. kirstnn #21

    If he does well with this schedule, definitely keep it that way! The pediatrician is indeed a good choice, and if not, you could also reach out to an osteopath who specializes in babies. Sometimes after just 1 or 2 sessions, they're a completely different child because something got stuck due to the birth or something similar.

    The not sleeping during the day is so relatable; my son slept a lot during the first week after birth, but then it was terrible, so I totally get how you feel! It's great that your mom is coming to help so you can at least get some rest.

  2. Merel #22

    That's tough for your husband, dear! Is it an option if the little one spends a night at your parents' place so you can both get a good night's sleep?

  3. Ezkimo started this #23

    Today, with the help of a lactation consultant, we latched our little man on for breastfeeding for the first time again. He drank beautifully for 20 minutes on each breast! I'm so proud of my little hero. He's also been sleeping for 3 hours straight now! B-l-i-s-s!

    I'm allowed to latch him on once a day now and let him feed live. Next week it'll be twice, and if that goes well, he'll get half breast milk and half pumped milk after that. If his growth curve goes up from there, we'll switch completely to breastfeeding. I'm really looking forward to it; it saves time and just feels much better for me!

    Today he was also checked by the pediatrician. He got a beautiful 10/10! She did refer him to osteopathy though, and we also received an invitation for relaxation classes for mom and baby. This should help with babies who cry a lot. I'm curious to see!

  4. Merel #24

    Such great news for you two, Ez! You've done so well, and from now on, it'll get a little easier. Enjoy the bonding time together!

  5. proud_mommy #25

    Great news, girl! Super glad it worked out. Amazing. Good luck with it and enjoy it.

  6. Anonymous Guest #26

    Wow!!! Super mom! Keep it up, girl. Don't give up if it doesn't work out sometimes.

    Nice to read this.

  7. Maria Guest #27

    I was really touched by what you wrote; it feels so familiar from my son a year ago, even though he (looking back) didn't cry that much at all.

    What helped me a lot, and something I'd never really thought about before, is that everything in a newborn's life is turned upside down. Where he used to always be warm and safe in your belly, close to you, with muffled sounds and always the same temperature, and constantly eating/drinking, now suddenly everything is different. Eating, drinking, sounds, smells, etc. etc. He might partly miss that sense of security and warmth, hearing your familiar heartbeat. Hold him close, or go for a walk with the pram. That helped us enormously; we walked a lot during that time.

    I was afraid I'd spend months sitting on the couch with a baby in my arms, but after about 7-8 weeks, it really became much better!

    As for sleeping: can your husband do all the washing up and prep after you've pumped around 7 pm? Then you just pump and then dive into bed. Phone off, earplugs in, and sleep. You really need your rest!

    Wishing you lots of success; from what you're writing, you're on the right track. You can do it!!

  8. Ezkimo started this #28

    Thank you all so much! We still have a long way to go, but our boy has fewer crying spells when he’s at the breast. He’s a much calmer baby now and also sleeps better after a feeding session.

  9. Anonymous Guest #29

    He has to work much harder at the breast, so he’s better meeting his sucking needs. He gets very tired from it. But it’s nice being close to mama and feeling safe.

    Follow your heart, keep him comfortably latched on, and consider weighing him more often if you feel it’s necessary. You’ve got this!

  10. Anonymous Guest #30

    How are you?

  11. proud_mommy #31

    Indeed, I'm also curious.

  12. Ezkimo started this #32

    It’s going in the right direction! He’s now getting half breast milk and half bottle-fed expressed breast milk! He’s much calmer and sleeping better, which means I sleep better too and can handle his evening crying spells better. I feel more confident, and that makes a huge difference. The lactation consultant said he probably cried so much because of his sucking need, but wasn’t satisfied with a pacifier or finger.

  13. proud_mommy #33

    Glad he's doing well. You're less tired then, and also reassured that he knows what he's doing.

  14. Ezkimo started this #34

    Another update! Starting next week, we're fully breastfeeding! What a beautiful moment. This week it was still half breastfeeding and half pumped milk in a bottle.
    Our little hero still has his little screaming moment after his 7:30 PM feed, but that's about it for now. According to the pediatrician, this is normal and we just need to be there for him. He sleeps for about 3 to 4 hours after a feed and has become a happy little guy.
    In the meantime, I now understand better why he's screaming since he doesn't seem to be crying aimlessly anymore; there's more of a pattern to it. I've also found the Dunstan Baby Language helpful, thanks for the tip. When he has his screaming hour, a pacifier and cuddles work best here.

  15. proud_mommy #35

    Aaah, good to hear. That's super nice. My little one had that during growth spurts. He wanted to be in my arms all the time and sleep next to me at night. So during growth spurts, we slept together on the mattress on the floor (his side and my side).

  16. Anonymous Guest #36

    Hey
    I took my little one to an osteopath twice because his neck was a bit stiff (he was in a transverse position in the womb). The osteopath resolved it really well in just two sessions. It’s possible that something isn’t quite right and he’s in pain. An osteopath is definitely worth trying! They look at the baby’s whole body and well-being.

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