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Baby cries a lot

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mams91
Hi! I'm new here and have no idea how it works, but I'd really like to share my little one. My son is 12.5 weeks old and cries every time it's time for bed. I've tried everything, but nothing seems to help. Once he finally falls asleep, he always wakes up after three-quarters of an hour and wants to feed again (I'm breastfeeding). At night, he used to sleep nicely for 6 to 7 hours straight for a few weeks, but now that's getting less and less—he even came at half past 4 last night! During the day, it's a drama, and from 4 to 9 in the evening, he doesn't sleep at all, so he's latched on to the breast all evening. Swaddling doesn't help—he's awake in the crib, not asleep in the crib. Does anyone have tips?

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  1. skullie #2

    Hi mams, my oldest was a crying baby. It was mostly due to my diet. He had stomach issues for a long time. With my brother's baby, they had to stop breastfeeding, apparently it wasn't ideal for their baby. After they started giving bottle feeding, their little boy became much calmer. I hope the crying improves quickly because a crying baby is extremely exhausting. I can speak from experience.

  2. mams91 started this #3

    Hi Skullie
    That’s really frustrating..
    My son absolutely refuses the bottle, we’ve been practicing with expressed milk for weeks.. tried different nipples but it just doesn’t work.. he does have hidden reflux, but he’s getting medication for that.

  3. Anonymous Guest #4

    Here with 4 kids, including 3 crying babies who have trouble sleeping.

    Sleep cycles of 45 minutes are very common. Around 3 months, they often have a regular schedule.

    What helped me a lot was accepting it and listening to my baby. Sleeping through the night is rare. The baby's stomach is still developing.

    Let the baby sleep. Pay close attention to your baby's sleep signals. Establish a fixed routine for each sleep. Stay nearby so the baby can hear you or some music. It's okay if they cry a bit. If it really doesn't work, take them out of bed and try again half an hour later.

  4. skullie #5

    Hope you find a solution soon. My son also had reflux. He drank for about three quarters of an hour per bottle. He got better when I started giving him solid food. Good luck, I’d say. My daughter was very easy with her feeding and slept well too. She’s a bad sleeper now, and my son is a good sleeper.

  5. mams91 started this #6

    Solid food is from 6 months, right?
    He did have his rest day on Monday, indeed.
    I try to follow his rhythm, but I wonder what I'm doing wrong when I put him to bed and he starts crying every time.
    If I put him to bed at the first signs of tiredness, he's too awake to fall asleep on his own. What sometimes works is putting him in bed when he's almost asleep but still just awake enough. But this feeding schedule every two hours is really wearing me out now. It's been going on since he was 6 weeks old.

  6. MamaN #7

    I finally stopped putting him in bed awake. Yeah, people can easily say "let him cry it out," but that didn't make me feel any better either. I gave him breastfeeding until 21 months, for example. With breastfeeding, they also just love the warmth of mom, some comfort, and drinking. When he was asleep, I'd just put him in bed while he was sleeping. Giving in and going along with it worked better for me.

  7. mams91 started this #8

    I’ve also started putting him to sleep while he’s still awake lately, because otherwise he just won’t fall asleep on his own. But then he doesn’t sleep for even an hour and is hungry again right after… It feels like I’m feeding him all day long. And in the evenings, he absolutely refuses to sleep.

  8. MamaN #9

    Do you offer both breasts so he can empty them, or does he fall asleep at the breast almost immediately?

  9. mams91 started this #10

    I often give him two breasts because I change him in between..

  10. Anonymous Guest #11

    A pacifier?
    Feeding every 2 hours is actually normal. I did that until 5 months. Now she comes every 3-4 hours. Does he drink really well after sleeping? Like you can hear him swallowing, you know?

    If crying it out really gets to you, don't do it. Do you have a baby wrap? And otherwise, just go for a nice walk. Here it got better after 4 months with the crying babies. The youngest, the non-crying baby, also started sleeping better from that point on. Is sleeping for an hour now.

  11. MamaN #12

    If he really drinks from both breasts, he just wants to eat. I think it's just a phase that will pass on its own. And unfortunately, you need a lot of patience for that.. my son also slept very well at the beginning, and right when I started working, it became drama. Even now, more broken nights than full nights' sleep. And he's almost two:

  12. mams91 started this #13

    He won't or can't take a pacifier or bottle. We've tried for two weeks, practicing every day, but it just doesn't work..
    He drinks well though.. In the sling, he doesn't even sleep; he's calm but stays awake, looking around..
    I guess I just have to accept it then..

  13. MamaN #14

    My son never wanted a pacifier either. After trying for three months with expensive bottles from Avent, etc., I gave him a bottle from the Kruidvat own brand... and he suddenly drank it! Maja, that was just in case I would go back to work with pumping. I don't know if you want to use it to wean your baby off the bottle?

  14. mams91 started this #15

    Oh, do you mean that's weird? No, more so that he could get used to it a bit, in case I run out of milk or have to stop eventually or something like that.

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