Recurrent miscarriages, what now?

I’ve only experienced it once so far, thankfully. I’m 24 myself and have a son who’s 1.5 years old. I’m religious, so I think that helps me cope in my own way. God gives and God takes; I don’t really know where the good in it all lies. I’ve actually come to appreciate my son more. Not that I didn’t value having him before, but if you’ve never experienced loss yourself, you can’t really imagine how it feels to not have something or to lose it. So that awareness and gratitude feel bigger now. When I look at my son, I hope I’ll be blessed with another beautiful child, but even if that doesn’t happen, I’m happy with what I do have—a loving partner and my son.

Are you going through this for the first time?

@MamaNaoufie, you put that so beautifully, I feel exactly the same. After my MC, I'm even more grateful for my daughter and my eyes have been opened to the fact that I shouldn't take anything for granted.
Of course, it's a completely different story if you don't have a baby yet...

I personally had fertility acupuncture. I got pregnant right away and continued it until 10 weeks to prevent MC. Maybe it's an option before you get tested for chromosomal abnormalities etc.

An aunt of mine had 6 MCs. She participated in various studies and one possible outcome was that all male fetuses are seen as "foreign" by the body. She now has 4 healthy daughters...

Yeah, weird right? This was a study, so I don't know if it's really proven yet, but the fact is she only has daughters.

Yes, MyBabyAndMe, it probably also helps that we already have a child. It also shows that our body is capable of bearing a child, which gives a kind of reassurance. By the way, what a special story about your aunt! It's weird and amazing how the body actually works.

Hey Sofija,

I haven't read all the replies, so sorry if I ask or say something that's already been addressed.

I know exactly how you feel!
I stopped taking the pill in Feb 2013. Between Feb 2013 and Jan 2015, I had 4 miscarriages. Always early miscarriages, around 6 to 9 weeks.
After my 3rd, they did a full investigation on me. They had me do a chromosome test, even though you're allowed to get pregnant naturally since the chance of finding something is small. I was told that if something came out of it, they could proceed with IVF. Then they'd pick out the healthy embryo. Well, that test was fine for me. The other tests were fine too. Eventually, I had a laparoscopy, and it turned out I had a septum in my uterus. Not extreme, but they removed it anyway.
Unfortunately, I still had a 4th unexplained miscarriage. According to the gynecologists, that septum couldn't be the cause.

So I'd definitely see another gynecologist! Get a second opinion on what he/she can do for you.

My gynecologist recommended a professor at UZ Gent after my last miscarriage (if you're from the Netherlands, this might not be an option), which seemed like a bit of a weird project. There wasn't much scientific proof either... but I went along with it anyway.
So when I found out in March that I was pregnant again, I immediately started with his treatment.
Last November, I gave birth to a beautiful daughter!
Did it have to do with that treatment or not? No one can say for sure.
So, success stories do exist. But please change gynecologists. You shouldn't feel like he doesn't take you seriously. My gynecologist and GP were always there for me. That gave me the courage to keep going.

Yes, exactly! I’m also going to take some time to really think about what’s best for me because it’s so tough—you kind of feel like you’re on your own. The things I’d really like to do, they won’t allow in the Netherlands because it’s not “proven.” In Ghent, they’re much quicker to offer new medications or treatments. So yeah, I find it all really difficult. I’ve actually discussed this with my gynecologist in Ghent, but she said that’s more for people struggling with infertility, and since I get pregnant so quickly in a row, I don’t really qualify… Thanks for your message, Poesh!

Just so you know, the project in Gent has nothing to do with infertility. But everything with recurrent unexplained miscarriages.. I was also always pregnant right away..

Thanks! Maybe I'll give them a call or something!

What a bummer! Hopefully, you'll get pregnant again soon and everything will be okay!