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Pregnant with my first partner, he left me.
I'm now 13 weeks pregnant with my first baby, and my boyfriend left me yesterday after I told him I was pregnant... I'm devastated and don't know what to do... He told me he'll come back once I've had an abortion
gr. a mother full of sorrow
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Anoniem2 Guest #2
Ridiculous that your friend treated you like that. Such a weird reaction. Did he not want kids in the future? It's a weird reaction if you have a good relationship, you love each other and he should support you and work things out with you. If he really loved you, he shouldn't say "I'll come back after you've had an abortion." In my eyes, that's not real love...
Did he not want kids in the future?
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Nannie ❤ #3
Congratulations, girl, on your pregnancy. How old are you?
If I were in your shoes, I wouldn't want anything more to do with him, and he wouldn't need to ask for recognition of the child afterward. I understand that you feel very sad and abandoned because of this, but you're stronger than you think! I raised my daughter on my own, and she lacks nothing, I promise. Fortunately, we have many rights as a single mother in the Netherlands.
Keep your chin up; you can do this and enjoy it. This is your little miracle!! -
Nannie ❤ #4
That's totally right, girl!! You can really do it! And don't give him recognition and parental authority either, that way he can't claim anything at least. Just know that you won't have a right to child support then. I never wanted a cent from my ex either, even though I might have had a right to it.
Lots of strength with this phase, know that it's temporary. -
Anoniem2 Guest #5
And congratulations, girl, on your little miracle!
Okay, so you're about the same age as me, but I'm 9 weeks pregnant now and have my first ultrasound next week! It's ridiculous that your friend treated you like that. I'd be completely done with that; that's not love, I think. You're already 13 weeks, so your partner shouldn't treat you like this. I understand you feel awful—there's nothing worse than hearing that your partner isn't standing by you, especially after being together for 4 years. I'm speechless!
Maybe you could get some help or preparation, etc.? -
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@Wondertje nummer 1,
I really hope you'll be very happy with your baby...
and I'm so glad you have support from your parents..
Love Ju and of mavanmi
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Nannie ❤ #7
Well, that's quite a bit. If you feel good about it, then it's good! But I'd still use a middle name or something for identification to prevent any issues in the future! (From experience)
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@wondertjenummer 1,
that just shows how fast things can change; one moment you're basically a single mom, and the next you're having breakfast together...
I hope everything keeps going well and that you two will figure it out together.
Wishing you all the best and a wonderful pregnancy
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Kimxx #9
Congratulations Wondertjenummer1!! So you're a month further along than expected, wow! That's great that things are going well again between you and your partner. Pregnancy is such an amazing experience, especially when you can share it with the person you love so much. Who knows what mothers-in-law are good for after all
And what are you having, or would you rather not share? Enjoy it together! -
Nannie ❤ #10
Wow, a month already, wow! Didn't you scare yourself, Saar? How long have you actually known you're pregnant? -
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Wow, that's 4 weeks further... Yeah, I'm also curious how long you knew you were pregnant...
And what did your partner think of the ultrasound and what did you think yourself....
Also very curious what you're going to have
Love, ju or well mavanmi -
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@wondertjenummer 1,
What a story, that's really exciting... and heartfelt congratulations on the arrival of your little boy!
I hope you'll be very happy and start getting the baby room ready...
Next year you'll be three of you and...
Wishing you all the best and lots of love, ju or mavanmi -
Els #13
wow!! what a story to read....!
It's nice that you've come back together.. Wishing you a very lovely pregnancy together! -
lotte23 #14
Oh, that's nice! Wonderchild number 1, so glad everything went well! That's how it should be, and it's so lovely that you're having a baby boy! Super fun, it's easier when you know what you're going for, there are so many things in different colors and styles! You can make a really nice boy's room out of it! We're still waiting for our first ultrasound... -
Tijo Guest #15
It's all so exciting. How are things going now? Still together with your boyfriend? I'm really curious how you're doing.
Greetings, Tijo -
elisa #16
What a beautiful ending hihi hope everything is going well! It won't be long anymore!! -
Hartje #17
Almost there, they lived happily ever after I hope so for them too, I think it's great that she went for it again!
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