Going for a fourth baby!

Hi Bessie,

That's so nice that you replied!

I'll be 36 in May, my oldest girl is 16, a boy is 10, and the youngest, also a boy, is 2.5 years old.

That must be quite exciting for you, so this is your fourth round. I'm hoping to get pregnant around summer.

Our kids are almost the same age, how nice!

That's intense, wow, 5 miscarriages—that's not something you just brush off. I'm in the same boat as you; I told my husband I'll give it a year. Once I turn 37, I think it'll be fine. I don't use ovulation tests—I've never done that before—and I think I'd stress too much about them. But I've always had a very regular cycle and late ovulation, so as soon as I get my period, I know where I stand. Exciting times ahead, huh...

I have to say I'm now more focused on the practical things. But the longer you're dealing with it, the more your desire starts to grow, right. Good that you're holding out for those tests. I always have a cycle of 30/31 days and my egg around day 17. Exciting that you had such a clear test this time, who knows, maybe this month it'll be the one. Only our oldest knows, but that's because she's been saying for a year "here comes another one" and I say no way, we're done. I'm more apprehensive about the delivery now, don't you have that?

Hi hi,

Well, my first birth was a breeze, even though it was induced and lasted 6 hours. The second one was also induced, but he weighed 4.5 kg and got stuck on his shoulders. It was quite intense, I had a lot of tearing and lost a liter of blood. But for the last one, I was stripped at 39 weeks, and then it started naturally. Still, I had tearing again. Bah, another 3 hours lying down to get stitched up. I really feel let down by that. So yeah, I hope that won't be necessary next time.

I do have a 'worrying child'—our 10-year-old son is also in special education; he's highly sensitive. I don't think he's really looking forward to a baby. But as he gets older, it does get easier.

I think the fourth one will also just roll in easily, but then again, the third one was starting over after 8 years. And with the bedrooms, we'll just shift things around.

Now, I had my last shot in November, so it's already worn off. But now the doctor says I can get pregnant even before having a period. So I think I'll test just to be safe next week, and then every 4 weeks until my cycle is back on track. Last week I only had some brown discharge...

Hi hi, the weekend is almost over already, it goes by so fast, right?

That's not bad at all for your daughter to get her period at 9; that's early. Are you finding it hard? I had a moment where I was so overwhelmed that I thought all my attention should go to him.

Well, 1.5 years on the injection and then your period comes back so quickly—that's really fast. When I read horror stories online, I get scared, but I've only had it twice. In November, so that was the last time.
So just wait calmly...

You guys probably have to do some shifting to make some space, right? You always need that. We're doing some shifting here too, but hey, we still have 9 months, wow...

When is your due date?

How lovely, Anouk! I went to the household fair on Thursday. It was so nice to have a day away, and there was a pasar malam too, which was really fun.
But it sounds pretty intense for your daughter, wow. It's good that you have a network with agencies, and cooperation with the school is very important. I hope she finds it a bit easier as time goes on.

I totally relate to how, when the topic of babies comes up, your ovaries seem to leave the building hahaha.
It's starting to feel more real now. I had some red bleeding this morning, so I hope I'll get my period now, that would be amazing. If it gets regular again...

Fingers crossed for you in two weeks, exciting!!

One and one is two, obviously, or am I missing something? Are you Bessie from the Viva forum?! I can't log in there, and after 20 attempts it finally works, and then I've missed so much.

The Household Fair was also my first time for me, but I really enjoyed it. I also took a little walk by the 9-month fair, hehe...

Wow, what a coincidence, haha! Nice though. I do think it's a shame that the forum often doesn't work well or maybe it's overloaded, I don't know.

No period here either, though it's weird. I did have some bleeding a week before I was supposed to get my next shot, but I guess that's not a period. I do have a lot of cramps and back pain. I'm going to test this afternoon, so I can rule that out. I also had to go for a mammogram. Luckily, everything was fine, but the doctor said I have a lot of milk ducts in both breasts.

Well, we'll just have to wait and see...

Just a quick update: no need to get tests because that stomachache wasn’t for nothing—I really got my period. It really broke through, wow, pretty fast, huh? I’m super happy about it. My husband and son were on a trip, but they’re coming back the day after tomorrow. What timing, hihi...