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Gender determination experience
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Amy #2
No, I don’t have any experience with that. Personally, I also think it’s taking things too far. I can understand if you’re, for example, a carrier of a hereditary disease that occurs in one of the sexes, like Duchenne. But to do this just because you have a preference for a certain sex? No, I find that scary. Where does the line get drawn then?
I do understand your thought process, that you have a preference for one or the other.
But is this actually allowed in the Netherlands, or do you move to another country? -
Anonymous Guest #3
No, this is illegal in the Netherlands. It used to be allowed in Belgium. Now you have to go to Cyprus or the Czech Republic. It's quite a distance, but I'm willing to make the trip. -
Beertje #4
Why would you want to do that?
I also feel it's a different story in case of hereditary diseases. Even then, I feel something inside me rebels. I felt that too with the 20-week ultrasound and the choice to terminate the pregnancy. With abortion because it doesn't work out. There has to be a damn good reason to have to make and be allowed to make those choices, I think. -
kruimel #5
As the above anonymous poster says; you really need a damn good reason to do that, otherwise in my eyes you're not worth having children. So in case of serious congenital abnormalities or diseases for a certain sex I say Yes, but otherwise... I'll just keep that to myself. -
Anonymous Guest #6
Hmm, people are reacting pretty extremely here, but I just read that in America, parents undergoing IVF can choose which embryo gets transferred, and 80% choose a girl. Preference is indeed a bit taboo in the Netherlands, but if you're willing to travel that far so you can choose the gender yourself, then go for it. Don't let what others think bother you. Apparently, the gender is really important to you for whatever reason. A baby isn't nothing; avoid ending up with regrets. What does your partner think? Good luck! -
:-) #7
Even though this topic is from 7 months ago...
My opinion: disgusting!
We should be happy that if we can't just have kids anymore, we can go to the mom. But a healthy woman who plays God through others?!
Twist in your head! Even if you have 5 sons or 10 daughters! That's not up to us! -
madelene #8
Taboo? What do you mean? -
kruimel #9
102202, this is about consciously choosing to transfer an embryo of a specific sex, not because one sex has a higher chance of diseases/disorders, but simply because the other sex is more appealing.
I think this should stay well within the taboo zone.. -
Blondie Guest #10
Dear little anonymous one..
The choice is entirely up to you! I'd go for it!
May I ask how old you are?
Greetings, Blobdie -
Blondie #11
I'm curious if you've made a choice yet. I'd love to hear from you, I don't know if you can answer privately? -
Marlies #12
It seems like a weird idea to me that you'd know beforehand, and I might feel guilty because it seems like I don't love the baby unconditionally. (The condition is, after all, a specific sex.)
But beyond that, I wouldn't worry too much about what other people say. This is your life and you need to live it. You're the one who has to take care of the baby, not them.
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Mama1987 Guest #13
Hi, I’d love to get in touch with you! I totally get how you feel
and I’m curious about how you’re doing right now. Maybe we could share experiences? -
Hoi123 Guest #14
Why is there a taboo on gender selection?
Two men can have a child together,
single mothers can have a child.
As a result, the child doesn't always have a fair chance in life. Bullying/only one parent.
If a healthy man and woman with a good relationship want to determine the gender of their child, doesn't anyone benefit from that? -
Eefje #15
I also think it's going way too far, and maybe your child will turn out to be transgender, which would really be tough for you guys, haha!! -
Anonymous Guest #16
It shouldn't be taboo. Having a gender preference for any reason should be okay. I have 3 daughters myself and would do anything to have a boy. Not because I don't love my girls dearly—I love them with all my heart—but I really want both genders. How cool is that? If you have the chance. -
Eefje #17
I think we just want too much in this society. Be happy with three healthy daughters and maybe a 4th boy or girl. If you can choose everything via DNA, it's pretty weird, isn't it?
But I wish you all the best in another country. I'm just glad that the Netherlands isn't participating in this and also recognizes the seriousness of it. -
Mama87 Guest #18
Hello ladies, are there any mums active here? I'd really like to chat about this topic. I'm incredibly grateful for my two lovely boys, and I love them more than words can say. But I also have a very strong desire to have a daughter. My boys are now 5 and 3, and now the feeling of whether or not to have a third child is starting to come up.
My eldest son has autism, and that's really quite challenging. Boys express it very differently than girls might, which could also play a role.
I'm fully aware that any child you're blessed with is simply wonderful. But this longing for a daughter runs so deep. You don't choose it; it just happens to you.
Warm regards, a mum of two tough guys. -
Anoniem Guest #19
Hi ladies, is anyone still here? I'd love to connect with other moms about this topic.
Thanks! -
mama_elke #20
I think you should let nature take its course. You should be so happy that you can get pregnant naturally, no matter what the gender is!!
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