Pregnant and now?

Hi

I don't know how you're viewing the pregnancy, but first of all, congratulations..

The only thing you need to do (if you live in the NL at least) is find a midwife near you..
Once you've found one that you like, you can make an appointment for an intake consultation and an ultrasound. From that consultation, everything will naturally become clear about how and what will happen next and what you need to arrange.

If you want clarity sooner, you could make an appointment with your GP. He/she can also give you information on what to pay attention to and possibly recommend a midwife.

What you should also do best (not mandatory, but desirable) is to go buy a jar of folic acid at a pharmacy/drugstore. This is to prevent certain abnormalities in the baby.

Hope this helps you, if you have any further questions, feel free to ask!

Good luck xkruimel

Oh, that's great! Then you don't need to do anything else for now, except keep an eye on what you eat and do, and get used to the idea, of course Everything will be fine.

And yes, if you have 3 positive tests, you are indeed pregnant.

Xkruimel

Congratulations on your pregnancy! You mentioned that you were quite startled, and you're still young. If you foresee any practical issues, such as with studies, finances, or housing, it's best to seek specific help for these. Ask your midwife; they can definitely point you to some resources.

Yeah Edith, you're right, it was definitely not planned. My boyfriend is 18 and I'm 20. We do live together, but financially we're not doing great. We're keeping the baby because it's warmly welcome, but I'm really scared about possible complications.

Well, being startled that you're pregnant is one thing, but the anxieties that follow are actually much more unpleasant! Every pregnant woman has them!
It does sometimes happen that the heartbeat isn't detected at the first ultrasound, that's really crappy (even when a pregnancy might not have been planned), but the only thing you can do is calmly wait and hope for the best. Your age doesn't really say anything here, unless you're above a certain age. Eating and living healthily and not too much stress is the most important thing..

Furthermore, it's an intake interview about your (medical) background, living situation, relationship, etc., etc., and you'll get tips and brochures about the pregnancy.
You also need to inform your insurance that you're pregnant and you should/can apply for maternity care, but whether it's mandatory, I don't know. But you can discuss all of that during that interview.
Just like the points Edith mentioned, if applicable, of course

For now; take it easy and count down to December 4th!

W.r.t. kids and finances: a baby/young child doesn't have to be expensive at all. Most necessities you can buy second-hand (or get, ask around your circle). The baby is automatically insured with you or your partner for medical costs. Store-brand diapers work fine. And if you breastfeed, the food for your baby costs absolutely nothing (except maybe you eating a bit more yourself ). Once they start solid food, you can easily do it without jars - basically, you can let a baby eat from your own normal food from six months onwards - just without salt/spices until their first birthday.
What's the hardest part is arranging childcare while you yourselves are studying or working. That's obviously not free if it's not done by parents/family members, and that's by far the biggest expense. So hopefully you can find something in your informal network or with professional (budgeting) help. Because especially if you're still studying, it's really important to finish that.