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hoiGuest ·
My partner and I have decided to try for a baby. I'm taking my last pill tomorrow and was wondering if many of you waited a few cycles first or if you went for it right away. According to my GP, it doesn't matter and the ultrasound will help determine how far along you are. But isn't it better to wait until your cycle is back on track?

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  1. madelene #2

    Hi, I don't have any personal experience with this since I've never taken the pill. But my mother did, and she never stopped taking it with the intention of avoiding pregnancy—she just got pregnant after 3 months of stopping. But I think some women do it just because you don't know exactly how far along you are at that point. Otherwise, it doesn't really matter. I'd just start trying right away instead of waiting to "detox" from the pill.

    Best, Madelene

  2. hoi started this #3

    I can't really wait anymore haha
    It's all quite nerve-wracking.
    I've been taking folic acid for a week now, and tonight I'll take my last pill.
    I think it's really important that all my hormones from the pill are out of my system—I feel like it'd be bad for the baby. Or is that nonsense?

  3. kruimel #4

    Hi hi

    Those hormones are out of your body right away, so no need to worry about that.
    "Stopping the pill" isn't really the right term for it. The pill leaves your system so quickly; it just sometimes takes a little while for your own hormones to get back in order. Some people don't have any issues, while others have to wait half a year for their cycle to become a bit regular.
    You can start trying for a baby right away, but don't expect too much in the first 2 or 3 months, and don't freak out right away if your cycle is longer than the standard 28 days..

    My tip: Just dutifully take your folic acid, have regular sex, and keep track of the days. Don't start with ovulation tests or temperature tracking right away; that doesn't do your peace of mind any favors and causes a lot of stress. You can always try those things later.

    Good luck and hopefully you'll be pregnant soon!

    Xkruimel

  4. hoi started this #5

    Hi Crumb,

    I also find it all getting quite nerve-wracking now. I’ve been taking antidepressants for years, and I’ve completely stopped a week ago. Also because of wanting to have kids. I find it pretty scary too. How will it feel later on when you have a child? Will your life change a lot? And childbirth seems pretty scary to me.

  5. hoi started this #6

    that's all I'm wondering about

  6. Yvonne #7

    Hi everyone, I stopped taking the pill in May and started trying right away. Two days ago I took a test: positive. So yeah, just keep doing your thing and wait and see.

  7. madelene #8

    Hi, it is indeed exciting, especially because it's the first time, of course. I have 2 kids myself, and you asked if your life changes a lot because of it. Yes, your life changes, but it's a wonderful experience to become a mother. People often say I'll wait for the right moment, but there's never a right moment. The decision to want to become a mother should come from your heart; there's no right moment for that. Of course, you need to consider certain things when starting a family, but it's all worth it. Good luck, and I hope you get pregnant soon.

    Greetings, Madelene

  8. Anonymous Guest #9

    Hi Yvonne,

    Congratulations, that's super.

    Hi Madelene,

    One moment I can't wait to get pregnant, it seems amazing to share something so special with my partner. And on the other hand, you think, can I handle all of this? I think it's just the nerves. And I want everything to be perfect. For example, I've been taking folic acid for a week now, but I wonder if that's long enough, because the leaflet says you should take it for at least 4 weeks before you start trying to conceive.

  9. madelene #10

    Hi, it's already really good that you're being so conscious and healthy during your pregnancy. Folic acid is always good, and definitely now until you're pregnant so the baby will already be in a healthy body. Yes, try not to stress too much; you're already doing healthy things, which is the most important part, and avoid stress, try at least. And eat two pieces of fruit per day, also very important when you're pregnant later. And preferably avoid fizzy drinks, moderate with those, better to have healthy fruit juice, then you're already quite far. Further, try not to worry too much, it will happen as it happens. And yes, your life changes in the sense that you can't just go out anymore and more of that sort of thing; you have to take into account that the first years will definitely consist of your child, so if you feel ready for that, you can choose to become a mother. Wishing you lots of success and stay positive; thoughts have power, whoever thinks positively automatically attracts positive things into their life. Greetings, Madelene

  10. hoi started this #11

    But isn't it true that you need to take folic acid for at least 4 weeks before trying to get pregnant?

  11. B. Guest #12

    It's recommended, but not mandatory. There are plenty of women who get pregnant unexpectedly and don't start taking folic acid right away, yet still have healthy babies.
    But it's great that you've already started. If you get pregnant now, every little bit helps

  12. Yvonne #13

    Just realized I forgot to take my folic acid... I always take it in the morning. Is this a problem?

  13. hoi started this #14

    I don't take my folic acid at fixed times, usually between meals. I think it doesn't matter when you take it as long as you do.

  14. Yvonne #15

    Thanks, I'll just quickly take a look now.

  15. madelene #16

    Hi, I'll give you that you do need a lot of patience when you become a mother and have a baby, and being flexible is very important.
    I also used to think before I had kids, when I saw some parents, that I would never do that, for example, giving a slap and definitely not raising my voice in public in a full supermarket or giving a slap to my little girls. I always thought that first of all, you don't solve anything with a slap, and secondly, you unconsciously teach your child that slapping is okay, so they might be more likely to hit another child when they're angry because you're sending the message that talking isn't necessary but hitting is okay.
    But that's what I always thought and still think, and I don't raise my daughters that way either.
    So that was a long story, but I just wanted to say that you're already a good mother-to-be if you're already thinking so consciously about motherhood and taking care of your health.
    Greetings, Madelene

  16. Hoi Guest #17

    Hi hi,

    Yeah, I kind of agree with you. Talking it out works better than punishment. Supernanny uses that on TV too, I think it’s good: at the third warning, the kid goes to timeout and stays there for 1 minute per year of age. Then they have to say they’re sorry and promise not to do it again, and then they can play again. But it also depends on how old the child is.

    I’m generally quite patient and very flexible.

    Recently I saw somewhere that a child didn’t want to drink, and the mom started threatening: “If you don’t drink, you’re not going to school tomorrow.” And I thought, that’s probably the worst thing you can say to a child—they’re going to school anyway! Threatening them with that seems really bad to me. Imagine if the child doesn’t like school anyway; they might think, “Fine, I won’t drink, and we’ll see what kind of fuss it’ll cause the next day when they still have to go to school.” With stuff like that, you often think about how you’d handle it.

    The tricky part about being pregnant, I think, is knowing when you’re doing it right. There are so many rules you want to follow, so that if something happens with your child later, you feel like you didn’t do anything wrong.

  17. irms Guest #18

    hey hi

    we decided to go for a 2nd baby when our son turned 1. we're now in round 5 and waiting for my period. I had a very weird cycle with my first baby, it took 3 months to get pregnant.
    so we'll wait and see. exciting, right? I usually have 30-day cycles, but the last one was 39 days, which is so strange, and now it's been more than 30 days again. I've decided to take a test at the end of the week.

  18. madelene #19

    Hi irms, we went 3 weeks before my oldest daughter's first birthday for the second one. I was pregnant within 2 months.
    With my first, it took longer.
    I’d still test, it takes some of the nerves out of it.
    Greetings, Madelene

  19. madelene #20

    Hi, indeed it's weird and I personally think it's bad to threaten with that—it's a very strange way to communicate with your child. But yeah, I let everyone be themselves, I just personally find it very strange. And indeed, as you say, the child will just resist and not drink if they don't want to go to school, for example. I never make a big deal out of it either; drinking and eating should stay fun, so I turn it into a little game or distract the child with something. But threatening or forcing them to drink is never the way to go with your child, I think. As for doing well during pregnancy, I ate fruit every day, didn't drink soda, and paid attention to what I ate. Then I mean eating enough vegetables, well, we actually always eat that. So then you're already doing well. Greetings, Madelene

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