toddler phase?

The above comment is obviously nonsense. This must be really frustrating as a parent. I don't have kids myself yet, but I do work with children as a social pedagogue. It does sound like toddler puberty. Sometimes it helps to say what you're doing and do what you say. For example: "I'm making you a nice sandwich, now the butter and then the ham.." I believe that hysterical crying is often a test to see how much control the child can get over situations. As a parent, it's important to take back control. Make a fixed agreement on what to do if they cry (in that way) and stick to it together. For example, put them in the box, and even if they hold out for an hour, try to give as little attention as possible. When she's calmed down, give her attention by cuddling etc. This way she learns that screaming isn't the way to get attention. It's very important that you take turns and persist. But again, I don't have my own kids and it's easy to talk. I only apply this method at work, which means I'm naturally more neutral about it. Wishing you lots of strength and success with it!

Hey Mendy,

I agree with Muus86. I also do everything as a game when I have to get something ready for my son, brush his teeth, or even worse, clean his nose—something he really hates. Now he even says, "Come on, snot-nose, blow your nose!"

When it started with my son, I already knew what to expect. I have many nieces and nephews, and children of friends, so I was somewhat prepared.

When he became hysterical, I would just say, "Oh, what's wrong? Why are you crying?" Then it would sometimes get worse. But then I'd say (with a heavy heart, of course), "Yes, Alessio, cry all you want." I let him have his meltdown. At first, it lasted 10 minutes, but I didn't give him attention. From 10 minutes, it dropped to 1 minute, and then he stopped and came into my arms because apparently, he didn't like that I wasn't paying attention!

And I managed it! Now he hardly does it anymore, only sometimes, and it lasts very short. Sometimes I say, "I'm putting you in your box, you're punished," and he quickly sits obediently!

It will be okay, really. It's a bit tough at first, but just bite the bullet for a little while.

Greetings

Oh that's indeed quite a challenge. But I also think it's best to stay consistent and not give in, no matter how hard it gets. That doesn't mean ignoring her.
For example, if your daughter says she wants cheese on her bread and you make her a slice of cheese toast, but then she cries because she wants sausage instead, she'll have to eat at least half of the cheese toast. She needs to learn that unfortunately, she can't always get her way.
But for you, this is indeed a tough battle. Remember, it's just a phase, and I always say that sometimes having to hear "no" is nothing but good for a child.
Good luck, and every parent goes through something like this. Greetings, J.

Thanks for your replies..we really appreciate it! :-)
Sometimes it's so frustrating that it's nice to hear tips from others about how they experienced or viewed it.
I think the box is a good idea, maybe she can rest there a bit (she's already in it now) but now she also regularly hangs on our legs at those moments and you quickly pick her up..it's a bit of gritting teeth I think ha ha but I'm happy to do it! I'll also involve her more in things like eating the sandwich.

Thank you so much! Your messages really do me good :-)

Love

You're welcome, Mendy! How are things now? Hopefully, she'll get past this phase soon

Actually, it was a good day. We were out a lot and she was super cheerful, and I enjoyed it too! Now it's time for bed and she's crying her eyes out... while normally she doesn't have a problem with bedtime. So maybe she's not feeling 100% or... we'll wait and see. :-) Haha, but we'll definitely keep your tips in mind!

Love,

No matter how hard it is to accept, it's part of being a toddler, and it gets less frequent as they get older. Every toddler has this kind of behavior; it's completely normal—that's what toddlers are for. Actually, no matter how difficult it is, the most important thing is to have patience and show it to your toddler. Because what makes it even worse is if they feel your stress and impatience. As parents, you should help them get through these episodes because they need help with it. Often, it's unconscious; a toddler is already aware of themselves, but it seems like they aren't really conscious of their mood swings. It catches a toddler off guard too, and they don't know how to deal with those emotions. They can't process everything like we can, so it comes out in tantrums or unpleasant moods. But try to stay calm so they don't feel your impatience or stress in such situations. It's not easy, I know. Usually, I try to redirect her thoughts to something else, for example, I give her a game on my phone, and then she sometimes forgets her mood swing. Every parent goes through this; it's part of it. Good luck with it, greetings, Madelene.