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Had sex with two people, one safe and one not.
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ikke1987 #2
Hey anon,
it's possible you didn't actually get your period, that happens more often. You'll have to figure out who the father is yourself. Good luck and strength, girl x -
annoniempje Guest #3
Thanks for your reply. I find it really scary and silly of me that I can't really be happy about it. -
annoniempje Guest #4
Nobody knows. It's eating me alive. I'm 30, have a 6-year-old daughter, and now this little one. This was never meant to happen. I hurt my man so much, I thought I'd let him feel how it feels. I didn't even find it enjoyable; it was pure anger. And now I have a problem. I'm going crazy. I can't enjoy anything anymore. -
annoniempje Guest #5
We've been together for 13 years, married for 3. Yes, the little one is already a year old, but I can't enjoy it because it's constantly on my mind. It's not fair to my child, nor to my husband. I'm also really scared about what will happen, and things could go badly – that's also one of the reasons I don't dare to say anything to anyone. But I just can't keep holding it in anymore. I snap at my daughter, at him too. It's a rotten situation, really. -
annoniempje Guest #6
I don't know whose kid it is. It's been about two and a half weeks since the first person. I had my period on July 24th and had an ultrasound on October 24th, which showed I was 11 weeks pregnant. That would put my conception date around August 8th. No, he doesn't know because I don't know. The test is so expensive, and we have a joint bank account, so I'd just be wasting that much money. What should I say to him? He's cheated on me many times, but being in love makes you blind. I've caught him so many times. I thought, if he can do it, I can do it too. I've drunk a lot, but I felt just as sorry for myself as I did for him. Self-respect. -
ikke1987 #7
So he thinks it's his kid. In this case, I'd try my best to say nothing, no matter how hard it is. I get that you did what you did; I think I would've done the same out of anger. But I think you need to think about what you want for your future. Answer these questions for yourself: Am I still in love? Do I want to forgive him again and again? How will this affect our kids? What will they see? Can you live happily with your husband if you forgive yourself? If not, can you just move on on your own with the kids? Take your time to think this over, and if you need anything, I'll try to help by listening. Love, -
annoniempje Guest #8
Ok, thank you. Yes, how sad it is, he is so happy and the kids are used to him and can do without him, but I love him very much, really very much. We had plans to grow old together and he ruined that with lies and cheating. Until I, out of anger, didn't even want to... did what he did and is now even deeper in trouble than he already was. I live day by day, even though it's very hard, but it could also be that I'm imagining things because I know I didn't do anything unsafe unless he did something in between and my period was short, 5 days and not much. I'm also on the pill, that was my break, but very nice that you responded and I'm a bit relieved that it's not in my head, but I could also write and got a response back, thanks. -
ikke1987 #9
If you haven't done anything unsafe, the chance is really super small. I don't think you should feel guilty or awful about it then. I think it's probably your husband's baby!
Take some rest and look at how well your baby is doing. Maybe that will make it easier for you! Love
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