Pregnancy wish & frustrations

Hi hi Stay Calm,

Apart from your changed cycle, I totally relate to your story!!
I would indeed also start using ovulation tests. That gave me a lot of peace of mind. I was sure we had a chance every month, and that lifted my spirits so much.
I also had a couple of times where I dared to swear I was pregnant. I had two miscarriages before this pregnancy, so we ended up trying for a year and a half.

One more question for yourself: when did you stop the pill? Your changed cycle might be related to that. Some women don't have issues with coming off the pill, others for a year. Maybe there's an explanation for that, since the pill also pushes you into a 28-day cycle.

Something funny: I sometimes also had the feeling (even during the month): this month it's going to work. Or: this month nothing will happen. I hoped to get my period quickly so we could move on to the next one. This was the case with my second AND third pregnancies. I didn't test until 3 days late because my boyfriend convinced me. I was sure I was NOT pregnant. Well, obviously :-D And then I also had months where I really had to vomit and had sore breasts, while I was just getting my period. So to say: my body was also mercilessly fooling me. In the end, you don't know and you have to wait and see. I got really annoyed with people who said: you just shouldn't think about it. Rrrrr like that's so easy. The only thing that helped me was doing fun things and finding distractions. Then letting go happened naturally.

Good luck in the coming time!
Greetings, Wens

Hi! I totally relate to this. I stopped the pill in October 2013. The first three times I got my period after that were all "regular," with cycles of 25-29 days. The next time it took 71 days (April 3rd). And now, I'm still waiting. I read everywhere that your period can be very irregular in the first half-year, and being impatient as I am, I've already been to the doctor, who of course also told me it's a matter of waiting. I was really focused on it at first, and now I'm trying to let it go a bit. But that's easier said than done. I'm also wondering if I should take a test, because I've been really stressed the past few weeks, and I think that might be delaying my period. Right now, I'm also home with quite a bad cold, which could also be a reason for the delay.

In short, I'm also really frustrated because my body isn't functioning the way I'd like it to right now!

(By the way, it's logical, of course—I took the pill continuously for over 10 years before, so I understand that my body needs to adjust. It's just that waiting is so frustrating!)

I totally get it. We've been trying for a year now, and every month is nerve-wracking again. All I can think about is that maybe this month we'll really be pregnant! Unfortunately, it's another disappointment every month. My friend sometimes says, 'why don't you stop worrying about it so much?' This is truly an impossible task. Especially when there are people around me who are pregnant. That always makes it even harder.

It's impossible to say: 'I'm not going to think about it anymore'. That's really BS and it just doesn't work out that way. I planned as many fun things as possible, which helped me feel better in my own skin. Because of this, our desire for a child was no longer the most important thing.

What I also find so serious is when people say: You're too focused on it, that's why it's not working out. As if you're even to blame for it yourself!! It shouldn't get any worse than that.

Anyway, know that I'm living with you and trying to draw hope from my story, namely that I'm now 19 weeks pregnant. I hope you'll get there soon too.

I totally relate to this.
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