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new relationship/pregnant after a violent relationship..
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Hi everyone.
I have a son who's almost four. I've been apart from my ex (the father of my child) for a little over a year and a half. We broke up because there was domestic and emotional abuse. The relationship lasted over ten years. It took a long time for me to leave that relationship. And afterwards, I had to work hard on myself because my self-esteem was zero/none.
Now I've been in a relationship with a lovely man for almost 9 months. Unfortunately, I often compare situations. Even though I absolutely don't want to.
I'm almost 11 weeks pregnant but so insecure. I think this comes from my previous relationship.
Does anyone know this? Because I'm going crazy from the insecurity. It's breaking me down. I don't want to be led by my ex anymore because he's used me like a puppet for so many years! Not literally now, but still.
And besides, it's unfair to my new relationship. He's doing his best but he's also struggling with this!
Do you have any advice..?
I have a son who's almost four. I've been apart from my ex (the father of my child) for a little over a year and a half. We broke up because there was domestic and emotional abuse. The relationship lasted over ten years. It took a long time for me to leave that relationship. And afterwards, I had to work hard on myself because my self-esteem was zero/none.
Now I've been in a relationship with a lovely man for almost 9 months. Unfortunately, I often compare situations. Even though I absolutely don't want to.
I'm almost 11 weeks pregnant but so insecure. I think this comes from my previous relationship.
Does anyone know this? Because I'm going crazy from the insecurity. It's breaking me down. I don't want to be led by my ex anymore because he's used me like a puppet for so many years! Not literally now, but still.
And besides, it's unfair to my new relationship. He's doing his best but he's also struggling with this!
Do you have any advice..?
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Iza #2
That’s so great of you to start anew, both for yourself and your little boy! I can totally imagine that you keep comparing the new situation to the old one. It takes time, and you’ll probably need some support. Would it be a good idea to talk to a psychologist about this? They can help you keep the situations separate and make sure you don’t react the same way you did in the old, difficult situation. Wishing you lots of success, and try to enjoy your new happiness too! You deserve it
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