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Low on cash and summer vacation

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@Anoniem 1,

First off, it's nice that you want to share all this with us here on Brabbels. Every woman or man, with or without kids, is warmly welcome here as long as you treat everyone with respect. By the way, this is closely monitored by Brabbels (Jackelien), and we also keep a close eye on what's going on and stay alert...

You don't have it easy, woman, with 4 kids. I also miss the child support just like Anoniem 2.
You can't help but make it clear to your children that things are different now since you're no longer with papa. Your eldest son, who only wants branded clothes, should probably ask his dad for that. He has 3000 euros, and you have 150—is that per month or per week?
Can't you take a course or something similar, maybe related to childcare?
Maybe something through the social services? Just throwing out a suggestion.
Maybe you could become a babysitter or something like that.
As for your 14-year-old son, he can definitely contribute a bit, especially since he wants to wear branded clothes...
People's comments can sometimes be really mean and hard to understand...
I hope you regain your strength soon and get what you're entitled to.
Definitely seems like it regarding child support.

Greetings, Ju and if so, MavanMi

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  1. Anoniem Guest #2

    Thanks for your kind replies!
    I would really, really like to get some child support every month, even if it's just a little bit, but my ex is 'untraceable'. I think he went to Turkey himself; his sister moved there 3 years ago. Unfortunately, no one can really do anything more for us regarding the child support.
    150 euros is what I have to spend on food (and other things) per month, unfortunately not per week. This is so little because of the debts from the previous house and some items that my ex used to pay for normally, which I now have to pay off. I have to pay a large amount every month towards that. I've already sold all the luxury items (2 TVs, 2 laptops, my car, etc.) just to have at least something for emergencies. Although almost nothing is left of that emergency fund, the kids really need a jacket, for example. And shoes!

    I'm currently busy looking for work in a call center, where I would earn 10 euros per hour! If that doesn't work out, I'd really like to become a babysitter.
    I had a good talk with my eldest son yesterday. I told him he needs to get a job if he wants a phone and branded clothes. No discussion possible!
    After that, he walked away angry and disappointed, and then I feel guilty again.
    Meanwhile, he was brought back by the police, he was fighting in the street! Now he's busy making money by washing cars, so he was useful for something after all!

    Kind regards,

  2. Anoniem Guest #3

    There are some nice things on this website

    http://www.dagjeweg.nl/nieuwsredactie/11749/Gratis%20uitstapjes?gclid=CNigoPfqnbgCFYGz3godeVYAaQ

    Also, but I guess your oldest son probably wouldn't find that fun.. but I'm going to the longest vegetarian table on Friday. You can join for free and they're trying to break the record

    http://www.vegetariers.nl/agenda/vrijdag-12-juli-langste-vegetarische-tafel

    And by the way, don't worry, anything can happen to anyone. People don't always think about it, but anyone can end up in the hospital overnight!
    moedernatuur

    Thanks for the site! There are a lot of nice little things there, unfortunately many of them are quite far away and then it still costs too much money.
    The buffet sounds lovely! but unfortunately Amsterdam is 1.5 hours by train, and that's also not affordable!
    Thanks for your sweet message!

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