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When can I get pregnant again?
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We really want a second child and would also like them not to be too far apart in age, so they can play nicely together.
So my question is whether it's wise to get pregnant now or if I should wait a bit. Who can help me?
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Anonymous Guest #2
Actually, you can get pregnant right now, though the chances aren't that high. It's a myth that you can't get pregnant while breastfeeding. It's definitely possible :-)
If you feel ready to get pregnant, I'd just go for it! -
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Mmetje Guest #3
My cycle came back after just three months, even though I breastfed until 9 months. Breastfeeding isn't contraception, and you can definitely get pregnant. Keep in mind that the time between 1 and 2 years is very intensive, and it can be tough to walk around with a big belly. But hey, a small age gap is also really nice.
I got pregnant again when my daughter was 18 months old; she was already walking on her own and becoming more independent in little activities. Really nice! Good luck with your decision! :-) -
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Anonymous Guest #4
The best thing is to wait 9 months before getting pregnant again, to avoid complications for your next pregnancy. But in principle, you can get pregnant right away if you're trying. -
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Mama_Loontje #5
You can definitely get pregnant right away, especially if you've just given birth.
I found my second pregnancy quite tough because my little one wasn't a walk in the park. My daughter couldn't walk yet and had to be carried a lot, which is something that's actually discouraged. I'd say wait until your child can walk before considering another pregnancy. If your pregnancy isn't going well, that's definitely a reason to take it easy. -
Olivia-Anna #6
A friend of mine got pregnant right after giving birth!!
She never even had a period..
Because of that, her milk supply stopped immediately.
And I just heard from another friend that she's pregnant again and her daughter is only 5 months old!!!
I think if you really want it, you should go for it!
You've probably already decided if you can handle it..
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felicia Guest #7
my daughters are 1 year and 9 months apart. I consciously wanted it to seem nice if they didn't have too big of an age gap with their brother or sister. I myself am 13 years older than my sister and didn't want that for my own kids. I completely underestimated how hard it would be. It seemed so beautiful at the start, every... my daughter was 10 months old and I thought it would be nice to start when she turned 1 because I wanted to catch up on my sleep deficit first. She slept through the night when she was 3 months old, which was lovely. I wanted to enjoy that for a bit, which is why I waited until she turned 1. Then I thought, I'll start a few weeks before she turns 1, so to speak, so be it. I got pregnant with the second one 3 weeks before her first birthday. Then my belly started growing and Yara, my daughter, started running and wanting to grab everything. Terrible. Every morning with the nausea, and then you can't even lie down because you have a 1-year-old daughter who destroys everything and pulls everything out of the drawers. So busy, how busy she was. She was 1 year and 5 months old. I had it tough. I had a super big belly and a busy, screaming, running child who also just ran off outside. I had to run after her with my big belly. How hard that was. I saw every day as a mountain. She was still too small to understand that there was a baby in my belly, which was sad and quite a pity that you don't consciously experience those unique phases. For example, if she learned something new, why not consciously? It just passed you by. It was just surviving the day, surviving, because you were too nauseous or had too much pain from your big belly and back pain to notice those beautiful things from my daughter. Now, thinking back on it, it hurts inside. Because of that, I had much less attention for Yara, who was also so small and had a right to a mother who was there for her with her full attention. But because of the pregnancy nausea and pregnancy fatigue, Yara got much less attention than she deserved as a little child. It happened that I forced her to sleep, so sad. She cried and screamed, but I wouldn't let her go. I held her so she stayed lying down to sleep, I said, even though she wasn't tired. Crying, screaming, she eventually fell asleep after a long fight. I couldn't do anything else because I couldn't sleep otherwise myself, and I needed my afternoon nap because taking care of her and my big belly, I collapsed. -
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felicia Guest #8
I was so lucky to have a calm, sweet baby in October. She was born on October 13, 2010. Lemia, and my oldest turned 2 on January 31, 2010. I was sooo happy that she was such a calm baby. Incredible! She only cried to drink or for a clean diaper. Truly a baby from a movie. That was quite different with my first daughter. She was hyper and had way too much energy. I was preparing myself for the worst, but got a calm baby. They also differ so much in character. One is hyper, the other very calm. By the way, I breastfed after the birth. My mom took care of the oldest, so I could focus on the baby and thus breastfeed well. It was so relaxing that my mom took care of the oldest for the first 3 years. That way, I had all the time to get to know my daughter. -
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felicia Guest #9
so don't underestimate it, 2 little kids -
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felicia Guest #10
I really underestimated how tough it is with such a small age gap. I forgot to think about the time when she would start walking and my belly would grow, and taking care of her while I have a big bump. I completely overlooked that. Now they are older; the oldest is 4 years and 8 months, and the youngest is 2 years and 11 months. I was 22 when I had my first, and 23 when I got pregnant with the second. I gave birth to her at 24. Now I'm 27. My advice would be to wait until the oldest is 3 or 4 before having a second child, but that's very personal, of course. -
D.C.B & G Love♥♥♥♥ #11
We already have a son who’s 6, and baby #2 is on the way. 8 weeks to go!!
My son is already totally crazy about my belly & the baby.. even though he’s not even born yet haha
We really like the age gap, our son already understands a lot and can do a lot, and he’s already going to school, grade 3.
Mom & dad can then again fully enjoy the baby... no having to run after your child with a big belly who just learned to walk etc... and when our son comes home from school, he gets all the attention again.
Everyone has their own opinion of course, but we find it really nice and these brothers will surely play together and the big brother can nicely look out for his little brother
and I’ve also heard a lot of positive stories about a bigger age gap... they find it wonderful!! -
sandra #12
I was already 13 weeks pregnant again after the birth of my first (ICSI) baby, and this time it was unplanned and spontaneous. This time, the baby was definitely wanted, but still unexpected. So I had to be careful. I ended up having two babies within a year. -
chantal26 #13
I was pregnant for a bit over 3 months, but unfortunately it ended in a miscarriage. Then a month later, I got pregnant again, and now I'm almost 15 weeks along. It's tough, but with your partner's support, everything will be okay. Our daughter is almost 8 months old now, so she'd be around 14 months if the baby is born. -
D.C.B & G Love♥♥♥♥ #14
Yeah... as you can see, opinions on that are indeed divided, and that's a good thing, otherwise we'd all be the same haha
..I'm really glad in hindsight that my son is 6 & I could enjoy him and will enjoy the little one later.And he's already really crazy about his little brother..can hardly wait!!.And indeed that the oldest got all the attention & I didn't have to chase him around with my big belly & didn't want to burden my husband with it when he comes home from work, he already does enough for us and what he can
& is then busy enough in the new house anyway.I can't expect everything from him while he's busy with the other house before or after work, where we want to be before the birth.d so I'm glad our son is at school & can do some handywork in between and still take a nap now and then
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natacha Guest #15
I have a 9-month-old son and would really like to have a second child. I’d like to start trying in February, when my son will be 14 months old. Is that too soon? -
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loura Guest #16
Oh girl, indeed, way too early if you ask for my opinion, and I speak from experience. I have an age gap of 1 year and 9 months between my kids, just like Felicia. Oh, oh, how hard it was, especially in the first months. I completely agree with Felicia; I can totally relate to her. It could have been my story, so relatable. I cried so much and was so often stressed. My kids are a bit older now but they constantly fight. So much so that I just escape to work. I dread the weekends alone with them, even though I love them both with all my heart. They both demand so much attention from me. I really can't keep up with the housework. Those nice stories about them playing nicely together mean little; I haven't noticed any of that here. They constantly get in each other's hair because their interests are so close that they both want to play with the same thing at the same time, which leads to fights. They both still need so much care; they aren't independent yet, and that's so hard. Once you're done with daughter 1, daughter 2 is already there. You barely have time for yourself. Sometimes I lock myself in the toilet just to avoid hearing their fights. So terribly exhausting. I feel like a police officer all day long. If one was a bit older than the other, meaning a bigger age gap, you could say, "She's still little," and the older daughter would understand. But if there's little age difference, they are both equally childish. They both want to play with the same thing at the same time and demand full attention at the same time. Man, man, you're exhausted, really broken at the end of the day. When my mother sometimes takes the oldest with her, I'm alone with my youngest daughter, Madelijne. I think, "How nice, no fights around me." She plays quietly with her blocks or colors calmly without her sister Suz grabbing the felt-tip pens or arguing over who gets to draw with which pen. No, it's nice and relaxed. Only then do I realize how relaxed having one child is. So, if I may give you advice, I would keep at least 3 or 4 years between them. It's more fun for yourself and for the kids. At many moments, quite a few moments, I'm jealous of people with children with a big age gap. Even though I love my kids with all my heart, if someone had warned me, I would have definitely waited a few years for the second one. Greetings, Laura -
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liza Guest #17
and I wanted to respond too, they sometimes say it's nice to get them out of diapers quickly, one after the other, but I find that a bit nonsense because anyway you're in the toddler years for the first few years and it's called toddler years for a reason, so it feels like the first period takes forever, so forget about getting them out of diapers quickly, nothing goes fast, everything takes twice as long because they are both so attached to you. and after the diaper phase you enter the toddler phase, and double because you have two of them in that difficult phase, so no, for me that doesn't work, getting everything out quickly, for me personally it's nonsense. greetings liza -
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liza Guest #18
Sorry, by the way, for missing some letters in the sentences. I typed too fast on my mobile. My daughter was crying, so I typed quickly. I'm going to her quickly now, otherwise she'll wake up her sister with her crying. -
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teyler Guest #19
Hi Natacha, what do you mean by "starting to get pregnant again when your child is 1 year old?" -
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olga Guest #20
Your question was: when can you get pregnant again? Well, definitely shortly after the birth of your baby, because there are still pregnancy hormones in your baby's body, which is why mothers...
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