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ManonGuest ·
Hi everyone who’s still awake! I started a thread a while back about mothers-in-law.. And mine is disgusting. Always shouting that I can’t cook or clean, that I look like a hussy because I don’t wear a headscarf, asking for money every week, shouting that I’m still a baby myself so why should I have a child, I’d better give it to her.. etc etc.. Well, a few weeks ago she said yes, I’ll temporarily come live with you guys so I can help and give advice.. (while she doesn’t even speak the same language as me and I have my own mother whom I do ask for advice if needed). Luckily my husband put his foot down then and said we really don’t want that and just want to be with the two of us in the last few weeks/days.. Well, today I’m exactly 41 weeks pregnant, and I’m being induced tomorrow and we wanted to keep that secret from everyone so it would still be a bit of a surprise.. Well, the mother-in-law knows that they’re inducing you when you’re 41 weeks pregnant, well we got a call 2 hours ago from my husband’s sister yes we just put mom on the train she’ll be at yours in 2 hours (the train from Paris, we live in Brussels) she just didn’t tell anyone she was coming, and now my last evening cozy with the two of us with my husband is completely ruined and the plan to keep it secret too.. I got so angry I’m still trembling and can’t stop crying, I’m now arguing with my husband even though he really can’t do anything about it (because he didn’t know either) last evening nice with the two of us is completely ruined and that while I have to go into labor tomorrow and I also just fell not on my belly but on my bottom and back.. I don’t know if the baby is okay, what do you think? Should I go to the hospital now to have it checked or should I better just try to calm down and wait until tomorrow? I’m incredibly worried and it’s not really making me calmer.. I hope you guys understand the story a bit..
Love, Manon

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  1. mama3 #2

    Dear Manon,

    Oh wow, what a story! That doesn't sound nice at all! If you don't trust it, I'd go to the hospital! Are you still feeling the baby? Think of yourself, and if you want to go, then go to the hospital! Good luck, girl, I hope everything is okay with you!
  2. Shana #3

    I was going to go to the hospital and not let my MIL in, but yeah, that's me, you know If you say no, then it's a no. And indeed, this last evening should be for you. I'd go to the clinic; they might keep you overnight, and who knows, they might even induce you today You'd still have lovely time with your little guy without the MIL meddling, said in the nicest way possible! Good luck in advance, and let me know how it went.
  3. Ster #4

    hey girls,
    I'd call the hospital and ask if you need to come. As for your mother-in-law, I'd tell her that I don't think this is a very considerate move on her part and that I certainly don't appreciate it. Also, I'd suggest booking a hotel—you can't just show up in the middle of the night without discussing it first or at least asking if it works out.

    Wishing you all the best, girl, and strength.

    Love and hugs, Nynke
  4. Manon started this #5

    Hey girls, thanks for your replies. I'll call the hospital soon, I think. I still haven't felt the baby, and it's not really calming me down either. I really want to stop crying, but it's not working out so well. I'll take a quick look first, and if not, I'll call! Love
  5. mandy Guest #6

    Wow, what a figure. You're right, I can totally imagine that you're not looking forward to that at all. I also find it pretty brazen and inconsiderate that they're doing this behind your backs when they know you don't want them to. It should've been a nice, relaxing evening for you two. I'd talk to your husband, and maybe you should just send them away. It might be awkward and difficult, but she's not listening to your wishes either. Have you called her yet, Mandy? Stay calm, and I wish you lots of success for tomorrow—hope you have a pleasant delivery! And don't let them get to you!!

    Warm regards, Mandy
  6. mama3 #7

    Hi Manon,

    how did everything go in the end? Did you still go to the hospital? I hope everything went well! Good luck, girl, and keep us posted if you want to.
  7. kimjoy #8

    hi manon, lots of success today and I'm rooting for a good outcome! lots of strength

    kim
  8. tammi #9

    hi manon,
    i’d go to the hospital, girl.
    hope everything is okay with you and the baby.

    lots of strength and keep us posted.

    love, tammi
  9. Ster #10

    Hey,

    I just want to wish you lots of luck with the birth.
    Soon you'll have your little one in your arms.

    Love, Nynke
  10. Manon started this #11

    Hi everyone! Thanks for your sweet messages! I massaged my belly a bit with some oil yesterday, and after about fifteen minutes, he started moving nicely again. Then I talked with my husband, and we decided to make a cozy evening of it in the bedroom.. I completely ignored my mother-in-law, because I'm really done with her now.. But I'm not letting her ruin my day.. Everything's going well here, the contractions don't really hurt yet! I'll let you know when he's here ! Love
  11. mandy Guest #12

    So glad he started moving again! And you're totally right to have taken a step back; it's nice to hear it was still cozy with just the two of you. Such a tense day today... wishing you lots of success! Soon you'll have your little man in your arms!

    Love, Mandy.
  12. Manon started this #13

    Hi everyone! I gave birth this afternoon at 4:29 PM to a beautiful, big, healthy baby boy, Youssef! He weighs 4890 grams and is 55 cm long Everything else is going well, and I'm absolutely happy, despite last night.. Thanks for your kind and supportive messages—they really helped. Love, Manon & the not-so-little Youssef!
  13. Mommy-Of-Nyana #14

    What a mother-in-law! I just read it all... You're absolutely right to ignore her completely!! I would do the same! Good that your little one started moving again after your fall (luckily it wasn't on your belly!!) It was nice that you were still cozy with just the two of you in the room!!

    You've probably given birth by now, I think Hopefully everything went smoothly?? We'll hear from you soon! First, take care of yourself and your little man!!

    Lots of love
  14. Ster #15

    Hey Manon,
    CONGRATULATIONS ON YOUR SON!

    Are you still in the hospital or are you already home? In any case, enjoy your postpartum time and let yourself be pampered by your midwife and your husband.

    Wishing your whole family lots of love, happiness, and health.

    Love, Nynke
  15. Nina #16

    Hi Manon,
    Congratulations on your son! How wonderful that he’s healthy! Enjoy every moment!
    Where is your husband from? I’m married to a Moroccan man.
    Love, Carla
  16. mama3 #17

    Hi Manon,

    Congratulations on your son! It's so nice that everything went well!!!! Enjoy him!
  17. mandy Guest #18

    Hi Manon,

    That's so great to hear! Congratulations!!! Did everything go well?
    Enjoy your boys and your postpartum time.

    Love, Mandy
  18. Dani Guest #19

    CONGRATULATIONS on the little boy!!!!

    Wishing you lots of luck and hoping your mother-in-law will pack her bags and leave ASAP!!!
  19. Mommy-Of-Nyana #20

    Congratulations on your big son!!
    What a handsome little guy!! It’s nice to hear that everything is going well for you both.

    Enjoy your maternity leave and your big son to the fullest.

    Lots of love

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