Babbles
First time after giving birth
The midwife removed the stitches and said you should wait at least three weeks and also not have any more bleeding for three days before having sex again.
Did you follow that advice? I actually haven’t had any bleeding for two days now, and I’m wondering if we could have sex if it stays away until after Tuesday?
Do you have any tips for this “first time” after giving birth? I had a small tear, but it’s not too bad, though I’m a bit nervous. But I’m also looking forward to it!
Replies
-
GEMMA #2
I’d personally wait; you might also get an infection. We definitely waited and were careful. You’re extra fertile. -
Naomi started this #3
Thanks for your reply. How long would you wait then? And I heard about being extra fertile too, yeah. Don't even think about it! -
Veraaa #4
Congratulations!! And it's so nice that it's already making sense. I couldn't wrap my head around it back then, haha.
I'd stick to your midwife's advice. You really don't want any extra tearing or an infection.
Good luck with being patient!! -
GEMMA #5
Hey, I'd definitely wait until the next gynecologist visit, and if I'm not mistaken, that's 8 weeks after giving birth. Maybe difficult for you and your partner, but your body needs to recover a bit. -
Naomi started this #6
Any other girls who also waited so long?
My midwife isn't getting back to me. Basically, it's done like that. But is it different in Belgium? -
Mamsie92 #7
I'm from the Netherlands and I was also really advised to wait 6 weeks because everything needs to recover. I also really didn't even think about it after 2 weeks. -
Naomi started this #8
I think it also depends on how you're doing from the bottom up, right? I had a very small tear, how about you? -
Mamsie92 #9
I had a C-section, and they also recommend 6 weeks there, but it seems like you really want to hear that "it" is allowed after 2 weeks. That choice is up to you.
The midwife and gynecologist only give advice; you have to decide what to do with it yourself. The 6-week advice is due to infections, wounds, your uterus needing to heal, etc.
If you really can't wait any longer, that comes with risks, and you need to be aware of that. -
Anonymous Guest #10
If all goes well, you should visit the GP at 7 weeks, right? Or has that been discontinued?
I’d definitely wait another 2 weeks; it’s still a bit too early after your delivery. Your stitches have just been removed. It’s still very tender there. You don’t want it to tear again.
Also, you might start bleeding again, especially when lifting heavy things or doing more.
But ultimately, you should do what feels right for you. -
Naomi started this #11
Thanks, sweetie! I do feel like being with my husband again, but that’s also just because of the happy moments we share. You want to crown those off or something, right? I’m definitely not starting now, but I was mainly curious if those 6 weeks are really being followed up on, and it seems like they are! -
Veraaa #12
Haha! Either we're all being super good...
Or we really don't want to take any risks down under!!!
Better to wait 6 weeks than to end up at the doctor's office after 3 weeks with a bunch of trouble. I think... that's why we're going to wait after all.
Enjoy all the beautiful things!!!! -
Anonymous Guest #13
I never really stuck to that 6-week rule. I've given birth 4 times, had 2 curettages, and one miscarriage.
After a few days, the bleeding really stopped, even after a hectic day. But sometimes it starts up again. I've never had stitches though. -
Naomi started this #14
How long did you wait, Anonymous, and when did you know it was the right fit?
Add your reply
Share what helped you, or ask a question.
Sign in to join the conversation.
Continue with GoogleTakes a moment. You’ll come straight back here to reply.